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2 days ago
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Women Are Sharing The Things Men Have Done That Made Them Feel Genuinely Safe, And I Need All The Dudes Out There To Take Some Serious Notes
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), violence against women is a major public health problem. Globally, about 1 in 3 women (30%) have been subjected to physical and/or sexual intimate violence with a partner, non-partner, or both. It can be very scary being a woman, and finding men who genuinely make us feel safe (platonically or romantically) is a relieving moment of solidarity in some of the scariest situations. So when Reddit user u/RawLoveOnTour asked the question, "What's something a man did for you that made you feel genuinely safe?" In r/AskWomen, I knew it would be full of stories of relief, gratefulness, and intuitive men really stepping up to help make women feel even the smallest bit safer in a world that sees so many of us mistreated: 1."The day that he asked me out for the first time (and I replied with a bouncy yes, because I'd been crushing on him hard for a long time), he asked me if I wanted a hug and then waited for my enthusiastic, 'Yes, please!' before he came in for it. That level of consent seeking has been the pattern all through our relationship as my boundaries shifted in his direction. Love the guy!" —u/Basic-Remote-1053 2."He flew me across the country, gave me my own bedroom to decorate as I wished, told me not to worry about anything, just to heal, and expected nothing in return. I am blessed." —u/Visible-Ad8410 3."I once had a room in a shared dorm in a hostel booked, and when I got there, the male receptionist was about to give me the key to the room when he realized that it would only be me and a group of like 15 men who came to watch a sports game. He immediately was like, 'Nope, not doing that,' and gave me an entire dorm room to myself." —u/biodegradableotters 4."When I was walking my dog at night at 19, I had a man walking behind us shout, 'Hello, is it okay if I walk in front of you? I don't want you to think I am following you,' maybe because he was a senior man, but it made me feel safer." —u/Look_over_that_way 5."We were going out as a gang of friends one night and kind of had to navigate by foot through a shady spot with lots of leering men. My friend held my hand immediately and walked beside me until we got to where our vehicles were parked, and we left. It was a kind reminder that some men are, in fact, sensitive to the discomfort and don't hesitate to reach out and keep you safe without being told." —u/Dr__Pheonx 6."When I was in a serious relationship with my man, I was hanging out with our collective friends. And when they basically told me that they just see me as a person and not as a woman, it made me realize that I was completely safe with them. And that they are really, really good friends." —u/Guest2424 7."I worked nights with a guy I got along with well and regarded as a friend. We'd usually walk to the bus station together after our shift; he'd just get a bus home in the other direction. One evening, he told me he had plans after work to go see a friend who lived just across the street." "Later, we're leaving, and he begins walking with me, so I ask, 'You're coming to the bus station?' Aren't you going to go see your friend?' And he looks at me like I'm unhinged and goes, 'Yeah, but I'm making sure you get home OK, silly!'" —u/chimairacle 8."He texted me when he got home before he came inside and waited for me to text back. My husband does this anytime he's gone for an unexpected/unplanned amount of time. There's nothing quite like coming out of the shower or dancing with my headphones on, and there's A MAN JUST SUDDENLY THERE. My body panics before I can register that it's my husband." —u/nanny2359 9."I used to date this guy, and whenever we walked together on the sidewalk, he always made sure to pull me to his left or right so I wouldn't be the closest one to the road. It was smooth and made me feel safe." —u/sandyguuurl 10."A fight broke out between two people on a crowded bus. It started with lots of shouting, but it was escalating quite fast. I was really uncomfortable as one of them started getting really close to me, so a man physically put himself between me and them and told them to back off. I'm really thankful for people like him." —u/g0atygoat 11."I had my head down looking at my phone in a group of four people, went to walk across the road, and he stuck his arm out to stop me from walking into the traffic. He gave me a quick smile and left. That small smile made that whole thing feel less scary than it could have been. I don't know him, but I've felt safe around that area of the city ever since. The group had left me behind; they'd crossed the road." —u/GloomyLittleGirl 12."There was a guy at school (college) who kept harassing me and trying to ask me out despite me saying no. He even figured out