17 Dating Red Flags Overlooked For Attractive People
Here's a look at some of the top-voted responses:
"He literally said, 'Fuck, I'm probably going to wind up seriously hurting you' the first time we got drunk together. A year and some change later, he started an affair with his best friend's fiancée! He called it!"
"She was married, but told me that her marriage had been purely platonic for years and that she was allowed to have lovers. I didn't question it. I should have."
"He got into a car wreck because he installed a PlayStation in his car and he and his friend were playing it while he was driving."
"What I thought was confidence in him slowly became toxic narcissism."
"He was dumber than a rock. I swear to Christ, he was the walking inspiration for Derek Zoolander. Walking and screwing were about the only things he could do without breaking something or causing something to go wrong. He attempted to wash (my) dishes with laundry soap, he could not remember where I lived or what apartment I was in (even after coming over five times), and he confused the 4th of July with Presidents Day. He assumed his work schedule was incorrect for scheduling him on Presidents Day, as they must be closed, and he simply did not go in."
"Said she thought cheating could be used as a power move."
"She was always on her phone, but never replied to my texts."
"He was really attractive and charismatic. He was also a pathological liar, but my friends and I never suspected a thing for months."
"Whenever I did something pleasant, romantic, sweet, or loving, he would would treat me like shit. When I would show zero interest in him for being such a dickhead, he would treat me like royalty. Pull out every stop, every trick in the book to romance me and make me forget about it. When I would be sweet back, it turned him off. The more I ignored him and rejected him for being a total asshole, the more he wanted me. It was this weird game. After a while, I grew tired. I didn't want to play anymore."
"I ignored the biggest flashing neon sign warning about my ex that came from a friend of his. She told me, quote, 'He is going to be very hard to love because he is always looking for a fight and thinks he has something to prove.' She said I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I'm just warning you about it. If you think you're up to the task, then go for it, but I just wanted to let you know. I wish I had heeded her warning."
"She had cheated on all her exes, but she told me I was special lol."
"The complete lack of emotional regulation skills."
"He believed the Necronomicon was real and claimed to have done several incantations from it."
"Interestingly enough, his ex cornered me at my place of work right as I started hanging out with him, and she WARNED me about him. I brushed it off and wrote her off as crazy. Sure enough, literally everything she said came true. Her warning always lived in the back of my mind and eventually helped me get the nerve to kick him out. I've always wanted to run into her again and thank her and apologize for calling her crazy."
"Manipulating me into buying things for him, and the way he generally used me for my kindness and generosity."
"She was perfectly fine manipulating other guys and bragging about it in front of me. But I was different. I'm an idiot."
And finally, "I might win this one. He had just been released from prison for the attempted murder of his own mother. Yes, he was that cute."
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28 Cheaters Who Really Made Sure To Twist The Knife After Stabbing Their Partners In The Back
Reddit user u/h3llofaRide posed the question, "What's the worst cheating story you've ever heard?" The replies quickly filled with a bunch of infuriating and devastating stories of infidelity. Here's what people shared: "My dad cheated on my mom with my best friend's mom who was also married. I was a teenager at the time, and I unfortunately found out before my mom did. Guess who had to tell her? My dad told me I 'owed it to him' to not say anything. The massive amount of guilt I dealt with for 'outing' him and destroying my mom's life haunted me for years." "I went to the wedding of my then-boyfriend's friend. Easily the best wedding I've ever been to — absolutely a smash. The bride was the lead singer in a band, and they performed and killed it. Just a great party all around. People had a great time, and the couple seemed so happy. The next day, I'm at brunch with the wedding party (sans married couple), and everyone's phone buzzes. The best man gets up and takes a call. The mood absolutely falls and everyone gets quiet. I ask my boyfriend what's going on. Apparently the bride had been cheating on the groom the entire relationship with the drummer in her band, who performed at the wedding. She told him that morning. Immediate divorce. We all sat there and one of the groomsmen said, 'We can never tell him how great his wedding was.'" "My ex told me that he was hanging out with his cousin, who he'd reconnected with, a bunch. I found out he was cheating on me with her. He told me he had lied to me and that she was just a friend and not his cousin. As if that made it any better. Like, thankfully they aren't cousins, but yes, he still admitted to cheating on me. Turns out it WAS his cousin. He was cheating on me with his cousin. I was so disgusted and disturbed, I vomited all over the floor. And, my grandpa died the day I found out." "One of my wife's cousins died of cancer after a 30-year marriage. When her husband was clearing out her home office, he found a box with diaries, receipts, letters, hotel keys, etc., all detailing the hundreds of times she'd cheated on him with random guys throughout their whole marriage. She'd gone so far as to take their daughters to meetups and gaslight them about what was happening." "My