Carolyn Hax: Husband's female friend uses private intel in post insulting wife
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Dear Carolyn: My husband's female friend posted a veiled insult targeting me on her social feed, about something private in our marriage.
I am livid. Husband is avoiding the whole issue, making excuses, pretending it isn't about me. It absolutely, definitely is — and I am very much a benefit-of-the-doubt person.
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