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Washington Post
4 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: As parents jockey for the last word, their 10-year-old tunes out
Adapted from an online discussion. Hi, Carolyn: My husband and I often come at subjects from different angles, so when one of us tries to explain something to our 10-year-old, the other sometimes chimes in with corrections or additional information. This quickly becomes overwhelming to Kiddo, and they begin to tune out. I've been trying to stop my part in it, but my husband continues to correct me and overwhelms Kiddo to the point that Kiddo doesn't want to ask their dad questions. When I've brought this up to Husband, his response is, 'Why wouldn't you want our kid to know these things?' It's reached a point where I feel angry because he thinks he's the only person who's right about anything, and I'm worried what will happen when Kiddo gets a little older and begins tween/teen parental tune-out in earnest. How can I proceed from here? — Serially Corrected Serially Corrected: He: 'Why wouldn't you want our kid to know these things?' You: 'I do want that. But piling on facts leads to Kiddo shutdown. You're perceptive, I'm sure you see it.' Yes, vanity manipulation. I'm a pragmatist, not a saint. 'Which means the more we tell Kiddo, the less Kiddo knows. [Pause.] So, how 'bout we work together on more effective communication?' This is a narrow script for your stated purpose because you're stuck until he agrees on the tuning out. But the real issue is that your marriage is oriented more toward winning against each other than winning together as parents. Yours is a perceptive first step. But you see why it's not enough: It allows your husband to misread (ignore, miss) your intentions and keep piling on solo. Ergo, your kid not only tunes out but also watches one parent negate the other on a regular basis. Unhealthy for Kiddo, krazy-bait for you. So work toward a mutual-respect arrangement, well before you're in these conversations. Maybe you and he alternate as lead talker. Or you agree to agree with something the other said before adding to it. Regardless, set an attention-span timer and wrap up when it dings. And get into this habit, especially as Kiddo gets older: 'We've talked a lot. Your turn.' The foundation each rests on is mutual agreement to prioritize your child's emotional health over getting the last word. Insist on it. Without this, one of you (presumably you) essentially concedes on everything — not okay. Or, you deliberately guide Kiddo in your husband's absence, or he in yours — also not okay. Or you start venturing into irreconcilable differences. And this is all before the matter of objective truth. When you voiced your initial concern to your husband, he spun it into something unrecognizable — except possibly as gaslighting. If this is typical, and if such marital miscommunications typically derail your child-rearing, then counseling comes next. Parenting classes, too, if he's receptive. Readers' thoughts: · Congratulations! You married my dad! (Great guy, but, yeah, some quirks.) I'm guessing your husband doesn't have a great handle on cues that the other person isn't absorbing the information: fidgeting, eyes glazed, etc. The ONLY THING that has ever worked with my dad is to talk to him about this overall pattern not in the moment, and then point out when it's happening *in* the moment. He doesn't notice on his own. · If he could see our eyes were glazing over, my dad would ask, 'Shall I go onnnn?' with a flourish. It would make us laugh and release us from listening, but also allow us the chance to say we wanted more information. It also reminded us that we didn't have to take ourselves so seriously. I use it now with my kids.
Buzz Feed
05-07-2025
- Health
- Buzz Feed
18 Times Gut Feelings Were 100% Accurate
It can be hard to ignore our gut feelings, even if the people around us don't quite believe them. And that "I knew it!" moment when we find out our instincts were right all along can be equally as disheartening as it is terrifying. Recently, redditor Unique-Landscape-202 asked the r/AskReddit community to share their own "I knew it" moments when their guts were proven right. Here are their eerie stories. "When my son was 14, he lost 30 pounds within a few months. I wasn't terribly concerned out of the gate because he started on the heavy side and seemed to be working for the weight loss. However, he went to Mexico for a week with his dad and came back 10 pounds lighter, and alarm bells started going off because my brother is a type 1 diabetic." "Kiddo had an awful migraine-like headache, so I decided to take him to his pediatrician to have a blood sugar run. I expressed my concerns, and the doc pooh-poohed me, spending a lot of time congratulating my son on his weight loss. She was resistant to running a blood sugar, but I insisted – sure enough, type 1 diabetes with a dangerous blood sugar of nearly 500. Sometimes, moms just know. Also, fuck that doc."—beatrix0 "About 15 years ago, I was hired to assist with an inventory and appraisal of the wine collection of a guy who lived in the Caribbean and ran a bank there, specializing in selling long-term, high-yield CDs. I went down and spent a week doing that and spending time with him and some of his very few employees, none of whom seemed to do very much work at all. As soon as I got back, I set up Google alerts for the guy's name and Ponzi scheme." "A guy in HR at a company I used to work for always gave me the creeps from the first time I met him. There was something in his body language and his voice that just felt predatory. I dreaded any time I had to speak with him, and I made sure never to be alone with him. One day, the police showed up at the front desk quietly, asking where his office was. They fanned out through the whole building — people saw them on all the floors posted by the stairwells, elevators, and exits." "It was so strange. They brought him out in handcuffs with no audible discussion, and they were gone as quickly as they later, we found out from the news that he owned a few rental properties and was accused of sexually assaulting one of his tenants. He also had cameras set up in the bedrooms and bathrooms of his rentals and filmed his tenants. Apparently, the reason for the response was that he sent messages from his work computer threatening to kill the tenant he assaulted."