where my classes were and would wait for me outside the door. I told one of my friends, who was this really buff army guy, and he escorted me out of the classroom. Creeper guy never bothered me again." —u/chironinja82 13."I have a phobia of heights (specifically falling). This plays out in many ways, but especially at auditoriums (think hockey rink where you have to go down steep steps to your seat). We went somewhere I had never been, and it was the steepest/most intense reaction I had ever had!" "He never rushed me, stood in front for as long as I needed, gave me a hand/shoulder to hold in between railings (because of course they had gaps), and was a calm/steady support. He even kept his arm across me when we were seated (like a seatbelt) because I asked him to. He never complained, got annoyed, or invalidated me. He just gave unconditional support and told me how great I was doing. I would not have even tried if he wasn't there." —u/ICUP1985 And finally, here's a nice one to read for all the women who enjoy a nice solo trip: 14."I was on my first solo trip. It was the first day, and I was nervous. The auto driver was making small talk, and I was being hyperaware and dodging questions. I think he realized I was uncomfortable and started talking about himself and his family instead. I instantly relaxed once I realized he didn't have any ill intention." "I told him I had a show I was seeing in the evening and asked if I'd be able to get a cab or something late at night. He offered to drop me off. I hesitated because I didn't want him to know where I was staying, but I also didn't want to walk alone at night in a foreign city. He noticed and offered some numbers of other drivers, gave me a taxi service number, and even suggested I stay at a hotel for the night near where the show was. He was a great guy, and I still have his number for any time I visit the city again." —u/StopthinkingitsMe Do you have your own story to share about a time a man did something that made you feel genuinely safe? Let me know your story in the comments! Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity. Solve the daily Crossword
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2 days ago
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Women Share How Men Made Them Feel Safe
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), violence against women is a major public health problem. Globally, about 1 in 3 women (30%) have been subjected to physical and/or sexual intimate violence with a partner, non-partner, or both. It can be very scary being a woman, and finding men who genuinely make us feel safe (platonically or romantically) is a relieving moment of solidarity in some of the scariest situations. So when Reddit user u/RawLoveOnTour asked the question, "What's something a man did for you that made you feel genuinely safe?" In r/AskWomen, I knew it would be full of stories of relief, gratefulness, and intuitive men really stepping up to help make women feel even the smallest bit safer in a world that sees so many of us mistreated: "The day that he asked me out for the first time (and I replied with a bouncy yes, because I'd been crushing on him hard for a long time), he asked me if I wanted a hug and then waited for my enthusiastic, 'Yes, please!' before he came in for it. That level of consent seeking has been the pattern all through our relationship as my boundaries shifted in his direction. Love the guy!" "He flew me across the country, gave me my own bedroom to decorate as I wished, told me not to worry about anything, just to heal, and expected nothing in return. I am blessed." "I once had a room in a shared dorm in a hostel booked, and when I got there, the male receptionist was about to give me the key to the room when he realized that it would only be me and a group of like 15 men who came to watch a sports game. He immediately was like, 'Nope, not doing that,' and gave me an entire dorm room to myself." "When I was walking my dog at night at 19, I had a man walking behind us shout, 'Hello, is it okay if I walk in front of you? I don't want you to think I am following you,' maybe because he was a senior man, but it made me feel safer." "We were going out as a gang of friends one night and kind of had to navigate by foot through a shady spot with lots of leering men. My friend held my hand immediately and walked beside me until we got to where our vehicles were parked, and we left. It was a kind reminder that some men are, in fact, sensitive to the discomfort and don't hesitate to reach out and keep you safe without being told." "When I was in a serious relationship with my man, I was hanging out with our collective friends. And when they basically told me that they just see me as a person and not as a woman, it made me realize that I was completely safe with them. And that they are really, really good friends." "I worked nights with a guy I got along with well and regarded as a friend. We'd usually walk to the bus station together