People Are Sharing The Professions That Make For Bad Spouses, And It's Sad But Very Accurate

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3 days ago

Recently, Reddit user dirtymoney posted to the popular Ask Reddit page with the question, "What professions make bad spouses?" and I had to learn the tea. Here are some of the most interesting opinions:
1."Surgeons and high-powered lawyers; not because they're bad people, but the job eats up all their time and patience."
—u/Domisq14
"My wife is a surgeon and I'm quitting my job to be a full-time parent and house husband. She has absolutely no free time at all, it's wild, 12+ hour days are very common, and unless she's so sick she's literally being hospitalized, she cannot miss work no matter what. So while she makes the money, I cover everything else, which I'm down for.
When she gets off work, we should all spend as much time as we can together, not doing chores and running errands because we both work."
—u/Rollthembones1989
2."Professional musicians. Not celebrities, but folks who have to gig all the time to survive — unless you're also a professional musician!"
—u/wobbsey
"As a former professional musician, I agree with this. The hours and dedication are brutal. I remember reading an article during my undergrad that explored the high rate of marriages between musicians and doctors or surgeons and it explained it's due to the similar hours and job dedication between the fields."
—u/ponte92
3."Speaking from experience, chefs."
—u/deleted
4."Correctional officers."
—u/Desert_Flower_120
"My dad was a corrections officer for 30+ years. It fucked up my parent's marriage, and since he treated me like an inmate instead of a kid, it fucked me up too. I'm 30 years old and am still working on unpacking all those daddy issues and childhood traumas."
—u/_wrennie
5."Anyone in the film business. They're either unemployed and home all the time or at work for like 16-hour days, if not on location."
"One of the first things they tell you as a trainee looking to get into the biz is 'Who wants a successful relationship? There's the door.'"
—u/FannySmellsAlot
6."Comedians, if you value your privacy."
—u/Formal-Proposal7850
"I'll throw pastors in there too, and I say that as a kid of two. The amount of sermon illustrations I've had of me and my siblings..."
—u/Nobichobolobas
7."I'm surprised nobody has said politician yet."
—u/noce96
"I worked for a congressman for a year (don't want to say who or when), and I was shocked at the affairs and rampant drug use. Not the congressman himself, he was a genuine family man, but the staffers, lobbyists, and everyone else who was in our orbit."
—u/JoeMacMillanHCF
8."Pilots. When I was actively dating, I couldn't remember how many times I saw profiles that said they were pilots, just looking for a hookup for the time they were at the new place...and some dudes were dumb enough to post their family photos."
HBO / Via youtube.com
"Well, if they're single and looking for a hookup, that's fine, but married and hooking up everywhere they went was just wow to me."
—u/tracyvu89
"They used to say a sailor has a girlfriend in every port. Guess it's true for airports as well."
—u/Beowulf33232
9."Flight attendant is a fantastic job for a young, single person with no kids. Once you have a family, forget it."
—u/Dizzy_Try4939
10."Bartenders."
Paramount Pictures
—u/AgitatedPatience5729
"Long hours, late nights, social environment, easy access to alcohol..."
—u/luevire
11."Professional tennis players/coaches. Love means nothing to them."
—u/Killybug
"Hey why is that?"
—u/EducationalMeeting95
"It's a pun: in tennis, a score of zero is called 'love,' so they'll say 'fifteen love' for a score of 15 to 0. So they're saying 'love means nothing' because love literally means nothing (0) in tennis."
—u/Superbit64
12."Military, law enforcement, first responders, and oil workers. Anything where you're away for long periods, basically."
—u/silkentab
13."Tenured faculty. If you ever want your own career path or ever want to move, good luck getting them to care or leave their position."
—u/Only_Manufacturer735
14."Actors. No other top answer."
Paramount Pictures
—u/Dragon_succ_succ
15."According to my divorce attorney friend, female nurses are by far the most common demographic he sees torpedo their marriages by cheating. The distant second is male firefighters."
—u/climbstuff32
16."Corporate attorney! Or really, any high-powered entrepreneur; sometimes they never clock out!"
—u/Positive-Lion5940
17."Drug dealer."
Oprah Winfrey Network / Via giphy.com
—u/D-Rez
"I dated a pharmacist once, it wasn't that bad."
—u/Dangerous-Math503
18."Horse people. Not centaurs, but anybody who deals with equines. That includes breeders, riders, cowboys, and show horses. You will NEVER be a priority to them unless you're a horse person yourself, and you'll still be second to the horse."
"All of your money will be sucked dry to care for that money pit of an animal. If you date a woman who grew up with horses, they will more than likely be entitled and won't understand the financial burden required to care for it."
—u/SaintedRomaine
19."Cops."
—u/depressionsquirrels
"Spousal abuse by cops is notably higher than in the general population, and that's by the reported numbers. Spousal abuse is notoriously under-reported."
—u/SpiderCop_NYPD_ARKND
"Not only that, but there's good reason to expect that spousal abuse by cops is likely to be the most under-reported category of spousal abuse, as the abused spouse of a cop has less incentive to report, and more incentive to hide it, than any other abused spouse, given that they'd be reporting it to their abuser's closest friends and allies."
—u/Kymera_7
What do you think? Let me know down below — and if you have your own examples to share, go for it. I love hearing the drama.
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