Woman Questions Whether She Should Leave Her Fiancé Because of How He Treats Her Daughter

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A 27-year-old woman took to the internet looking for advice on how to handle her fiancé's relationship with her daughter from a previous marriage
The fiancé refers to the child as "your daughter" and doesn't want to make parenting decisions
People on the internet advised the woman to talk to him about how she is feelingA woman took to the internet looking for advice on how to handle her fiancé's refusal to parent her daughter.
The 27-year-old shares in a since-deleted Reddit post that she has a 9-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. Her first husband passed away when her daughter was only 3 years old.
Meanwhile, she has been with her 26-year-old fiancé for four years, and though she is "absolutely in love" with him, she admits that her "first husband was the love of [her] life."
She notes that her fiancé "respects" her feelings about her late husband, "which only makes [her] love him even more."
Her issue, however, is that her fiancé 'doesn't see or treat [her] daughter as his own.'
When they discuss their future together, he always refers to their future children as "our kids," but when they talk about her daughter, he always says 'your daughter.'
'If I ask him to help me out with my daughter or ask what he thinks about a situation I always get 'She's your daughter so it's your decision,'' the woman shares.
Now, when she pictures their future together, all she can see is her "fiancé and our kids playing and having a father, while my daughter gets left out."
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"I love my fiancé so much and I truly would love to get married and start a family with him but I can't do it if it hurts my daughter,' the woman shares.
'My daughter is my priority, she's my one true love, the best thing that's ever happened to me, my best friend, the reason I'm still standing and I would do anything for her, even if that includes sacrificing my marriage.'
She fears that ending their relationship may be the "only option," but asked if anyone had advice on how to handle the situation.
People in the comments suggested that the woman should talk to her fiancé about how she is feeling before making such a big decision.
'Have you actually discussed it with him, that you want him to act as her father?" one user asked. "Maybe he thinks he's doing the right thing by not interfering with how you bring her up?'
Another user suggested that the man may not be "deliberately excluding" her daughter, but rather "not wanting to overstep boundaries by parenting 'your' child."
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