after our shift; he'd just get a bus home in the other direction. One evening, he told me he had plans after work to go see a friend who lived just across the street." "He texted me when he got home before he came inside and waited for me to text back. My husband does this anytime he's gone for an unexpected/unplanned amount of time. There's nothing quite like coming out of the shower or dancing with my headphones on, and there's A MAN JUST SUDDENLY THERE. My body panics before I can register that it's my husband." "I used to date this guy, and whenever we walked together on the sidewalk, he always made sure to pull me to his left or right so I wouldn't be the closest one to the road. It was smooth and made me feel safe." "A fight broke out between two people on a crowded bus. It started with lots of shouting, but it was escalating quite fast. I was really uncomfortable as one of them started getting really close to me, so a man physically put himself between me and them and told them to back off. I'm really thankful for people like him." "I had my head down looking at my phone in a group of four people, went to walk across the road, and he stuck his arm out to stop me from walking into the traffic. He gave me a quick smile and left. That small smile made that whole thing feel less scary than it could have been. I don't know him, but I've felt safe around that area of the city ever since. The group had left me behind; they'd crossed the road." "There was a guy at school (college) who kept harassing me and trying to ask me out despite me saying no. He even figured out where my classes were and would wait for me outside the door. I told one of my friends, who was this really buff army guy, and he escorted me out of the classroom. Creeper guy never bothered me again." "I have a phobia of heights (specifically falling). This plays out in many ways, but especially at auditoriums (think hockey rink where you have to go down steep steps to your seat). We went somewhere I had never been, and it was the steepest/most intense reaction I had ever had!" And finally, here's a nice one to read for all the women who enjoy a nice solo trip: "I was on my first solo trip. It was the first day, and I was nervous. The auto driver was making small talk, and I was being hyperaware and dodging questions. I think he realized I was uncomfortable and started talking about himself and his family instead. I instantly relaxed once I realized he didn't have any ill intention." Do you have your own story to share about a time a man did something that made you feel genuinely safe? Let me know your story in the comments!
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4 days ago
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Women Are Sharing Their Most Unconventional Desires For A Partner, And Some Are Really Making Me Giggle
Reddit user KitchenLoose6552 recently asked r/AskWomen, "What's a really weird thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner? Keep it unconventional." Here are the shocking responses: 1."He has to be okay with making it an absolute habit to ALWAYS close the lid before he flushes." —Ukacelody 2."Someone who knows how to act at the airport and has similar ideas about arrival time. It's not that unconventional, but in general, someone who knows how to act in public pretty much covers it." —settingiskey 3."This is definitely a weird need, but it's more of an anti thing: I cannot STAND when someone uses words like 'tummy,' 'tum tum,' 'bum,' etc. STOP talking like a toddler. I swear, the most perfect person for me would be ruined if they said they had a 'tummy' ache or liked my 'tummy.'" —motion_thiccness 4."I need them to be able to enjoy cilantro. It would honestly be a dealbreaker for me." —bruhan Related: 5."Squeezes out the dish sponge and puts it up. Don't leave it sitting soppy and gross in the sink. I think this says a lot about someone." —SunburntGemz 6."Similar sleeping schedules. I don't want to be waiting around all morning for them to get up at 2 p.m." —ChippedChipmunk 7."It's of utmost importance that he eats quietly." —mermands "This, and they eat with their mouth SHUT. I don't want to see your food or hear that lip-smacking. I'm big into manners, but it is beyond manners; It's just gross." —Sad_Marketing_Girl 8."Animals need to be naturally drawn to them." —antiquatedsheep 9."Trimmed and neat nails. Non-negotiable." —calpikochu 10."Someone who likes to slowly wander and admire nature with me. Like, I don't want an avid hiker hitting trails just to get to the top as quickly as possible. I want the meandering ones who are like, 'Look at this cool rock!' or, 'Whoa, look, there's a cute little lizard/bird right there.' I take time outdoors, and could sit there for several minutes just observing pelicans, or getting a cool picture of a mushroom. But also, they can't be shoving freaky-looking bugs into my face to look at. That's crossing a line for me." —Responsible-Survivor Related: 11."I love nervous men. Like, I