People Who Got Divorced After 10+ Years Of Marriage Are Sharing Why, And My Heart Is Heavy
1."We were roommates. Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me."
—u/reedzilla76
2."After 12 years and three kids, I caught her having an affair. Her response? Why can't you just be happy that I found someone I like?"
—u/AleWatcher
3."Me. I was growing apart from her, but I never brought it up. Never talked to her about it. Didn't try to change it. She did everything right, and I was a bad husband."
—u/armymdic00
4."My ex-wife thought I was her competition. Every time I made something good happen for us, she thought it was an attack against her."
—u/GlumClerk9785
5."I grew. He didn't. Our original relationship dynamic didn't work anymore."
—u/CautiousSwordfish
6."I ended up realizing I wasn't just married to him, I was also married to his mother."
—u/Riyeko
7."After 12 years, she decided that 'in sickness and in health' no longer applied to her."
—u/RealSharpNinja
8."No dates, no vacations, no solo time together, no compliments, no romance. I slowly, over time, lost the energy to try to fight for us. I can't live the rest of my life without ever being taken dancing…"
—u/FleurSea
9."He was nicer to other people, constantly blamed me for his issues, didn't take any accountability, and I was over it. I didn't want to live the remainder of my life that way."
—u/Humble_Ad4397
10."I was the only one trying, and I decided to stop trying too."
—u/MissingMagnolia
11."Textbook 'grew apart.' Looking back, I realize I married someone whose core values weren't compatible with mine. At the time, I saw myself as easygoing and adaptable, so I figured we could overcome those differences, because love conquers all, right? Spoiler alert, no, it doesn't. In reality, I spent two decades losing my identity. We both felt very alone in our relationship and ultimately could not repair the distance."
—u/CatNapCate
12."Married for 15 years. We weren't right for each other from the beginning, but we had kids, and we didn't want to hurt them by getting divorced. I often describe my first marriage as being like a plane that was doomed to crash, and it just took a long time to find a place to put it down gently."
—u/wejustdontknowdude
13."We started being an open marriage, and she forgot to tell me."
—u/TheEndless89
14."Workaholic habits. Great provider, lousy spouse."
—u/Rare-Group-1149
15."I think divorces are like motorcycle accidents in that there is not one, but a combination of things that, without only one or two, might happen differently. The moment that truly ended it for me was when my ex-wife was so offended that she screamed at our therapist and accused him of being unprofessional and unethical for saying that we shouldn't get divorced."
—u/gduba
16."Our daughter was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I discovered my partner was trying to start a new replacement family on the side."
—u/RetroDadOnReddit
17."The slow fade of intimacy. We stopped talking around year 12. Became more like roommates who occasionally shared a bed. Tried counseling for two years, but you can't force someone to want to connect."
—u/Charming3-Angel
18."I never planned to get divorced! Six months after the fact, I found out he took all our savings and bought a farm. He told me I wasn't welcome there, and he might move a girlfriend in with him someday. So divorce it was."
—u/amyayou
19."Letting all the small things get swept under the rug instead of working through them. Ignoring major red flags because of love. We were different people after 10 years of growth."
—u/Square-Heat-3758
20."We stopped being teammates and started feeling like opponents."
—u/MohammadAbir
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