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Daily Mail
01-07-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
I've started throwing a cup of cold water over my husband every time he keeps to his lazy bathroom habits - I've been called 'bitter' but I'm tired of his excuses
A woman who began launching a cup of cold water over her husband as payback for his not switching the shower head has been criticised as 'bitter'. For 20 years, the unidentified woman has been asking her husband to switch the shower valve - the rod that sprays water from the shower head when up, and fills the bath from the tap when down. Most mornings, she steps in expecting the water to come from the tap and heat up there but, as she told the popular Reddit forum Am I The A**hole, she is instead met with a spray of freezing cold water. In an expletive-filled post, the woman wrote: 'For nearly twenty. f***ing. years. I have been asking him to push that down. Since I was literally a teenager, I have been asking him to push that f***ing thing down. 'At least twice a month I have a VERY unpleasant wakeup/cold shower, because I turn the water on, and I get a cold spray from the shower. And every f***ing time he's apologetic, and then a week or two later, it happens again. 'He will do better for a while, and then it slips in again. He is always telling me that he's working on it, and hasn't he been better about it lately. But somehow he's always working on it, always improving, but it never f***ing stops. 'Today I had just f***ing had it. I stepped into the shower, turned it on and had a very cold and rude awakening. 'I couldn't f***ing take it anymore. I grabbed the cup by the sink and filled it about 3 inches with cold water, and walked out to where he was standing naked. He had just taken off his pajamas and was going to take his shower after mine. 'Without warning, while he was looking down, I held that plastic cup firmly in my hand and I jerked that mother***er in a 45 degree angle to get that cold water all over his torso and face.' The woman told her husband she was tired of listening to him 'congratulate himself for "getting better".' She continued: 'I told him that from now on, every time I'm taking a cold shower, so is he. 'That I refuse to be a second class citizen in my own home any longer, and if he refuses to make changes to treat me better, I will instead make changes to treat him worse, because I will not tolerate this any more. 'I'm going to continue to surprise-throw a cold cup of water on him every time I get a surprise cold shower. 'I'm tired of f***ing begging for basic f***ing respect and not getting it, with the implication that I have to f***ing put up with this forever. 'So, I know I'm probably an a**hole... but am I a justified a**hole?' Obviously at the end of her tether, the woman's post sparked furious debate and racked up over 10,000 comments. Many were arguing that she was justified in refusing to tolerate insensitive behaviour any longer, while others felt she could easily fix the issue herself. One person wrote: 'For nearly 20 years you could have learned to take two seconds to look at it yourself. This is a you problem, not him.' An apparent majority of commenters shared this view, questioning why the woman steps into the shower immediately. One comment read: 'I'm honestly scratching my head at getting into the shower before the water goes on. 'Even if it's coming out of the tub faucet hot, the initial shower water will be cold. Plus, who wants to stand there naked and cold waiting for the water to heat?' But others were sympathetic, arguing that her behaviour is not pure hysteria, but the culmination of decades of harboured frustration. A commenter said: 'Can we consider the possibility that, when someone has reached the level of throwing a cup of cold water in their spouse's face, that it's not about the one minor annoyance? 'The post is pretty clear here. This is not "my husband is a caring and supportive member of the household 99 per cent of the time, but has this one blind spot". 'This is "I have spent 20 years turning myself inside out to get this person to make baby steps in pulling his weight, and nothing ever gets better." 'She feels trapped and powerless, so she's behaving like a petty a**hole. She should have left long before she got to this point.' Even responders who empathise with the woman's situation are aghast at her unusual bathroom habit of standing in the tub while the water heats up. 'You get in the shower or the tub and then turn the water on?' asked one incredulous commenter. 'You don't run the water for a few seconds to let it warm up? This makes zero sense to me. 'In my over 40 years on this planet, I have never gotten into a shower or the tub and then turned the water on because I know 100 per cent of the time, the water will be ice cold. 'So, either I am standing in ice cold water in the tub because the diverter is down, or I am jumping out of the way because the diverter is up. 'All of this, literally ALL OF THIS could have been avoided if you simply turned the water on before you got in. I can't be the only person who finds this bizarre.'
Yahoo
27-06-2025
- Business
- Yahoo
People with this money habit are happier and calmer — no matter how much they make
They say money can't buy happiness — but how you handle it just might. A surprising new study has found that one financial behavior is consistently linked to lower anxiety and greater life satisfaction. The research — published in the aptly named journal Stress and Health — controlled for income, meaning you don't need to make bank in order to enjoy the mental health benefits. It seems that good fiscal management — meaning regularly saving money and paying off your credit cards on time — is the true key to bliss. The findings were based on the data of over 20,000 Australians over the course of 20 years and used the Mental Health Inventory-5 — a scientifically validated screening instrument for anxiety and depression — to calculate results. A 1% uptick in saving habits was linked to a 0.475% improvement in mental health scores, while a 1% increase in consistent credit card payments led to a 0.507% boost, which is more significant than it sounds. Most importantly, people who made the same amount of money but had different fiscal management styles showed very different levels of happiness and peace of mind. While many studies have shown a correlation between income and life satisfaction, this study is unique in that it indicates good financial habits — rather than a fat paycheck — can significantly improve mental health. These results held steady through major economic upheavals, including the 2008 financial crisis and the COVID-19 pandemic. The researchers believe being fiscally responsible can help reduce 'financial strain' — that constant background stress of not knowing if you can cover bills, emergencies or unexpected costs. It can also have an unpleasant domino effect. 'When individuals are financially strained, they often can't save as much or invest, so they miss out on growth and meeting those goals they might have set for the future,' study co-author Rajabrata Banerjee, a professor of applied economics at the University of South Australia, said in a statement. 'People can also become reliant on borrowing to meet their basic needs, and this can lead to high interest payments and continuous debt cycles.' The researchers also hope these findings might inspire people to take actionable steps to control their financial — and, subsequently, mental — health. 'That's why healthy financial behavior is important to build stability and long-term security, allowing goal achievement, independence and access to opportunities, as well as reduced stress and good mental health,' he said. Interestingly, the benefits were more pronounced for men when it came to saving habits — though both genders saw improvements across multiple measures of well-being, including emotional resilience and social functioning. The researchers also looked at whether the relationship worked the other way around — that is, if poor mental health led to worse financial decisions — but found almost no evidence of that. So go ahead and set up that auto pay — because clearing your balance leads to a balanced mind.
