Home Things Millennials Don't Care About
What really makes a place feel like home? Well, it depends on who you're talking to. Reddit user danny_deefs recently asked Millennials, "What are things about your home you don't care about as much as previous generations?" Here's what people had to say:
"My mother-in-law is always asking what the theme of my kitchen is. I don't know, cooking?"
"Having a formal dining room. This was weirdly a big thing for my parents and grandparents. A room we only used for holidays seemed wasteful to me. The table and the bar in the kitchen work just fine."
"The lawn. I do not give a flying f--k about the lawn."
"My mom mopped multiple times a day. I struggle to mop and sweep even weekly."
"My house doesn't have to be spotless, or even clean at all times. If it insults you, feel free to come clean it."
"Dusting. I felt like there was zero dust at my house as a kid, and I just do not have the time. Either that or I have an overly dusty family now."
"I mow just often enough to keep it from getting too overgrown, and that's about it."
"Themes. My mom's kitchen is sunflower-themed. When I was pregnant, she asked what theme I was going to make for the nursery, and had a hard time comprehending that I wasn't making a theme. I just chose colors and vibes. She loved it, though, once she saw it."
"Resale. I'm not paying this money to live in something where I cater to the needs of hypothetical, future buyers. If I want a lime green wall, I'm gonna do it and love it. I'm not painting my whole house greige because some imaginary person might find it more appealing. Paint is something you can redo, change your mind, or do last second if you decide to sell."
"Yards with wild dandelions will always look better to me than a boring manicured lawn, and I will die on this hill."
"Animals on furniture. They live here, too. If you're so offended by it, you can leave."
"The dishes will get done when they get done. I don't care if there are dirty dishes in the sink when I go to bed."
"I never make my bed, and my wife doesn't either. It's only made when we change the sheets as needed."
"My rooms are painted different colors, and darker shades. My parents wanted everything white, cream, or beige."
"My mother loved her garden. She spent hours picking the right plants, where they would go, and lovingly placed and cared for them all summer. I bought a couple of potted geraniums and called it a day."
"High ceilings. My mom always commented about having high ceilings and how much nicer they looked. I'll take low ceilings any day! It's so much easier to heat and cool the house."
"Clean windows. Kids live here, I don't really care if there's evidence of that."
"I don't like having carpet because it holds onto dirt and allergens. I have laminate for all my flooring. If or when I buy a new house, all of the carpet will disappear, but I'll use a combo of laminate and tiles."
"Holiday decorating. Nope, I just don't get it. Put them up, take them down, put them up, take them down times infinity for a lifetime. It's ridiculous. Not me, no, thank you."
"China cabinet. You're lucky if it's a real plate instead of a paper plate."
"My neighbors on each side are retirees who work on their yards daily, have sprinkler systems, and all that. Our yard doesn't look much different, and I do nothing."
"My mom keeps bugging me about when I'll finally pressure wash the back of my house. IDK, maybe sometime in between having a full-time career and parenting a toddler, I'll pencil that crucial issue in."
"I don't have anything you're not allowed to touch or use. It's just fancy clutter."
"I'm 44 years old, a lawyer, and I still have a bunch of mismatched, secondhand furniture. My dishes and silverware don't match either."
And finally, "I don't care about having a yard. I also didn't buy the place with the distinct notion that this would be our 'starter' home, and we'll get something bigger and better in the future. It's our house, and we live here, and we're happy."
What home things do you not care about compared to older generations? Share your thoughts in the comments or using the anonymous form below.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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