love it when men are obviously nervous about being around you, etc. I think it's so cute." —Successful-Ad4992 12."Must be good at board games. Or, at least, good at understanding the rules to board games so I don't feel like yanking my hair out whenever we try a new one." —sidewaysballcap 13."They need to be at least a little more mean/assertive than I am. I like having someone who will tell the waiter they got my order wrong (politely!) because I sure as hell won't." —ggpopart 14."Will order the food AND share the food. All food is for sharing." —BunnyGirlSD 15."My partners have to be nerdy about something. I love a special interest!" —throwawaypolyam 16."Someone willing to dance with me. Even if it's just in the living room. Even if he's not good at it. I'm not either, but I still like to do it. It boils down to a guy willing to do the little things because they matter to me. There are a decade's worth of issues in my relationship, but they can be simplified to: He won't even dance with me in the living room with no one watching." —Tower-Junkie Related: 17."I need someone who knows how to navigate telling me when I'm wrong. Like, seriously, tell me I'm wrong. But you need to be smart enough that I believe you instead of feeling defensive. I thought I just wanted smart, but smart is often unable to hear when they're wrong, or they are defensive. I want a very precise mix of smart, humble, analytical, and tactful. The first time I drop a hot take, if you can't come at me, I'm not interested." —Marielynn502 18."Someone who knows angles and can take good pictures! The number of times I've asked a guy to take a picture of me (where, to me, it's obvious how to 'frame' the photo) and it comes out poorly. Like sigh, thanks for trying, but I'll just take a selfie. Also, someone who knows how to take good pics of himself. It may be shallow, but the whole under-the-chin shot with dead eyes looking at the screen, not the camera, is such an ick." —Such-Swimming2109 19."They need different meme sources from me so that we can both show each other things that make us laugh without having already seen everything." —SlugKing003 20."I'm not a yapper at all, so I love a guy who can just talk about whatever and let me listen and interject occasionally." —Wiknite 21."Knows how to spell, has good grammar, and knows how to text properly. They need to be able to use punctuation accurately. Send texts that are not too long or too short." —Responsible_Bake_854 "When I started dating again in my 30s, grammar was so important to me. I can't stand reading messages from someone who can't write properly. I am not as picky about them knowing how to dance, but being willing to is also very important. And just willing to try things in general. I want to go out, explore, and have fun. I don't need someone who is going to hold me back (again)." —jneinefr 22."Something that's important to me and I never mention it, but always look for it: They can't be addicted to social media (or doom scrolling). In recent times, I've found that the ones who stay scrolling on Instagram come up with imaginary issues in the relationship." —Inside_Success4817 23."Someone who isn't weirded out by farting, and can hopefully laugh about it. It's a normal human function. I am not running to the bathroom every time I need to fart once I am serious with someone." —sisterfunkhaus 24."My partner cannot be picky. I'm a huge foodie, and I need to be able to explore new foods with a partner." —WitchQueen_ Related: 25."Must sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door in case we have an intruder." —patchouliii 26."Has to love garlic." —EustachiaVye 27."Guys who have zero issue eating my leftovers." —quattic 28."He can't have a high-stakes hobby. NO CAVE DIVING OR EXTREME MOUNTAIN HIKING. You promise me a lifetime, you're not getting out of it by doing some dumb shit like that." —TinyTupperwares 29."No spitting! I hate when people spit on the ground!!!!!" —DrinkRound3484 30."Someone who knows how to get to the point. They don't talk in circles so much that 15 minutes go by, and they're still not at the main point of their argument. Doesn't over-explain if there's no need to." —Responsible_Bake_854 "They must be able to sit in complete silence with me for hours without it being weird. No small talk, no pressure. Just presence. I guess I need someone whose soul can rest next to mine. Bonus points if they don't get offended when I suddenly go, 'I need space,' and vanish for a bit." —Present_Excitement54 No matter who you are or what gender you're attracted to, what's an unconventional trait that you desire in a partner? Tell us in the comments or share anonymously using this form. Also in Internet Finds: Also in Internet Finds: Also in Internet Finds: Solve the daily Crossword
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14-07-2025
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Women Are Sharing The Downsides Of 'Pretty Privilege,' And We Really Can't Win Either Way, Can We?
