logo
Rod Nordland, 75, dies; war reporter who also wrote of his own struggle

Rod Nordland, 75, dies; war reporter who also wrote of his own struggle

Boston Globe5 days ago

With a toughness rooted in his wayward childhood and the brashness of a self-made man, Mr. Nordland was from an era before 'journalism became a prestige career for a bunch of Ivy Leaguers,' as he wrote in his memoir.
Advertisement
When he set out to become a reporter in the early 1970s, urban daily newspapers often had the money to support overseas bureaus, including The Philadelphia Inquirer, which sent him to Southeast Asia in 1979.
Get Starting Point
A guide through the most important stories of the morning, delivered Monday through Friday.
Enter Email
Sign Up
He did not move back to the United States for 40 years, until he was compelled to do so by his illness.
His reporting gained reach and impact, and his life gained glamour, when he was poached by Newsweek in the mid-1980s. The perks of the job included an unlimited travel budget. He was on the scene and frequently running a news bureau during the Cambodian-Vietnamese War, the Lebanese Civil War, the Salvadoran Civil War, the Persian Gulf War, the war in Kosovo, the Iraq War, and the War in Afghanistan, among other conflicts.
Advertisement
He initially joined the Times in its Baghdad bureau, and he took over responsibility for the Kabul bureau in 2013. His international reporting earned him multiple George Polk and Overseas Press Club awards.
His specialties were recounting violence in unflinching prose; attending to the most vulnerable people in a conflict, often women and children; and narrating everyday dramas of war zones in epic terms.
In 1999, he described for Newsweek what it was like for a 36-year-old mother to survive a mass murder surrounded by her children and relatives in a restaurant in a small town of southern Kosovo.
In Afghanistan, he repeatedly wrote about the danger and brutality young couples faced when marrying without family approval. One of those stories -- about an 18-year-old young woman and 21-year-old man who had never been alone in a room together but nevertheless publicly proclaimed their love for each other, provoking death threats from relatives -- became a book called 'The Lovers: Afghanistan's Romeo and Juliet' (2016).
A critical review in the Times called his efforts to help the couple with money and sanctuary while also making them into major media figures a form of dubious 'Western saviordom.'
In a 2016 interview with The Brown Journal of World Affairs, Mr. Nordland responded, 'What is a savior complex?' he asked. 'The notion that it would be better for me not to get involved in their case so that they could be killed, and that would be the more ethically responsible course? I don't have a right to intervene and save their lives?'
In 'Waiting for the Monsoon,' he reports that the couple moved to New Haven, where the man, Mohammad Ali, has worked as a handyman and driver.
Advertisement
Mr. Nordland (left) interviewed a martyr's relative, in Kobani cemetery, Syria, in 2018.
MAURICIO LIMA/NYT
Rodney Lee Nordland was born on July 17, 1949, in Philadelphia. His father, Ronald, he wrote in his memoir, was a mechanic who beat Rod, his five siblings, and his mother, Lorine Myers. Later in life, he learned that his father was 'repeatedly arrested and often convicted of sexual assaults on children, both boys and girls,' which he said explained why the family moved so frequently from one small Southern California town to another.
Around 1960, his mother left his father and took the children to her family's home in Jenkintown, a suburb of Philadelphia. She worked a series of clerical jobs and relied on welfare to help feed her children, though they still sometimes went hungry.
Beginning at age 13, Rod worked multiple jobs to support the family, including as a movie theater usher, newspaper delivery boy, dishwasher, country club caddie, semipro boxer, poker player, pool hustler, and occasional burglar. Around the age of 15, he and his best friend ran away to Miami, where they were caught shoplifting and spent two weeks in the county jail.
He discovered a new, productive outlet for his inner turmoil as a senior in high school after his brother Gary got into an argument with a police officer, who subsequently beat him with a billy club. Rod wrote a furious letter about the episode to The Times-Chronicle, Jenkintown's local paper. Not long after, the police officer was suspended and apologized to Gary.
The experience was a 'revelation,' Mr. Nordland wrote in his memoir.
'I could write my rage,' he wrote. 'Not only that, but doing so could result in some kind of change for the better. I could find the people who were like me, cowering from my father as a kid, or like my brother, smacked around by an irresponsible cop, or like my mother, abused by a violent husband and tormented by aggressive bill collectors.'
Advertisement
He attended Penn State on a full scholarship and graduated in 1972 with a bachelor's degree in journalism. He was immediately hired by The Inquirer. He had an important role on the team that won the 1980 Pulitzer Prize in local reporting for coverage of the Three Mile Island nuclear accident.
After he became a foreign correspondent, wars came to so define his life that he associated each of his children with a different conflict, he wrote in his memoir: 'Lorine, a child of the Bosnian conflict, was born in 1992; Johanna, a child of the Iraq War, in 1995; and Jake, a child of the war in Afghanistan, in 1998.'
Still, he credited his terminal illness with giving him a new perspective.
Laid low in the hospital, 'I could see clearly, finally, all the mistakes I had made,' he wrote. A 'volatile temper, 'arrogance' and 'certitude that dominated my every action' had 'helped make me a successful foreign correspondent and bureau chief but denied me the opportunity of becoming so much more.'
His first marriage ended in divorce. He met Segal in 2016, whom he leaves along with his three children.
Segal said that Mr. Nordland had been given only 14 months to live when he received his diagnosis, but with experimental treatments, led by Dr. Eric T. Wong of the Life Cancer Institute at Rhode Island Hospital, he survived for six years.
Advertisement
In his memoir, he connected his sense of the purpose of journalism to his memories of growing up.
'That my father's treatment of all of us, especially Mommy, was hidden from public view, that he managed to continue his life of criminal abuse relatively unscathed, at least within our family, enraged me,' he wrote. 'What was the point of being a journalist if you didn't make hidden injustices visible?'
This article originally appeared in

