Couples are choosing to give up sex — and they insist it's saving their marriages: ‘We learned to communicate better'

New York Post

2 days ago

The lights are off, and nobody's home — and apparently, that's a good thing.
Turns out, a little less action in the bedroom might be the very thing keeping some couples together.
While sexless marriages are usually viewed as a one-way ticket to splitsville, more couples are sharing that their love lives — minus the actual lovemaking — are happier than ever.
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Take Corey, who told Popsugar in a recent interview that after 13 years with her partner, their relationship reached a whole new high… without going low.
'During the time we weren't having sex, we were growing closer than ever,' Corey said. 'Sex is not the reason we are together; it's just a nice bonus.'
The couple, who got together as hormone-fueled teens, hit a dry patch post-COVID — between chronic fatigue, body image issues and plain ol' burnout. Eventually, they just stopped prioritizing sex.
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'We just kind of weren't in the mood,' Corey explained. 'We learned to communicate even better and genuinely didn't fight at all.'
Instead of calling it quits, they cuddled, kissed, went on dates — and realized their connection didn't hinge on bedroom gymnastics.
'Our relationship is strong, and it's built on mutual respect and genuinely liking one another,' Corey told the outlet.
For some couples, less bedroom action is actually keeping the love alive.
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Corey isn't alone. In a related Reddit post, one man raved about his six-year sexless marriage:
'The decision to stay has been the best of my life, by far. For the past few years, I wake up every day feeling so lucky to be next to such a wonderful partner.'
And these couples may be more on-trend than they think.
As previously reported by The Post, according to a government study analyzed by the Institute of Family Studies, Americans are doing it less — or not at all.
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Sexlessness is soaring among 22- to 34-year-olds, with 24% of men and 13% of women saying they hadn't had sex in the last year.
'In sum, for young adult males, sexlessness has roughly doubled across all measures over the last 10 years,' the IFS noted. 'For young adult females, it has risen by roughly 50 percent.'
One major factor? Fewer folks are getting hitched — and those who are, aren't necessarily getting busy.
A sexless marriage just might be the key to a healthy relationship.
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Even inside marriages, some months are notoriously dry. Post-holiday stress, credit card bills and family drama all contribute to a nationwide libido nosedive.
'It's incredibly common for couples to experience a decline in intimacy during January,' relationship counselor Simone Jobson told The Post.
'The holidays create a lot of external pressure… most people just need time to rest and recover.'
But a cold winter doesn't always mean a cold relationship.
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As Corey proves, sometimes stepping back from sex helps couples find new ways to connect — and even make their way back to the bedroom.
After two years of no sex, she and her beau recently started getting frisky again — but not out of guilt.
'Sex is a wonderful way to connect and feels great, but it doesn't have to be the basis of a marriage,' she said.
Forget the seven-year itch — some couples are scratching their way to marital bliss by skipping the sheets altogether.