Man Refuses to Pay Girlfriend's $9K Credit Card Debt, but She Says He Needs to 'Invest' in Their Relationship

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A 30-year-old man is seeking advice on whether or not he made the right choice to set a boundaryNEED TO KNOW
A 30-year-old man is seeking advice on whether or not he made the right choice to set a boundary
His girlfriend asked him for $300 to $500 a month to help pay off her credit card debt he didn't know she had
The man refused and now his girlfriend is acting "cold" toward himA man is at odds with his girlfriend after she asked him to pay off some of her credit card debt.
The 30-year-old man sought advice from Reddit on whether he had made the right decision by telling his 28-year-old girlfriend that he wouldn't share the burden of her debt.
"So we've been together almost three years. Things have been good overall," he begins. "We've talked a lot about the future and were planning to move in together soon like actively browsing apartments kind of soon."
However, last week, she told him that she had "around $9,000 in credit card debt," which he never knew about.
"I asked why she didn't mention it earlier and she said it was embarrassing and she thought she could get a handle on it before it became our problem," he explains.
Then, his girlfriend told him that she wanted to "delay" moving in together unless he was willing to help her pay off the debt. She proposed that he could cover $300 to $500 a month to help "speed things up," but he told her he "wasn't comfortable with that."
'I don't have any debt. I worked hard to stay that way. I've had my own money struggles, so I've always been careful with spending," he explains. "And while I don't mind helping out here and there in a relationship, I don't think it's fair to expect me to take on someone else's financial mess, especially before we even live together."
His girlfriend didn't see it that way and told him he was being 'unsupportive' and that if he "really saw a future with her," he'd be "willing to invest" in it.
"But to me that's not what this is. It feels more like I'm being asked to bail her out and I'm just not okay with that," he adds.
While the man remained firm and refused to give her the money, now things are 'awkward."
"She's barely texting back and when we talk, she's cold. I feel like I'm being punished for setting a boundary," he concludes. "But I also don't want to start living together on the wrong foot feeling like I'm financially responsible for her past choices."
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People in the comments section of his post told him that he was making the right move by not giving her the money.
'This is a problem she created. You are not her checkbook,' one person commented.
'Run, dude! Any partner who hides their debt, then tries to guilt you into paying it, then gaslights you when you say no is not the person to build a life with,' another person wrote.
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