Go for your check-ups, father with prostate cancer urges men
"If your identity is, 'I'm a man, I'm a virile man', then suddenly you're having to wear a nappy at the age of 50 and can't get an erection, it becomes like a midlife crisis," he said.
Symptoms of prostate cancer do not usually appear until the prostate is large enough to affect the tube that carries urine, according to the NHS.The disease tends to affect over-50s, and although there is not a definitive test for it, a prostate-specific antigen (PSA) test can indicate whether cancer is present.As the cancer is slow-growing, it can be there for decades before it is noticed.Television presenter Dermot Murnaghan, cyclist Chris Hoy and former US President Joe Biden are all living with prostate cancer.Mr Maggs said he was convinced into going for a routine check-up for over-40s in January 2024, after telling a nurse he urinated often.He later had to have a biopsy – which he described as "arguably the worst part" of his experience."The needle to numb you, it felt like someone was squeezing my balls, and punching me in the face at the same time," he said.
The diagnosis came back within a week. "The moment I knew was when the nurse came out and bowed her head."I was basically near to stage four, on stage three and a half – stage four is basically fatal where you need palliative care and you will die from it," he said.By the time his surgery was scheduled, he had "fallen into a sense of thinking, 'this could be it'"."I was kind of ready for the possibility," he said. "I wanted to be present and be with my family – it's a feeling that's kind of stayed with me."
'Moments that get you'
But Mr Maggs, whose children are 13, nine and eight, said nothing could have prepared him for the mental struggle after the prostate removal surgery."For some men who have never faced their demons, it's a massive wake-up call," he said.He said after the operation "there are moments that can get you". "I was less prepared for that," he said. "Your testosterone is less so there is a physical thing that affects your mental health."Mr Maggs said "quite a few of my mates and family have had a check-up" following his diagnosis and surgery. He now has a PSA check every two months and has been told his current levels and prognosis are both good.
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