In society, women are constantly judged and shamed based on their physical appearance, with privilege often granted to those who fit conventional beauty standards. But what happens when you fit the standard to an extreme degree? Interestingly, in r/AskWomen, a question was posed, "Women who are attractive and desired by everyone, what are the downsides?" The answers that poured in all seemed to say, it's complicated. Here are the cons that come with what many like to call "pretty privilege": 1."Stalkers and people who won't take no for an answer." — plaid-blazer 2."Unwanted attention and discomfort from it." — ahawt1 "And how young the unwanted attention starts..." — funkyaerialjunky Related: 3."People misinterpret your friendliness as attraction, and other women may dislike you for being how you are." — Chococow280 4."It can be nice. It opens a lot of doors, but closes a lot of minds." — tutusweet 5."People rarely take you seriously, no matter the gender. If you're attractive, you're automatically considered dumb in the majority of situations. It's difficult to make friends — female friends because they can be jealous or worried about being perceived as not as pretty, and male friends because they become interested in you romantically or sexually. Professionally, you get both point one and point two. It's especially annoying when people are condescending or accuse you of sleeping your way into a position (because of course, a pretty woman can't be competent). From a relationship standpoint, most men treat you like a pretty doll and get annoyed if you have opinions or principles." "It's easy to get dates and hookups, but very difficult to get someone to look beyond the exterior. You also deal with a lot of jealousy because other men will hit on you when you are out with your partner. You will get insulted a lot, so you need to develop thick skin and a healthy self-esteem that isn't based on your looks, because once you get older, you will lose that advantage." — Hellion_38 6."I've been in a lot of relationships, but it becomes pretty obvious that they are just with me for my physical appearance. I feel like a doll. Once I start showing any type of emotion that isn't in line with what they want to see or deal with, I'm essentially put away on a shelf. They don't want to deal with my annoyance or my sadness. Only when I'm smiling." — Aggressive-Bidet 7."You keep meeting people who act like they're serious about you because they like the way you look, but when they realize you're a real person with problems and flaws, they always leave or end up treating you poorly, and then you realize you've spent your whole life being lusted over and never loved properly." — Ill_Increase4836 Related: 8."I'm hit on so much, constantly, and it's scary. More times than I can count. I'm 41 and very pregnant right now, and I was telling my husband how much safer it feels being in what most people find the most vulnerable state. It's a sad double-edged sword." — DogsDucks 9."I would add that in no way can you have male friends who aren't family. I'm in my late 30s, and I have never successfully had a male friendship that didn't turn into them wanting more. Married or not, it didn't matter. The husband's brother, friend, or cousin. It's very depressing. I read a thread once about someone losing their pretty privilege with old age and how wonderfully freeing it was to disappear into the background, and honestly, I can't wait for that day." — [DELETED] 10."I feel like so many men want to take you down a notch, too. Like, she must never get any criticism or negative treatment because she's attractive. Hah, that explains my low self-esteem." "I was never taken seriously at work. I got told I was promoted at 24 for wearing skirt suits that every woman also wore. I work remotely now and started off wearing my glasses to try and look more intelligent and serious. Other women are snide, like, 'Oh, she'll never know what this is like.' I tend to get bullied and ousted in friend groups. It has gotten better as I've gotten older, but some women are still mean AF." — Amrick 11."I'd like to add that in certain professional settings, people attempt to take advantage of you. Also, the misogyny is aggravated if you're very conventionally attractive. Also, the number of people who will nearly abuse you in insisting they want to sleep with you is wild." — Eastern_Yam_5975 Related: 12."One of the reasons I got off the dating apps is that if men found me attractive, they would usually start by projecting their fantasies of the perfect woman onto me. It's wild to start a date with someone so excited to see you, and then slowly watch them become more and more disappointed and frustrated because they're realizing in real time that you're an actual person with your own ideas and thoughts, and not the fantasy they made up in their head." — quandomenvooooo 13."You become an object. Some people hold idealized versions of you in their head" — 666wife 14."I think