boyfriend of seven years cheated on me while I was home saying goodbye to my dying dog and visiting my mom in the hospital. I was also in the thick of an accelerated nursing school program and it was finals week. ALSO, my car had just broken down in the drive-thru of a Whataburger that same weekend. The girl he cheated with? A very close friend who was getting married in a month. She begged me to not tell her fiancé (I told him)." "My ex and I were together for eight years! She had been sleeping with her boss for the last year of our relationship. We were looking at getting a new place to rent. She was adamant that she wanted to live in this very specific block of flats. Turns out her boss lived downstairs from us. They were having sex right under my nose." "I was an IT contractor for the Department of Defense. We got a keyword alert on an email conversation. Then more. Same folks involved. So, we went and checked out the email and the email thread. Turns out it was a senior chief who was talking to nearly half a dozen women under his chain of command, all of whom he was having affairs with, and multiples of which were pregnant with his children. He, of course, was married and had four kids with his wife. What started out as a 'Hey, you're not supposed to discuss that on regular email' investigation turned into a massive scandal that wrecked multiple marriages and turned into a whole lot of meetings with his VERY angry CO. Don't do stupid stuff on company email. And REALLY don't do stupid stuff on DOD servers." "My best friend. 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She was hours away as well, so her daughter, who was 10 at the time, was unable to visit her. She died alone because she went to her 'best friend' for help. I don't speak to my bio mom anymore. After her friend's death, she showed off the brand new car she got with the life insurance money (she married the husband). At the time, her dead best friend also had a 19-year-old daughter who was homeless with a toddler. I felt so sick sitting in the car listening to my bio mom brag about how nice it was and how she finally got the car she deserved. Some people are disgusting." "Former colleague of mine in his mid-30s. He was living with his long-term girlfriend and they had been shopping for engagement rings. He came to work one day, and early afternoon, he received a text from her telling him she was seeing someone else, has packed up the house, and moved out to live with the other guy. No apology and no further explanation. She then immediately blocked him and left him to deal with the rent and other bills on his own. He was a nice guy. It was horrendous to see that happen to him." "I had a roommate in college who was a big cheater. He had a girlfriend from high school at another college, and she would come to visit on the weekend sometimes. He cheated on her all the time. One weekend, she came down to visit and he was not home. The rest of us had taken a taxi home from a bar, but he went home with a girl. His very cute girlfriend was wearing an overcoat, and it was obvious that she had driven a couple of hours from her college in special lingerie to come see him. He knew she was coming." "I know someone who had a multi-decade affair with a married father of four. The guy would lie and say he was at the laundromat and would take his kids' laundry over to her house. The woman he was having the affair with would do his kids' laundry, but not even her own children's. The woman wanted him to leave his wife, but the guy wouldn't, so she married another dude and they ended up getting divorced because she would cheat on her husband with the other dude. The worst part is that her husband had suspicions she was cheating, but still went through with it. If you have any doubts, do not get married." "My friend's husband hired a sex worker for $40 when my friend was a few weeks postpartum with their baby. He invited the sex worker over to their house while taking care of their baby and had sex in their bed. My friend found out later because he was missing from the school where they both worked, and she found out he had been arrested or detained or something (I forget exactly) because he had gone to the police to report that he was being blackmailed. The sex worker had started blackmailing him and he went to a loan shark to get $1,000 to pay her off. When she demanded more money, I guess he decided he couldn't keep paying and tried to report her to the cops and tried to lie about his involvement. The cops obviously were suspicious and found out he had hired her. He was fired from his job at the school and it crushed my friend." "I know someone who regularly cheated on their out-of-town girlfriend. I guess he was going to cut all that out when she finished her advanced degree program out of state. She moved to his state and they got an apartment together. While in the shower, his phone was buzzing with messages. She found the girl's username sending all these messages and decided to send her a direct message from her own account, and the other girl was completely honest with her. 'I know who you are. I hook up with your boyfriend all the time, including last weekend at your new apartment in your bed.' Etc." "Firefighter asked another firefighter to cover his shift by working for him. He then went and had sex with that guy's wife that day." "My cousin told me this while he was in boot camp. There was a guy who had a girlfriend/wife and a girl who had a boyfriend/husband. The guy and girl decided to cheat on their S.O.s the day before graduating from boot camp. A sergeant, who was a family man and didn't approve of people who cheated on their S.O.s, saw them kissing and had them call their partners to tell them that they wouldn't be graduating from boot camp and needed to start from day one again because they chose to cheat on their partners." "My friend was partying with her boyfriend and some other people. Her boyfriend had sex with another girl on the same couch as his girlfriend while she was passed out. She woke up part of the way through it and just didn't know what to do." "I was working in IT and needed to perform manual backups of sales laptops. 