Rylan Clark says 'once was enough' as he battles 'sharp pain' in love life insight
Getting over a relationship can be difficult, it's a mountain range of emotions on a turbulent sea as both parties attempt to heal following the split.
Whether there has been a marriage or not, break-ups can be agonising ordeals, meaning that moving forward can be challenging and take considerable time for all involved.
This was one topic former X Factor contestant Rylan Clark, 36, explored with his guest Vanessa Williams on his podcast 'Rylan: How to Be In Love', during which they shared their romantic experiences.
Rylan has been wed once, for six years to Dan Neal, between 2015 and 2021. Meanwhile, The Devil Wears Prada Musical star Vanessa, 62, has walked down the aisle three times.
She was first married to Ramon Hervey II, then to Rick Fox, and finally to Jim Skrip. What both Rylan and actress Vanessa share is that the timing of one of their marriages coincided, with Vanessa tying the knot with Jim in 2015 before their divorce in 2021.
Reflecting on their divorces, Rylan confessed that it wasn't something he would wish to endure again, due to the immense anguish it brought him.
Rylan revealed he continues to experience excruciating reminders of his heartache to this day, sharing: "I've had to do it once and once was enough for me.
"You still get that weird sharp pain every now and again.
"It'll be something so stupid like, 'Oh that glass looks like...' and it's, like, that little. I couldn't imagine going through that twice, I don't know how I'd fare."
Rylan has previously opened up about his marriage to Dan Neal, with the BBC Radio 2 presenter confessing he experienced certain feelings he wasn't familiar with post-divorce.
Speaking on the same podcast, he admitted: "I have found that, since the breakdown of my marriage, if I've gone on any dates or started seeing people, when I've had sex with them, I lose interest pretty quickly.
"I actually got pretty worried about a year or two ago, because I thought, hang on a minute, I don't remember this from BM I call it, before marriage.
"I don't remember having sex with someone, or orgasming with someone, climaxing, and then after that thinking, 'Oh, I'm just not bothered now'."
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