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It's all too easy to write someone off as 'too much,' 'toxic' or 'a red flag' at the first sign of emotional intensity, but we forget that secure connection isn't always something you find. Sometimes, it's something you build. All secure relationships had to start somewhere, and it's a journey with undertaking. While it's true that not every relationship is meant to be held onto, many are dismissed before they've been truly explored or given the chance to evolve. In the most real sense, a healthy connection is about being willing to grow and evolve through the messiness of a relationship together, and it all starts with cultivating a little more understanding for one another. Curious how emotionally safe and seen your partner makes you feel? Take this science-backed test to find out: Perceived Responsiveness Scale