Orange background

Try Our AI Features

Explore what Daily8 AI can do for you:

Comments

No comments yet...

Related Articles

Moment Millennial Woman Realizes She Backs Childfree Spaces: 'It Was Gross'
Moment Millennial Woman Realizes She Backs Childfree Spaces: 'It Was Gross'

Newsweek

time14 hours ago

  • Newsweek

Moment Millennial Woman Realizes She Backs Childfree Spaces: 'It Was Gross'

Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A woman has gone viral after advocating for more child-free spaces—not because she dislikes children, but because of parents who she says fail to take responsibility for their kids in public. Dominique Bird (@aussiedomxo), 31, from Austin, Texas, shared a now-viral TikTok recounting a recent experience at a local bakery where she was enjoying high tea with friends. During her visit, a couple entered with a young child whovomited not once, but twice. According to Bird, the parents made no effort to clean up the mess, leaving it entirely to the staff. "Anyway, I just thought it was gross," Bird told Newsweek. "This experience didn't ruin my day or anything like that, so I do not think kids shouldn't be allowed in public spaces! My point of the video was that kids are usually not at fault; it's parents acting poorly in public that leads to people wanting spaces with fewer children," she added. A split image of Dominique Bird explaining why she wants more child free spaces. A split image of Dominique Bird explaining why she wants more child free spaces. @aussiedomxo/@aussiedomxo Bird's video resonated widely, drawing thousands of likes and views. But the attention also reignited ongoing conversations around parenting, child-free lifestyles, and public etiquette. Bird, who worked in childcare from a young age, has long known that motherhood wasn't for her. She told Newsweek that while she believes she would have been "a good mother," she would not have been "a happy one." She credits her parents with raising her to be academically driven and career-focused, values she feels are often at odds with parenthood in the United States. She said that the lack of parental support systems in the country played a major role in her decision. Living in Texas—where reproductive healthcare access is increasingly restricted—Bird decided to undergo a bilateral salpingectomy, a surgical procedure that removes both fallopian tubes and results in permanent sterilization. "After [Donald Trump's] inauguration, I decided to take that step to protect myself in the case I couldn't get the healthcare I needed in the future," she said. Bird clarified that while she's not a parent, she believes in basic decency in shared public spaces. "If my dog were to be in a business and had an accident, I would clean it up as best I could, even if staff would be required to follow specific cleaning procedures for biohazards, etc. If I spill my drink, I'm going to try and clean it up as best as possible. No one wants their child to be sick, but at the same time, no one wants to eat food in the vicinity of vomit, regardless of where it came from," she added. Her video drew a mixed response. Many parents expressed agreement, noting that not all adult spaces should be limited to bars or nightlife. Other parents agreed with Bird that it was wrong for the caregivers to not clean up. "Then you have the staunch child-free people who don't want to be around children ever—let me make it clear, I'm not in that camp," she added. "While I choose not to have children myself, children have a place in our world, but their parents should also consider the experience of those around them if their child is sick or being disruptive," she continued. "I stand by what I said in the video—poor parenting and lack of common courtesy in public with children is what tends to make people want child-free spaces," she said. Bird is one of a growing number of U.S. adults opting out of parenthood. The U.S. fertility rate reached an all-time low in 2023. According to a 2024 Pew Research Center report, with 47% of U.S. adults under 50 without children say they are unlikely to ever have kids—an increase from 37% in 2018. The TikTok comments reflected a spectrum of views: "We need more child-free places that aren't alcohol related," said one user, GG. "I want child-free spaces the same way I want dog-free spaces. Has nothing to do with hatred toward either & everything to do with how badly both groups of handlers behave," another wrote. "You are entitled to a childfree life but not a childfree world," said a commenter named Tiffany. "YES also congratulations on your sterilization you're living my dream it's my biggest fear," added another. "CHILDFREE areas / towns to live in, that would be damn blissful," one viewer commented. Not all reactions were supportive. Some parents defended those in the viral bakery incident. "My child got sick in public and it's so scary and honestly, the nice bakery would be the last thing on their mind. Maybe one went to get the car to go to the ER, maybe the kid had an allergic reaction to meds or food," commented a user named Linsey Jean. "I doubt it was to be horribly rude and they are probably scared and embarrassed. But you are child free so you know more I guess—how about less judgment, more understanding?" Do you have any viral videos or pictures that you want to share? We want to see the best ones! Send them in to life@ and they could appear on our site.

Man and Wife Finally Learn Horrifying Truth About Cat: 'Going On for Years'
Man and Wife Finally Learn Horrifying Truth About Cat: 'Going On for Years'

Newsweek

timea day ago

  • Newsweek

Man and Wife Finally Learn Horrifying Truth About Cat: 'Going On for Years'

Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A five-year-old cat named Spark has been exposed as the unexpected culprit behind a long-standing kitchen mystery in a viral post on Reddit. In a video shared by owner Frank on r/cats, the video revealed Spark confidently perched on the kitchen counter, mid-lick, indulging in a freshly discovered treasure: the family's butter tub. "Today I learned my wife isn't the one who's been cleaning the butter container," Frank, who didn't give a surname, said in the post on Reddit. "She gets to find out it isn't me either." Fluffy and laid-back cat Spark was caught licking the sides of the butter dish on the counter before looking round and realizing she had been caught in the act. Pictures of Spark the cat on the counter with the butter dish. Pictures of Spark the cat on the counter with the butter dish. Wankfurter/Reddit "I honestly think the butter thing could have been going on for years (yuck), but there's no way to really know," Frank, from Washington, told Newsweek. The video has sparked laughter and sympathy from fellow cat enthusiasts, with over 26,000 upvotes and Reddit comments turning the sticky situation into a comedic whodunnit. "An outrageous accusation. He's just investigating the crime," joked user DengleDengle. "He's just helping to keep the kitchen nice and clean. Yup. Yup. That's all. Just helping," quipped durhamruby. Others chimed in with relatable tales. "My cat LOVES butter too! I cannot leave it out," confessed dinosaur_0987. Another user, Sykoaktiv5150, noted the "busted" look on Spark's face. Can Cats Eat Butter? In small amounts butter isn't toxic to cats, but it is high in fats and lactose—similar to milk. As most adult cats are lactose intolerant, eating butter can cause an upset stomach, vomiting, diarrhea and gas. It can also cause weight gain, digestive problems and elevated cholesterol in high amounts. Other commenters on Reddit were quick to stand up for Spark. Like SaralasDevonshire who wrote: "I am sure this is a big misunderstanding, this poor baby is obviously innocent." Thankfully, the owners could see the funny side. "My wife thought it was hilarious and so did I. We keep the butter in the cupboard now," Frank said. This isn't the first time a cat has been caught red handed getting up to no good on the kitchen counter. Last year a cat was caught leaping over the sink to snatch some spaghetti from the side. "He thought he was so sneaky," laughed the owner in the video caption. Do you have funny and adorable videos or pictures of your pet you want to share? Send them to life@ with some details about your best friend, and they could appear in our Pet of the Week lineup.

