Mind your own beeswax
Long ago, a poet named John Donne was annoyed at the sun for poking its nose into his private morning. He wanted to spend time with his lover without the bright sun waking them up and exposing their private moment. Today, the sun has been replaced by something even nosier: people with phones, social media, and strong opinions about other people's lives.
Recently, at a Coldplay concert, a camera zoomed in on a couple in the crowd. The lead singer, Chris Martin, joked that they might be cheating on their partners. Suddenly, everyone online jumped into the drama. People all over the world were trying to figure out who they were, what their story was, and whether they were doing something 'wrong.'
It's not just Indian aunties and uncles who like to gossip. Judging people's personal lives is a global hobby. And when social media helps, it spreads like wildfire.
A long time ago, in some places, women accused of cheating were even dragged into public and shamed. That kind of harshness is wrong, but sadly, the habit of embarrassing others hasn't disappeared. Now people just do it online.
In India, it used to be a crime to cheat on your partner, but in 2018, the law changed. The court said adults have the right to make their own choices about relationships. Even so, the idea that cheating should be punished still shows up in court cases about divorce, money, and kids.
Of course, cheating can hurt someone deeply. But it's not for the whole world to get involved in. If something happens between two people in a relationship, it should be handled by them—not the internet, not strangers, not a stadium full of people.
So next time you see a story like that online, remember: just because a camera catches something doesn't mean it's your business.
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