I'm happily married with kids but I've been keeping a shocking secret from my wife for six years - do I tell her?

Daily Mail​

25-07-2025

A happily married dad has dropped a shocking bombshell about his secret double life.
Alex*, believed to be from New Zealand, confessed he cheated on his wife with another woman six years ago when he was on a six-month work trip.
'We ended up having a kid together,' the man, whose voice had been altered as a disguise, told The Edge Breakfast during the Truth Booth segment.
'I had a child with another woman that no one knows about.'
Radio hosts Ash London, Clinton Randell and Dan Webby were lost for words as the unfaithful dad explained how he had been living with guilt all these years.
Getting it off his chest for the first time, Alex admitted he still struggles to wrap his head around the secret, knowing deep down it would destroy not only his marriage but also his relationships with friends and family.
'I've been married for over 10 years with children,' he explained.
Reflecting back, Alex said he had an extramarital affair six years ago while working overseas for six months.
'I found out about five years ago that we ended up having a kid together,' he said.
'Not to mention the fact that it's financially draining me, and I almost feel like this will come out at some point... it needs to. It's a bit tricky.'
Alex said he's been quietly sending the other woman payments to support their son, which has taken a financial toll on him.
'My wife has pointed that out, and I've just said I'm investing more into my investments, which I guess technically is true because his future is my investment,' he said.
He then made another surprising revelation - he has never met his love child in person - only through videos.
'At first I didn't believe it, but then my child has a birthmark that is virtually identical to mine and my mother's, which kind of passes down through genetics,' he said.
The radio hosts tried to put a 'positive spin' on the situation, with Dan suggesting that Alex was 'partly a good person' for supporting his secret child financially.
When asked if he could ever see his worlds collide, Alex said: '100 per cent. Honestly sooner rather than later.
'My heart is beating a mile a minute right now because I don't even know how to approach the situation to be quite honest,' the dad confessed.
'I would absolutely love to meet my son, and I would like my son to be a part of my life and my children's lives.'
Ash chimed in with her advice on what Alex should do.
'I don't know you from a bar of soap and you don't know me, but I'm just going to speak as a wife and a mother... You need to tell your partner,' she said.
'This will eat you alive. And we have one life. Every day that you go on keeping this secret is a day less that you have a relationship with your child.
'They don't know their parent. The longer you leave it, I feel the worse it is. Human beings are complex, but we're also forgiving, and I think truth and light is always better than darkness.'
Alex said he feels a sense of 'dread' and 'relief' by the thought of coming clean.
'I ultimately feel it would be beneficial for all parties, maybe not right now or six months or five years down the line, but at some point it is, I've got to rip the band-aid off,' he said.
'It's quite challenging.'
He said he knows his wife will be 'heartbroken' when the day finally comes that he confesses.
'All things aside, I would call myself a good father and a good husband, despite the obvious,' he said.
'I've been feeling I'm keeping something that I would cherish, you know, a secret. And it's just, it's really not fair.'
Ash was brought to tears as the dad explained how he just wanted to tell his wife the truth but was afraid of the consequences.
'I feel like the trust is quite literally irreversible, irreversibly broken and it's unfortunate,' Alex said.
'God knows I would do anything to rectify it and to move forward, but it's literally juggling my current family and my wife with the child who I want in my life.'
After his confession, Alex said he will eventually come clean to his wife.
'I can definitively say I will inevitably and 100 per cent bring this to light,' he said.