—SnowMiser26 "A town I lived in had a 'fast fashion' store take-up shop on the far end of the commercial district, which was too far to get any foot traffic. The displays in the windows never changed, and I never saw a single person go in or out. Every time I drove by, I said to my partner, 'That place HAS to be a front for something.' One year later, it was busted for being an illegal grow operation." "We had a couple of private Facebook groups at work for internal communications. Just asking coworkers for help on tasks, stuff like that. I came in one morning to find we were locked out of the Facebook groups. Me: 'This doesn't feel right. Something's happening.' Coworker: 'You're just being paranoid. It's just a computer glitch.' The upper management showed up mid-morning to start handing out layoff notices." —originalchaosinabox "When I was a kid, the day after Christmas, I would always check out the pawn shops near my grandparent's house so I could spend my Christmas money on used video games. There was one where the owner was very chatty but always gave off a creepy vibe. I couldn't quite pinpoint why, but his shop always felt uncomfortable. Eventually, it came out that he had murdered his ex-girlfriend and incinerated her in the basement of the shop. He got away with it for 15 years until his sons testified against him. I fucking knew it!" "I was gaslit by my ex for six years, telling me I was hard of hearing. She would mumble things constantly, making me ask her to speak up. She said I was old, my hearing was going, etc., even though I never had to ask people at work in a busy office to speak up or repeat things. After six years, she fucked up, though. We live in Hawaii, and some of her college girlfriends came out to visit and stay with us." "After two days of walking and talking with her friends, one of her girlfriends finally snaps and yells, 'Why are you talking so quietly? What the hell is wrong with you? No one can hear you!! You never talked under your breath before! What the hell?'She looked at me and knew her ass was busted. So, for years and years, it was just a petty way to put one over on me, I guess. This was a 30-year-old grown-ass woman. I'll never understand it. "—ssshield "Recently, I was planning a sabbatical as I had been with the company for 10 years. In the lead-up to the month, I kept procrastinating on making the arrangements for one reason or another. I couldn't shake this sense of dread for some reason. I even mentioned it to my boss about a couple of weeks before in our 1:1. I told her I hadn't ever been away from work for so long. She reassured me that it would be good." "I always had a certain feeling about a former coworker in the accounting department — just a sneaking shady vibe I couldn't shake. One day, the head of HR accidentally printed a document that showed the salary and raise/bonus/profit sharing structure of every single employee on a shared printer instead of his office printer, and I found it. The shady coworker was getting paid WAY less than I expected her to be making for all the work she was legitimately doing. Despite my suspicion about her, she was actually a seemingly good employee and had worked her way up to a role with significant responsibility." "The moment I saw her pay structure, I knew she was making money off the company in other ways. There was NO WAY she was settling for that salary after being there for so many years and for the work she did. I just knew. Fast-forward a few years, and it turns out she'd been embezzling significant amounts of money from the company. She submitted false expense reports to pay for everything from groceries to gas to food delivery to vacations, and no one caught it because she was the head of the department. It all came to light when a new junior employee saw a suspicious Amazon expense and brought it to the COO. An investigation revealed tens of thousands of dollars in embezzled funds. I quit soon after the discovery, but I hear they're pressing criminal charges against her. Somehow, I just knew!"—kitteh_pants "My ex-wife said she was going to the park to relax. I told her to have fun, but it was out of the blue and felt odd. It might have been an invasion of privacy, but I tracked her phone. She was not at the park. I confronted her, and she came up with the most bizarre, pulled-straight-out-of-her-ass story I have ever heard in my life. I ended up seeing the texts on her phone. She was meeting up with another guy. The funny thing is she would always gaslight me in fear that I would cheat on her, but that never happened. I couldn't even watch movies with attractive women in them. I fucking knew it." "Years back, I was visiting an ex at college. We went to her church, and I met the youth pastor for the first time. He was a cookie-cutter youth pastor: upbeat, only good vibes, always smiling; we've all met that guy. But something was off, and I didn't want to be around him. Just a gut feeling, ya know? I refused to go back to that church because of him. My ex and her family thought I was ridiculous. Some of our friends even said I was wrong. Fast forward a year, we had broken at this point, but I saw that he had been arrested for child solicitation with a kid at the church. Always trust your gut, people." —MammothWrongdoer1242 "Recently, I dated this guy. Right before we broke up, he started acting odd. Distant. Less affectionate. He initially told me he was going through a lot mentally: issues with work, his car, his baby mama. He wanted