Can being generous kill relationships?
Sarah says she has struggled for many years to understand why extreme or continual acts of generosity may not only fail to inspire lasting appreciation from the receiver but can lead to outright hostility.
She joins Jim to discuss 'the tyranny of the gift'.
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