Man Tells Fiancée Her Friend Can't Bring 'Deadbeat' Boyfriend to the Wedding

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A groom is refusing to invite the boyfriend of one of the bride's friends to the wedding
The boyfriend is "a complete misogynist and all-around deadbeat," has a collection of inappropriate photos of his girlfriend's friends as well as multiple restraining orders against him
"The last thing I would want is for my fiancée to feel uneasy at her own wedding but I don't feel comfortable having Rick around," the groom wroteA groom-to-be is putting his foot down when it comes to the wedding's guest list.
In a post to Reddit's AITA forum, the groom wrote about a hitch in the guest list: one of the bride's friends has an "insanely rude" boyfriend whom the groom personally and strongly dislikes. But now the groom's refusal to invite the boyfriend to the wedding is causing drama in his fiancée's friend group.
The groom, 26, was sorting out wedding invitations with the bride, 28, when they "came across an issue," the post read. The bride's friend, Emily, is dating a man named Rick, and for as long as the groom has known Emily, she's complained to the couple about everything Rick — "a complete misogynist and all-around deadbeat" — does.
"He would stalk her at every bar, and do a bunch of weird s---, and almost like an African wild dog (they hunt by wearing down their prey), eventually I guess he wore her out until they started dating?" the groom wrote.
Thus the groom developed a "well-known hatred of Rick," he wrote. He argued that "everyone hates Rick," including all of Emily's friends. The man had apparently collected inappropriate photos of Emily's friends, the groom wrote, and has multiple restraining orders against him. He "humiliates Emily publicly for amusement" and overall makes most women around him uncomfortable, he added. Furthermore, the groom's family is mostly made up of women, and he doesn't want to subject them to Rick's behavior at the wedding, he said.
Before Rick and Emily started dating, the groom was vocal about his animosity towards him, so after they got together, "Emily excludes me from all events involving my fiancée's friend group," he wrote.
As the bride and groom were sending out wedding invitations, the groom noticed Rick's name on the list and put his foot down: he didn't want Rick at their wedding. But the bride grew upset, noting that the ultimatum would harm her friend group's dynamic.
"She told me that if this were to go through it would cause Emily to not come at all which would potentially cause even more drama with her friend group which would lead to potentially to a situation that would ruin the wedding," the groom wrote.
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He added, "The last thing I would want is for my fiancée to feel uneasy at her own wedding but I don't feel comfortable having Rick around."
Those in the comments agreed with the groom — and pointed out that the bride seemed to have a habit of putting her friend group's interests above her fiancé's boundaries. The pattern didn't just start with the wedding invitations, one argued — it began when she allowed the friend group to ice out her partner instead of Emily's.
"Your fiancé is fine with you being excluded by Emily and Rick but is throwing a tantrum at Rick receiving the same treatment because Emily will throw her own tantrum!" another wrote. "Emily's feelings and 'drama' is more important to your fiancee than you!"
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