this is why you usually see older beautiful women in long-term relationships with dudes who are just absolute goblins. Like, you know that guy is funny and respectful." — DancesWithWeirdos 15."Now that I'm in my 40s, it's getting more and more relaxed and normal. Somehow, I'm relieved that my physical attractiveness is vanishing because some things are disappearing: constantly being hit on, annoying 'compliments,' being reduced to a pretty surface, jealousy, envy, getting insulted, downgraded, and negative attention. I'm glad that the last stressful 25 years are over now." — Kelly_the_tailor 16."You end up with so many haters. Unfortunately, you often don't even realize who they are. They seem like friends until they find a way to one-up you, then they suck the life out of you. They're conflicted and have befriended you for jealous reasons. Make sure you learn to recognize when people are using you or coveting you, or treating you strangely." — SurpriseDragon 17."The downside — or upside, depending on your temperament — is that as you age, you will become invisible. Extroverts (in general) will mourn the loss. Introverts (in general) will relish the freedom." — candlestick_maker76 Related: 18."I'm decently attractive, but the bigger issue is that I have some 'natural' features that make me stand out. People stare — all the time. No shame. If you stand out because of your looks, the basic rules of polite society don't apply." — FoSheepish 19."If you're friendly, you're flirting. If you're reserved, you're rude and stuck up. You will seriously trigger other people's insecurities, and they will not like you for it." — Lost_Music_6960 20."The constant need to perform. I'm aware that I get a lot of stares, so I always have to be conscious of how I'm being perceived. People project their fantasies onto me. I feel like I owe it to them not to let their fantasies down. Or else they get really snappy and angry." — Glittering-Sun4193 21."I have two close friends who are absolutely stunning and extremely magnetic. One, whom I grew up with, was born beautiful, and the other grew into it. You attract A LOT of creeps. Our middle school teachers were really creepy towards her. In dating, a lot of the lovely, nice guys won't approach them because they're intimidated, but the guys with a lot of bravado will come in hot." "Pretty privilege is legit but also has significant costs. Being super gorgeous also means you are compared to others all the time because that's what's top of their minds when they think of you." — tiredtoes 22."It's worse when you're younger, like in your early 20s, because predatory men can smell the lower self-confidence in professional settings. The other shit thing is you kind of rely on attention for validation about how you feel about yourself. Like, you get used to people looking at you in the street and hitting on you when you're out, and don't take much notice. But when, for some reason, it stops (for me, I started IVF, gained 20lbs, got pregnant, and moved to a tiny old town), you really, really notice the decrease in attention. And it's weirdly very HARD." "I never thought I gave a shit or even really noticed until people stopped looking as much, and I'm like, 'Oh, am I ugly now?' I don't know how I feel about myself because I can't see myself without their appreciation of me. Does that make sense? Sounds so shallow, but it's quite confronting and very surprising!" — AioliLopsided3726 finally, "Beauty is a resource that people, especially men, want to use for one reason or another — sex, validation, status, pretty aesthetics, and sometimes money. So you have to decide who you are and what you want before getting sucked into some other person's agenda and life. Figuring yourself out is hard enough without other people trying to pull you into their orbit for their own nonsense." — anntheegg What do you think of pretty privilege and its downsides? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. Note: Responses have been edited for length/clarity. Also in Internet Finds: Also in Internet Finds: Also in Internet Finds:
Yahoo
06-07-2025
- Entertainment
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Women Are Sharing The Things Men Do That Absolutely Baffle Them, And Hard Same