Dad Praised for Eye-Opening Message About Supporting Kids Like Your Partner
Dad Praised for Eye-Opening Message About Supporting Kids Like Your Partner

Newsweek

time2 days ago

  • Newsweek

Dad Praised for Eye-Opening Message About Supporting Kids Like Your Partner

Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A New York dad has been praised online for his case that parents should support their kids in the same way you would a partner. Rory Tobias (@adadnamedrory) posted a reel on Instagram and recounted a moment many adults can relate to: arriving home after a long day of work, emotionally tapped out and needing space. His wife, eager for connection after a tough day herself, was met not with comfort but with a closed emotional door. From left: Rory Tobias, 33, speaks into the camera in Brooklyn, New York, filming an Instagram reel. From left: Rory Tobias, 33, speaks into the camera in Brooklyn, New York, filming an Instagram reel. @adadnamedrory "I just said, 'Go lay down, go do your thing, you'll be OK,'" he said in his clip. Later that night, he told her to sleep in another room. "If anybody is not enraged by that, if you think that's not OK—why are we doing it to our kids?" Tobias told Newsweek that his revelation didn't start when he became a parent, but much earlier in childhood. "We all felt it, that something was off," the 33-year-old said. "As kids, we just didn't have the words to name it." Tobias said how adults were allowed to have strong emotions, to speak their minds—while children were often silenced or shamed for doing the same. Now, as a father himself, Tobias realized that children deserve a voice. "Nearly every day, we ask ourselves: Would that be OK if you said it to your wife? Would what you're doing or saying still feel right if it were your wife instead of your child? Most of the time, the answer is no," Tobias said. "And I think that's something we really need to sit with and examine." Noticing these so-called "infinite double standards" has made Tobias more intentional—but also more vulnerable. He has had to unlearn old parenting styles that he, too, unconsciously mimicked the parenting patterns of the past. "The real work? It's messy. It's humbling. And it's not always pretty," Tobias told Newsweek. "For me, recognizing the double standards has made parenting more demanding—but also more honest. It reveals my flaws daily. And maybe that's the point." Tobias' reel has gone viral on the platform, amassing over 364,000 views. Hundreds of parents commented, praising Tobias for his message. "Didn't expect that turn, today was particularly hard for me and my little guy. Much respect for this video brother," one user wrote. "This is literally the point I'm always trying to make. Adults don't like to sleep alone or be brushed off, why do we think it's normal to do it to our kids?" another commented. A third commenter wrote: "This was so good, my kids sleep with me and probably will for the next few years but I'm going to remember this, they need me more than I need to do anything else." Tobias said he is "truly humbled" by the response online. "Every loving message means the world to me," he added. "I just wish I could sit down with each person and remind them they're not alone—that real parenting, the deep, messy, healing kind, is hard. And it's rarely Instagram-pretty."

DOWNLOAD THE APP

Get Started Now: Download the App

Ready to dive into a world of global content with local flavor? Download Daily8 app today from your preferred app store and start exploring.
app-storeplay-store