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Navigating sex after breast cancer

Navigating sex after breast cancer

Breast cancer and its treatments do not stop someone from being able to have sex. However, taking a gradual approach, exploring alternatives, and practicing good communication may help a person feel more comfortable. Breast cancer and its treatments can affect a person physically and mentally. They do not stop someone from being able to have sex, but the person may have different feelings toward sex and intimacy after their diagnosis and treatment.Taking the time to identify potential challenges and make changes to how they approach intimacy may help a person feel more comfortable with sex after breast cancer.Breast cancer resourcesVisit our dedicated hub for more research-backed information and in-depth resources on breast cancer.Potential challengesA 2022 review suggests that sexual challenges after breast cancer are very common. Below are some of the challenges that a person may encounter when engaging in intimacy after breast cancer.Physical changesBreast cancer treatments can cause changes to a person's physical body and their body image. These changes can affect a person's quality of life and mental health.Physical changes following breast cancer treatment, such as surgical scars and changes to the appearance of the breasts or a person's hair, can affect their self-esteem and sexual confidence.Other physical changes may relate to sexual activities themselves. For example, people may experience vaginal dryness due to breast cancer treatment.Some people may be able to undergo treatments to restore physical changes, such as breast reconstruction following a mastectomy. However, this can be a complex, time consuming process with its own risks and is not suitable for everyone. For some people, physical changes after breast cancer treatment may be irreversible. »Learn more:How can breast cancer and its treatment affect the body?Anne's story: Treatment effects'When I was making treatment decisions, the thought of losing breast sensation if I had a mastectomy was incredibly overwhelming, and definitely made an already complicated decision even more challenging, which certainly took its toll on my relationship.It really made me think more about what my breasts meant to me in a way I hadn't before, and how treatment might affect how I felt about myself and how comfortable I felt with myself and my partner.'Emotional impactAll stages of breast cancer-related healthcare, from screening and diagnosis to treatment and remission, can have an emotional impact on a person. Some people may develop mental health disorders, such as depression or anxiety.Breast cancer's emotional impact can affect a person's feelings toward sex, which may cause a decrease in sexual satisfaction.LibidoA 2024 study suggests that arousal disorders and decreased sexual desire are two of the most common sexual health symptoms people experience following breast cancer treatment. Factors such as changes in sexual function and sexual enjoyment may affect a person's libido. This may be due to the effects of chemotherapy and hormone therapy.Ongoing side effectsBreast cancer treatments can cause a variety of other side effects, even long-term effects, that can affect a person's sex life. Examples include:fatigueearly menopausebone or joint painhot flashesskin symptoms, such as peeling or sensitivityurinary tract infectionsnauseaphantom breast painvaginal atrophy, which may cause discomfort during sexAccess to specialist helpEvery person's experience of sex and intimacy after breast cancer is unique. Treatments are available to help with many of the issues people experience.People may benefit from specialist healthcare professionals or services, such as sexual counselors, gynecologists, and menopause services. However, people may not have equal access to these options due to financial reasons or a lack of resources in the local area.Managing the effects of breast cancer on sexSexual challenges and changes after breast cancer treatment can vary from person to person. Therefore, the best way to manage these changes may also vary.The following tips may be helpful when you feel ready to have sex again after breast cancer treatment:Prioritize communication: Talk with new or current partners about the challenges you face and what they can do to help you enjoy the sexual experience the most.Take a gradual approach: Avoid rushing back into sex if you do not feel ready. A gradual approach may boost intimacy and help you feel more comfortable.Explore alternatives: Penetrative vaginal sex is not the only way to enjoy intimacy. Explore other options that work for you. This could include kissing, cuddling, or sensual touches, such as massage.Consider sexual aids: Using sexual aids, such as vibrators, by yourself or with a partner may help boost arousal and sexual enjoyment.Address physical discomfort: Speak with a healthcare professional or explore ways to address physical pain during sex. This could involve using artificial lubrication or position changes.Accept physical changes: Take steps to feel more comfortable with any changes in your body. This could include positive affirmations or wearing lingerie during sexual activities to disguise areas you feel less happy with.Help from healthcare professionals is always available. A doctor or breast cancer specialist can help address the specific challenges someone faces.When to speak with a healthcare professionalPeople can speak with a healthcare professional if they experience any sexual challenges following breast cancer. This could be due to physical changes or the emotional effects of their experience.Doctors can prescribe medical treatments to help people manage physical symptoms