to change his living situation. He was overwhelmed, but he insisted that he still absolutely adored me and that I was an absolute angel and a constant source of peace in his life. Okay. Fine. He continued pulling back. My gut was telling me something was just absolutely not right. There was something missing." "I was ordering illegal drugs from a lab in China to treat my cat's feline infectious peritonitis (FIP) in December of 2019. (Now legal in the US, and many more cats have been saved!) People started posting in the FIP group about how, suddenly, the labs were taking their money, nothing was being sent, all communication was blocked, etc. Then, in January 2020, labs began 'closing early for Chinese New Year.' I knew something huge was happening." "I figured it was SARS and told my husband he needed to think about ways to teach from home because the shit would hit the fan if/when it made it to the US. He never once doubted my prediction because one of my hobbies is studying past epidemics and pandemics (SARS, Ebola, Marburg, smallpox, influenza).I knew it was going to be bad, whatever it was, but I had no clue just how bad COVID-19 would be. My cat lived, so that's nice."—vengefulbeavergod "I always thought my dad and I looked so different than the rest of his siblings, my aunts, and uncles. We're both really pale with dark hair, versus his siblings, who are tan with light hair and no similar features. My cousin (grandpa's side) sent me a DNA test one day because she bought two, and her husband didn't use one, so she sent it to me as we were both into genealogy. I said, 'Haha, how funny would it be if we weren't related!' We aren't (we would've only been related on my grandpa's side from a previous marriage). My grandma cheated and took the secret to her grave. It turns out my dad's middle name, which is just the letter 'E,' was the first letter of her lover's name." "My sister and I had a big fight, and after it escalated, I told her, 'You're not borrowing my dress (that she needed to wear to a wedding). Find your own.' A day later, I went to my cupboard to get my clothes out for the next day, and my dress was gone. I said to my parents (who I still lived with at the time – she had moved out, I still lived at the family home), 'Has (sister) been over this morning?' My parents said they hadn't seen her. I thought this was weird because that dress was always on its hanger. It couldn't have just disappeared." "I called my sister and asked if she took my dress. She said that the dress was very ugly, she hadn't taken it, and didn't need it anymore since I was a 'bitch,' and she'd bought her own, which was a lot nicer. I said, 'Okie, dokie. Well, where is mine then? The exact one you wanted to borrow is missing now.' She became irate and furious that I was accusing her of stealing. We had another argument, this time about the dress missing. She was adamant that I was extremely rude in accusing her of stealing. I was angry because she had slinked into my parents' house unbeknownst to any of us and taken it. Anyway, she went to the wedding and posted a photo of her outfit, and indeed, it wasn't the dress that was missing. One week later, we sorted out our differences, and she demanded an apology for the accusations of stealing. We sorted things out, and I apologized. I went to her house after work. At this time, I was working in hospitality, so the usual routine was to come over to her to hang out, but I changed into some pants and another of her shirts to be comfortable. It was normal for me to grab something out of her closet. This time, she flew into her room and pushed me out of the way, and it dawned on me: it's my dress. Her then-boyfriend was lying in bed and said, "The gig is up; just give it to her."I pulled her out of the way and flung her cupboard doors open, and there it was: my dress. She really had snuck into the back door of my parent's house and taken it when I was right down the other end of the house, snuck out again, and went home with it. I looked back at her and said, 'I fucking knew it.'"—snagsinbread "I used to see the local big town/small city hockey coach on local TV. He would do interviews in a corner of the locker room surrounded by TV, radio, and newspaper reporters. Something about him I always found off to the point of creepy. Then a few years later, some of his players came forward saying he groomed them into sex acts with him, and he ended up serving (not enough) time." "One guy I knew suddenly got very rich. Post-COVID, he said he left his job and started a new business. Within a year, he bought a Mercedes and a luxury apartment. He said he was doing stock and equity dealings and forex investments. In 2023, he was doing many podcasts and interviews on TV as an emerging entrepreneur. Meanwhile, I told my friends there was no way this guy could earn that much money legally." "My friends thought I was jealous of him, but I knew something wasn't right about his rise in such a short he bought multiple luxury cars and flats, spent millions on parties, and flexed his wealth. No one believed me. This year, he was arrested for running a Ponzi scheme. Now, he is in jail, and all his assets have been seized by authorities. Everyone in my circle was like, 'Holy fuck, you were right.'"—raisingpower "There was someone roughly in my PhD cohort who worked a few labs down the hall from me. They always seemed to get positive results with no protocol troubleshooting, and the results were always the sort of thing that journal editors looked fondly upon. Somehow, this person was twice as productive as even the super smart, 60-plus hour week working, creative grad students in other labs. This person won pretty much every graduate and postdoc award you could get and ended up a professor at a well-regarded university with a huge startup grant." Did you ever have a bad gut feeling about something and ended up being right? Tell us about it in the comments or fill out this anonymous form.