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He had some suspects but never imagined it was another police officer." "The day my brother was born, my father was in the hospital with my mom for the delivery, and he told her he wished she wasn't the mom. He then went and spent the night at his girlfriend's house while I (5 years old) stayed with my grandparents. He was a long haul trucker and was back on the road immediately after, so my mom brought my brother home from the hospital alone, had 5-year-old me to take care of, and had a dog as well. And it was a C-section birth. No idea how she did it." "This girl in high school cheated on her boyfriend with the guys who bullied him. Then, she got bullied by all their girlfriends." "Years back, in my early 20s, there was this one guy in my extended friend group. I didn't know him that well, but he was a friend of a friend of a friend, and we would occasionally find ourselves in the same social gatherings. He had just started dating this girl. She was maybe a few years younger than us. Probably about 18 or 19. They were at the very start of their relationship, so I don't know if they were exclusive to each other, but people knew they were dating. A bunch of them had a night out. I didn't go out, but I heard about what happened later on. This friend of mind got extremely drunk. The girl he was seeing helped him back to his house. His dad was still up and heard them trying to get into the door. This was the first time the girl had met his dad. The dad helped my friend to his room and then invited the girl in for a chat and to get to know her a bit. The girl ended up having sex with the dad that night." "I know a woman who has been cheating on her high school sweetheart (who joined the Navy) basically since the jump. We all sort of assumed they had an agreement because she was very fixated on being 'not like other girls' and having wildly inappropriate levels of friendship and intimacy with all his male friends. She found some trashy divorced guy 20 years her senior with a daughter eight years younger than herself at her office and proceeded to carry on a year-long affair (including interstate travel) and finally had to come clean to her husband when it got too obvious and her lies about travel were falling apart. They got divorced, and it turns out she had been sleeping with basically all his friends the whole time." "A good friend of mine was a doctor who took over his father's private practice when he retired. His wife was a med student when they first started dating, 10 years younger than him and one of the most intelligent and beautiful people I've ever met. They became associates when she graduated, and under her management, the practice grew to four associates and six contracted doctors. Truly an amazing person, highly competent, born leader, funny, the list goes on. But, my friend no longer felt like the center of attention, so he quit being a doctor to become an influencer. You can imagine how that went. When that failed, he went and started an affair with a 19-year-old nurse-in-training who worked for his wife. She learned about the affair when the girl's mother knocked on her door." "She cheated on me with her cousin's fiancé while I was out of town for work. This fiancé had also cheated on his partner with her own mother. My foolish self tried to move past it, only to find out shortly after marriage that she and someone I considered a friend for over 12 years were screwing around. Moral of the story: trust and listen to your gut." "A friend of a friend ended up dating her uni professor for a bit. He was older than her, but it was getting serious and they were making life plans together. On weekends, he would regularly go visit his 'mother' in another city. I can't remember exactly how she found out, but it turns out that the 'mother' was indeed his wife, who was really, really sick. When our friend found out, she confronted him and he said that he loved her and wanted to have kids with her, but he wanted her to be patient because he was just trying to put his wife in hospice so he wouldn't have to deal with her anymore and could be with my friend. She obviously dumped him on the spot and the dude continued to try and pursue her, sending her the most cringeworthy love messages and videos. Mind you, this was a university professor in his late-40s" "My husband confessed to cheating on me while we were in the car AFTER my mom had a stroke and I'd just seen her in the ICU not knowing if she would live or die. We had an hour-long car ride home and I had to keep it together when all I wanted to do was freak out." And: "A woman I knew suspected her husband was cheating on her, but he was very good at hiding his tracks and she couldn't get proof. She was trying to get evidence to divorce him. Then, one day, the mistress showed up at the door to confess everything. Turns out he'd cheated on the mistress with a third girl and gotten that girl pregnant. Divorce happened very quickly after that." Oh. My. Heavens. What's the worst cheating story you've ever heard? Tell us in the comments!
Yahoo
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Teen ‘Severely Injured' Her Leg and Her Aunt Showed Everyone the Pictures. Now, the Aunt Is Mad the Teen Confronted Her
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New York Post
a day ago
- New York Post
Employee divides office after creative response to a lunch thief: ‘Weird and selfish'
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