How Emotionally Intelligent Leaders Build High-Performing Teams

Forbes

4 days ago

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In most organizations, leaders are trained to focus on outcomes: metrics, milestones, and momentum. But top-performing leaders understand something deeper: what truly drives results isn't always visible on a dashboard.
Team performance rarely reveals itself in spreadsheets. It surfaces in the quiet signals: shifts in tone, dips in energy, a pause that lingers too long in a meeting, a Slack message that feels just slightly… off.
These cues are subtle, and easy to miss. But tuning into them is what separates emotionally intelligent leaders from the rest. It's often the difference between building a culture of trust and watching one quietly unravel.
Listening Beyond the Metrics: Why Emotional Intelligence Matters
In today's workplace, emotional intelligence (EQ) is no longer optional; it's a leadership differentiator. According to Gallup, only 1 in 10 people naturally possess high managerial talent. What sets them apart? The ability to individualize: to understand what motivates each person, how they communicate, and when something isn't quite right.
That kind of attunement isn't about being soft. It's about being effective.
It's not a skill you can outsource or automate. It's built through intentional behaviors, repeated consistently.
Bock Realty Group: A Case Study in Attuned Leadership
At Bock Realty Group (BRG) in Bryan-College Station, Texas, emotional intelligence shows up in everyday routines. Every Monday, team huddles begin with a simple but powerful question:
'On a scale of 1 to 10, how are you doing…really?'
Any score below a 7 gets a one-on-one follow-up.
'When someone gives a six, we don't ignore it,' says Megan Bock, who co-leads BRG with her husband, Gabe. 'We check in that day. It opens a door that might've stayed closed.'
These intentional check-ins create a sense of psychological safety, which is the same quality identified in Google's Project Aristotle as the #1 factor in high-performing teams.
'It's not about overfunctioning or coddling,' Megan adds. 'It's about making sure people know they matter, and they're seen.'
Gabe Bock, Co-founder, Bock Realty Group Megan Bock, CEO, Bock Realty Group
How High-Trust Leaders Respond to the Right Signals
Many companies fear that growth will dilute their culture. But the bigger risk isn't dilution; it's drift. As organizations scale, systems get louder, and people get quieter.
BRG avoids drift by treating culture like a living system. One of their core practices? Reevaluating every team member's role and responsibilities every six months.
'Every person on our team knows we're going to ask—not just once, but regularly,' says Gabe. 'And when they bring something up, we don't get defensive. We listen. That feedback has helped us evolve in ways we couldn't have planned for.'
A 2023 McKinsey study confirms the ROI: companies with strong internal talent development practices are significantly more likely to outperform financially. And the key predictor wasn't policy—it was managerial behavior.
Emotional Intelligence in the Day-to-Day
True leadership shows up not in slogans or offsites, but in how you respond when things get hard. At BRG, emotional intelligence shapes how they lead in three common (and high-stakes) scenarios:
Instead of pressure, the first move is curiosity.
'If someone's off their game, we don't start with critique,' Megan says. 'We ask, 'What's going on? How can we help?' Most of the time, just knowing we care changes everything.'
Fast-moving businesses often outgrow old job descriptions. At BRG, role resets are baked in, rather than reactive.
'We've had to reset more than once,' Gabe notes. 'That's not a failure. That's how you stay real.'
A few years ago, a team member flagged that one of BRG's internal systems was clunky. Leadership didn't defend it. Instead, they changed it.
'It boosted morale and performance,' Gabe says. 'But more than that, it sent a message: Your voice matters.'
That same attentiveness shows up beyond the walls of the team. BRG applies the same emotionally intelligent leadership with clients: Proactively communicating during stressful transactions, staying attuned to unspoken needs, and showing up with consistency. Megan notes that clients often respond most to how present and attentive the team is: 'It's not just about buying or selling—it's about trust.'
Three Practical Leadership Tools That Build Trust
Here are three low-lift, high-impact tools you can borrow from BRG to strengthen trust, engagement, and emotional intelligence in your organization:
Ask your team regularly—verbally or digitally—how they're doing on a scale from 1 to 10. Follow up personally on low scores. This builds a rhythm of attention deeper than KPIs.
Twice a year, ask every team member:
Then adjust accordingly. As Megan says, 'Clarity is kindness.' Clarity fuels confidence.
Map how feedback flows through your team. Where are the friction points or power gaps? Great teams thrive when every voice has a path to impact.
Leading in the Quiet: A New Model for Leadership
In a noisy world, leadership isn't about being the loudest voice in the room—it's about being the most attuned. It's about picking up on the subtle shifts in tone, energy, or presence that others overlook.
'It's usually not loud,' Megan says. 'It's in the little things: subtle shifts in energy, tone, or engagement.'
At Bock Realty Group, trust is built in the small, consistent behaviors that often go unnoticed: celebrating wins, checking in without being asked, and showing up with steady care.
'It's remembering names, celebrating small wins, checking in when no one asks, and being the kind of person others can count on,' she explains. 'That's what leadership looks like in real life.'
And in today's workplace, that kind of leadership isn't just thoughtful—it's a strategic edge.
Emotionally intelligent leadership doesn't require a personality overhaul. It requires attention, intention, and the willingness to notice what's usually overlooked.
Because the future of leadership won't be measured only in outputs. It will be defined by what (and who) you're tuned in to.
That tuning doesn't stop inside the organization. When leaders lead with presence and care, it ripples outward. Clients notice. Relationships deepen. Trust becomes the differentiator, across every touchpoint of the customer and employee experience.