and treatment side effects. Mental health professionals can also help people work through individual or relationship challenges.People may also find support and comfort by speaking with others with similar experiences. Below are some organizations that people can look at for more support:American Cancer Society Caresbreastcancer.orgCancer CareTriple Negative Breast Cancer FoundationYoung Survival CoalitionPeople may also be able to find local support groups that they can meet with in person.Anne's story: Taking time to heal 'The process of accepting the changes that may happen to your body or your sense of self or comfort during intimacy takes time, and honestly is ever-evolving in many ways – letting yourself feel everything and giving yourself grace and space in this process is so helpful to healing through it.'How partners can offer supportThe charity Cancer Research UK suggests that people can offer support to partners with current or previous breast cancer in the following ways:talk openly and honestly with your partnerpractice active listeninggive your partner time and space to recover if this is what they needtouch or stroke any new scars or body changes, as long as this does not cause discomfort for your partnershow affection in other ways, such as kissing and nonsexual touchingspeak with a talk or sex therapist for help with any challengesPeople can continue communicating with their partner during sexual intimacy. This may include asking if it is okay to touch them somewhere or if something is comfortable.Ultimately, every person's experience of sex after breast cancer is unique. Speaking with a partner about their needs, feelings, and symptoms can help someone provide the best support.»Learn more:How to show emotional supportAnne's story: The best help'The best help I got was just having someone listen and be open to hearing my fears about the impact treatment might have or how I was feeling in my body without necessarily trying to fix it or get me to feel okay about it all sooner than I was ready to.'Frequently asked questionsHow soon after breast cancer treatment can someone resume sexual activity?People should speak with their healthcare team about when it is safe to resume sexual activity during or after breast cancer treatment.People may be able to have sex during treatment if they feel comfortable and ready to. However, they may need to use barrier method contraception, as certain treatment drugs may pass through vaginal secretions.It is also important to avoid pregnancy when having sex during treatment, as treatments such as chemotherapy can cause serious developmental issues for a fetus.People should speak with their healthcare team about when it is safe to resume sexual activity during or after breast cancer treatment.People may be able to have sex during treatment if they feel comfortable and ready to. However, they may need to use barrier method contraception, as certain treatment drugs may pass through vaginal secretions.It is also important to avoid pregnancy when having sex during treatment, as treatments such as chemotherapy can cause serious developmental issues for a fetus.Can people still experience sexual pleasure after breast cancer treatment?Yes, sexual pleasure is still possible after breast cancer treatment. Although it may not feel or look exactly the same as it did before treatment.People can try new positions and techniques to achieve sexual pleasure if they experience any physical changes from breast cancer treatment. This may include exploring new erogenous zones, using lubrication, and prioritizing foreplay and emotional intimacy.Yes, sexual pleasure is still possible after breast cancer treatment. Although it may not feel or look exactly the same as it did before treatment.People can try new positions and techniques to achieve sexual pleasure if they experience any physical changes from breast cancer treatment. This may include exploring new erogenous zones, using lubrication, and prioritizing foreplay and emotional intimacy.What positions or techniques can make sex more comfortable after breast cancer treatment?The most comfortable position and technique for comfortable sex after breast cancer treatment may vary from person to person.For example, if someone has sensitive or painful breasts following surgery, they may benefit from avoiding positions that place any pressure on their chest, which may involve lying on their back or side.If someone experiences pain during sex after breast cancer treatment, they may feel more comfortable by spending more time on foreplay or trying sexual positions that do not allow such deep vaginal penetration.The most comfortable position and technique for comfortable sex after breast cancer treatment may vary from person to person.For example, if someone has sensitive or painful breasts following surgery, they may benefit from avoiding positions that place any pressure on their chest, which may involve lying on their back or side.If someone experiences pain during sex after breast cancer treatment, they may feel more comfortable by spending more time on foreplay or trying sexual positions that do not allow such deep vaginal penetration.SummarySex after breast cancer and its treatments may not look the same as it did before a diagnosis. However, people can still have enjoyable, satisfying sex lives after breast cancer.Sexual intimacy may feel easier if people prioritize communication, be open to alternatives, seek help for ongoing treatment side effects, and work to accept the changes their body has gone through.People can always speak with a healthcare professional for help with physical symptoms and changes or with mental challenges that affect sex after breast cancer.
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