How the Women of ‘Too Much' Made the Rom-Com Just Right
If you have seen Dunham's previous work, which often skews anti-romantic, this will make a special kind of sense. In the six-season HBO series 'Girls,' a generation-defining traumedy, Dunham, a writer, director and occasional actor, viewed love with a conjunctival eye — itchy, gritty, irritated.
But love had not given up on Dunham. Just after her move, she met the musician Luis Felber. She didn't anticipate anything serious. 'I was seeing it as fleeting — it's fun to hang out with a boy during the pandemic,' Dunham said on a stupidly beautiful June morning in New York. She was wrong. By the fall of that year, they were married.
Soon, there were reports that Dunham and Felber were developing a show based on their relationship. That 10-episode show, 'Too Much,' arrives on Netflix on July 10.
Is 'Too Much' a romantic comedy? Yes. Is it inspired by Lena's own story? Sure. But 'Too Much' wants more — inclusivity, expansiveness, a reconsideration of the love stories we tell and about whom we tell them.
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