Time Out
02-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Time Out
The secret of Kiddo: Alejandro Roig and his burger revolution
One of the most significant names when talking about burgers in Argentina is Alejandro Roig, who went from running a YouTube channel — Burger Kid — dedicated to showcasing this product, to owning one of the most successful burger restaurants, known as Kiddo. Like many in this industry, the pandemic was a turning point for advancing his project, which now has a location in Miami, United States, and a recently opened branch in Palermo Soho. How did Burger Kid start? The flavor, the experience, the aroma, the shape, the colors, and the texture of a burger are the attributes that captivated Alejandro Roig since he was a child. His love for this food led him to start his own YouTube channel in 2015, under the pseudonym 'Burger Kid,' but he never imagined he would become one of the leading figures in burger culture nationwide. Not only because of the success he achieved with Kiddo, located in Las Cañitas, but also because of his extensive background, study, and promotion of a product historically disparaged for being fast food. Alejandro worked in IT, banking, and even as a musician in theatrical productions. However, his connection to the YouTube world began while he was working as a waiter in a bar in 2013. After long shifts that ended at 5 or 6 a.m., he watched videos of people eating in their cars and reviewing fast-food chain products. 'It caught my attention because I've always been really interested in junk food, and I went crazy watching this,' he told Time Out Buenos Aires. He dared to create his own channel — the first of its kind in the country — and at the start, his fight was against the 'Argentine' beef patty that included egg, mustard, garlic, and parsley. 'When I found out the burger didn't have any of that, I was desperate to share it,' he said about the videos he watched. Actually, according to Alejandro, the beef patty needs nothing more than salt and pepper. Then came countless decisions that led to different results: how to cook it (grilled, smashed, etc.), the quality of the ingredients, and the toppings (sauces, cheeses, vegetables, etc.) added to the sandwich. At first, the goal of the channel was to find places that made this product well. 'Then, this one I like more, this one I like less, the bun failed, whatever, but at least they didn't season the meat, which was the very first step to finding a good burger,' he continued. Over time, his content expanded. Besides experimenting, reviewing, recommending, and promoting with an authentic and irreverent rhetoric, he began showing his travels, interviewing, and meeting the creators behind each product. 'It made me laugh a little to take seriously a food that is usually underestimated or taken lightly by many, but which for me was and is superior,' he explained. The Legacy of Burger Kid and His Contribution to the Rise of Burger Joints in Buenos Aires His audiovisual contribution helped fuel the big wave of burger joints in Buenos Aires and encouraged fans to make their own homemade versions and experiment with the variety of options available. Today, ten years after his first video, his influence can be seen in young TikTokers visiting burger places and sharing their opinions, influencers filming themselves eating in their cars, or YouTubers showing their own homemade takes on iconic burgers. Ten years after his first video, his influence can be seen in TikTokers, influencers, and YouTubers 'Obviously, I liked eating burgers, it's my favorite food. I liked talking about it. I liked filming myself and going home to edit it. At first, I realized I filmed poorly, people didn't understand what I wanted to say or I didn't say anything interesting. So many early video attempts never saw the light because they didn't even reach 2 minutes of content,' he said with a laugh and then added, 'When I had everything edited and uploaded it, 20 or 30 people watched it. I was very consistent. Those 20 later became 100, 200, or 1000.' Burger Kid gathered over 160,000 subscribers over ten years and became an authoritative voice on the subject. His world expanded even further when he dedicated videos to classics like Buenos Aires-style pizza and cult hot dogs. One of the highlights of his audiovisual career was the documentary series 'Hamburgueseros,' where he visited iconic burger joints in the United States alongside other experts like Santiago Candegabe (Sandals Burger), Rodo Cámara (The Food Truck Store), and filmmaker Agustin Franzoni. The Story of Kiddo: How This Cult Burger Joint Emerged In all this context, his followers asked him to open his own burger joint and even offered him the opportunity, but Alejandro never considered it out of great respect for his favorite food. The COVID-19 lockdown and the success of his channel were the turning points to take the step to open his own place and stop working for others. In a notebook, he wrote down all the ideas he had in mind to create a new concept in Buenos Aires: name, menu, designs, logo, etc. Together with Pablo Pons, owner of the Pons burger joint, they