Recently, Reddit user Electrical-Ebb-3485 posted to the subreddit "Ask Women No Censor" to ask women, "What is something that many men do that baffles you?" Obviously, I knew the answers would be very entertaining, so I decided I had to share. Here are some of the best: 1."Send dick pics and expect us to actually like it." —u/eefr 2."Pursue or lock down a hot girl and get mad when they continue to be hot." Paramount Pictures —u/Beneficial-Door-3252 "Cindy Lauper said it herself: 'Some boys take a beautiful girl and hide her away from the rest of the world.' Walk in the sun ladies!" —u/Pastawbutter 3."This is a generalization obviously, but men often go, 'I can fix this.' It doesn't matter how complicated something is, perhaps even requiring a specialist; men will immediately try and do it themselves, often making the problem worse or fixing it jankily." NBC "Like, you get people go to trade school purely to learn how to do some of these things because it is that complicated, right?!" —u/Pinkalpacamaid "I have this theory that this ludicrous confidence is something that's ultimately net-beneficial, and women are robbed of it by a misogynist society." —u/capacitorfluxing 4."Promising to take care of something, and failing to fulfill the promise, so we get to panic and try to do the thing last minute. It seems to go in one ear and out the other when they 'listen' to women." —u/julmcb911 5."Using the bathroom and then not washing their hands. Do they not feel disgusting?" Walt Disney Pictures / Via —u/injury_minded "This! I've had a couple men in my life swear they don't need to wash their hands after peeing because it's not the same as women going to the bathroom. Absolutely vile." —u/rrmounce95 6."Men often refuse to go to the doctor about their medical problems, or a therapist about their mental health problems. Drives me nuts." —u/eefr 7."They force everyone to 'pass as a man' in order to play online games normally. Men, if every player around you is always a man, it's most likely since you've made it hostile for women to even out themselves." NBC —u/Q-9 8."Compulsive contrarian debating." —u/ruminajaali "Men who do this think it makes them smart." —u/TVsFrankismyDad 9."Continually ask for women's opinions and then dismiss, debate, deny, and disrespect every fucking response." —u/BillieDoc-Holiday 10."Pursuing you then proceeding to say he's not ready for a relationship." —u/sherlockgirlypop 11."Some men complain about not finding 'good women.' Yet they are not self-aware. Their definition of 'good' is a shallow one, and they're attracted to toxic traits. They project their past hurt and punish future partners. They expect traditional loyalty but do not offer stability. They play games, then get angry and bitter when they lose the game." Disney Channel —u/Moosemuffin64 12."Offering 'advice' constantly for things they know nothing about in an aggressively condescending and know-it-all type of way, like they think we'd be impressed and flattered rather than just insulted by how demeaning they are to our intelligence." —u/AnonPinkLady 13."They believe women have no reason to distrust men." —u/AlisonPoole98 14."Hate women without knowing consciously they hate women." NBC —u/Hello_Hangnail 15."Not washing themselves properly, not wiping themselves properly, and smelling their hand after they scratch their ass or balls. (YOU ALREADY KNOW YOU REEK!!!)" —u/CozyCatGaming 16."Possess zero self-awareness [regarding space]. Get the fuck out of the way!" —u/madeoflime "WHY ARE THEY ALWAYS STANDING IN MY WAY?!?" —u/AnonPinkLady 17."Not shaving that gross goat scraggly-ass beard they think is so cool." —u/TayPhoenix 18."Can't handle the work of a relationship and would rather have a 'friend with benefits' so they never need to take accountability." ABC —u/Individual-Upstairs4 "Then they say that women lack responsibility. Their intention is to make them bear all the blame for their mistakes. Men hate responsibility. I have seen this a lot. They prefer to blame women instead of holding themselves accountable, as if they are like little children." —u/Sweet_Animal6924 19."Men, just throw away any underwear with holes in them. Socks included. Just toss them. Don't give it a second thought." —u/champion0522 20."Fear of having any 'female-coded' hobbies for fear of being judged as gay, girly, or feminine in any way, shape, or form." Warner Bros. "Recently I saw a man who was afraid of reading a book that is popular amongst women..." —u/OkDesk2871 21."Say they want virgins and call women used-up or ran-through if they have premarital sex, but at the same time want to keep having casual sex until they're ready to settle down with that virgin. They're sexually dependent on the women they call whores." "If there were no 'whores' to service them they'd be unhappy, yet they claim to hate the existence of these 'whores.' Also, they think sex damages women and lowers their worth, yet want to 'damage' as many women as possible. I just can't understand it. I've noticed it's more the younger generation that seems to care about virginity and 'body count,' thanks to the manosphere and influencers like Tate. I'm 46, and I've never had a guy my age ask my body count. I'm glad not to be a young girl in the dating scene today." —u/manykeets finally, "Weaponized incompetence: when you ask them to do something and they completely half-ass it so you won't ask them again." Pop TV / CBC Television —u/minty_dinosaur I'm somehow so frustrated reading these, but also laughing so hard. Tell me your thoughts down in the comments! Or, feel free to share your own baffling 'manecdote.' If you have something to say but prefer to remain anonymous, you can check out this anonymous form!
