Farah Khan says she wanted to get married in her 20s, is grateful to mother for stopping her: ‘You are my dushman…'

Indian Express

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Reacting to the Rebel Kid, aka Apoorva Mukhija's wish to get married at 23, Farah Khan went down memory lane to recall how it was her late mother, Menaka Irani, who had stopped her from getting married at a very young age. '23 par kabhi nahi. At 23, I was going to get married. Mujhe laga ab life khatam hogayi hai…kya hi hai life mein…meri mummy ne mujhe bola ki agar tu shaadi karegi, main tujhe ghar se bahar phek dungi…and I cried…everyone else's mother wants them to get married and you are my dushman…(I thought there wasn't much to life except getting married. But my mom was against it. I revolted and said how everyone's mother wants their child to get married young but not you)…but today, I am grateful that I got married around 40. I am very happy, I have three beautiful children. And a good husband. At 40, you do whatever you want,' Khan told Mukhija on her YouTube cooking show.
At the same time, Khan reiterated that there is no one particular timeline for milestones like marriage. Reflecting on the filmmaker's statement, Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist, and life coach, affirmed how we live in a society that often ties worth to timelines. 'There's an unspoken expectation to tick off life milestones – career, marriage, family, etc., by a certain age. But emotional readiness doesn't follow a clock, it follows clarity. And clarity comes through life experience, not social expectation,' said Delnna.
According to her, emotional maturity is rarely present in our early twenties. 'At that age, we often mistake intensity for intimacy, validation for compatibility, and passion for partnership. But as we grow through heartbreak, setbacks, and career challenges, and in the process of healing, we begin to see love differently. We no longer crave the thrill of being chosen. We yearn for the safety of being seen,' said Delnna.
Time, in this way, is not the enemy of love. 'Through our 30s and beyond, we learn what soft strength looks like. We learn how to sit with discomfort without reacting. We stop needing someone to complete us. We start looking for someone to walk beside us, in truth, in chaos, and in growth,' Delnna shared.
So, when Khan says she's now happy with how her life unfolded, it's not just about gratitude. 'It's a celebration of growth because she didn't just find the right partner. She found herself first. This is the kind of wisdom that comes with age. It teaches you that timing isn't just about calendars-it's about consciousness. The older you grow, the more you stop asking, 'Am I late?' and start asking, 'Am I aligned?' That shift changes everything.'
In relationships, this alignment manifests as healthier boundaries, deeper communication, and increased emotional safety. 'You're not falling in love to escape loneliness. You're choosing to love from a place of wholeness. And that kind of love? It lasts,' shared Delnna.
So, according to Delnna, when you're clear within, your relationship isn't just a milestone. 'It's a movement toward conscious partnership, shared growth, and soulful connection. And that kind of love is always worth the wait,' Delnna said.