brought all their knowledge to life in Kiddo. The COVID-19 lockdown and the success of his channel were turning points to open his own place and stop working for others In his search, he wanted a smaller burger by the standards that existed in Buenos Aires at the time, which created a trend among the competition. Also, 'a burger that doesn't leave you feeling stuffed, that respects proportions, that has balance between the bun, the meat, and the toppings. With its right level of greasiness, but made fresh daily,' he said. Finally, despite nervousness about the grand opening, the public fell in love with the menu composed of the Melvin, the Park, and the Cheeseburger, and their fries with a distinctive seasoning. Kiddo offers a new concept for burger joints, as orders are delivered in bags—designed to be eaten standing at the street or bar counter or taken home. The service is fast, with only 2 to 3 minutes passing from order to delivery. Like every decision Alejandro made, the take-away format was inspired by the United States. 'In New York, I was always struck by these tiny places that focus on selling a great product. They give it to you, and you eat it wherever you want,' he said. In Buenos Aires, this was common with some important pizzerias and hot dog places, and after Kiddo implemented it, new burger joints copied their successful format. This year, Alejandro and his partners opened a location in Miami and in June launched a bigger branch in Palermo Soho. 'That people like it and choose us again makes me very happy. Having someone enjoy my burger is hard to describe, but it makes me very glad,' he concluded. What started as a hobby out of love for fast food has materialized into one of the busiest burger joints by volume per month. And in every burger, Alejandro shares his authenticity, judgment, experience, but above all, his passion.
Yahoo
09-06-2025
- Business
- Yahoo
Major mortgage warning for millions of Australians as job 'red flags' exposed: 'High risk'
Nearly a million Australians now work more than one job - that's a record number, according to the ABS. Enterprising young people have embraced the 'side-hustle'. That could mean working in a regular 9-5 job while developing an after-hours small business or passion project of their own. It could also mean moonlighting for a fast-food delivery service or babysitting through services like Kiddo for a bit of extra cash. Money is the top motivation for Australians considering a job move over the next year, according to research from Compare the Market. Hidden reason Aussie workers are struggling to find a job Major Coles move to take on Chemist Warehouse, Bunnings, Amazon Centrelink payment change happening this week About 69 per cent of the working Aussies surveyed said they were considering a role change, with 51 per cent listing salaries as their biggest decision driver. Other factors included work from home privileges (14 per cent), wanting to work reduced hours (9 per cent), development opportunities (11 per cent) and leaving a toxic culture (6 per cent). What we do to earn a living can be so many things these days. But while our world of work is evolving, it's taking longer for old institutions like banks and lenders to catch up. So, how can our career choices impact our chances of getting a home loan?Banks don't want anyone to have to default on their loan. It's a painful and costly process for individuals, and a risk to lenders. Some banks won't lend to people in certain professions they deem 'high risk'. That could be due to the variability of income (like a small business or freelancing) or known industry challenges that could put a professional at risk of a career disruption in future. If you find yourself in this situation, you may be able to improve your chances of getting a home loan by teaming up with someone with a steady job. That could be your spouse, a sibling or even a parent who's happy to co-own a property with you. Have you had more than a couple of different jobs over the past 12 months? You may need to prove that you can stick with the next one for a year or two to show the bank that you're a safe pair of hands. It's important for aspiring home buyers to be able to demonstrate they have a steady income, so the lender is confident they can meet mortgage repayments. Similarly, if you're new to a job or on a short-term contract, you could be seen as a higher risk compared with borrowers with a strong track record of job security. But don't despair. All banks have different qualifying criteria, and you might find that while one lender says 'no', another could say 'yes'. Having a good deposit raised and a strong credit score can also help improve your chances. Banks love professions that are known to be in demand and provide a steady income stream. That's why doctors, nurses, lawyers and accountants can often avoid the dreaded lenders' mortgage insurance without having to raise a full 20 per cent deposit. It's a great way to get a foot in the door a bit faster. Just remember you'll pay interest on the full loan amount, so there are still advantages if you're able to raise a bigger deposit as in to access your portfolio
