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Vogue
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Vogue
With a New Pop Record—and New California Lifestyle—Indigo De Souza Finds Clarity
Vogue: Has writing always been a salve for you? Or can it be the opposite, where writing becomes difficult because it's how you process things, and…sometimes you don't want to process things. Indigo De Souza: Oh, both, absolutely. Sometimes it feels really easy to process emotions through music, and it's flowing out of me. And then I can be quite stubborn about writing, because of how much it makes me face what I'm feeling. I don't really know how to write from anywhere that isn't a deeply emotional space. Sometimes I can feel hesitant to pick up the guitar. I force myself to do it. I'll be very, very emotional about something and I'll know that it would help to play guitar and write. With what you've been through, I wonder how you relate to your previous body of work now? All of my past albums are really special to me in different ways, and the music is very close to my heart. Every album that I make feels very different from the last one, and it feels like I'm always moving through different modalities of writing. So when I listen to past music, sometimes it's almost mystifying to me how it even happened. Sometimes I can't even remember writing a song, or how I was trying to present the emotions within that song. I was thinking about 'Always': It's so intense, and the way that we play it live is really specific—there's a lot of screaming. How I wrote it and what I wanted to do with it is a blur. I'm very present with the songs I'm making, but the ones I've made in the past are like ghosts. 'Not Afraid' was the first song that was written for Precipice. What were those emotions you were using? Honestly, I was just trying to connect with Elliot and impress him. Within the first hour, I knew he was special. I liked his energy and way of working. I'd never done a blind session before, but we just clicked in every way. I wanted to put my best foot forward, with my boldest lyrics and way of being. He made me feel comfortable enough to do that too.
The Guardian
2 days ago
- Health
- The Guardian
Taking a break from your loved ones might be painful – but it's the only way to grow
You need a break. It is very important, from time to time, to take a break from your partner, from your work, from your children, from your exercise, from your screens, from alcohol and drugs and therapy and podcasts and crisps. We need time and space to rest; this is a crucial part of a better life. This much is obvious. But we need to take breaks for less obvious reasons too. As any patient of psychodynamic psychotherapy or psychoanalysis knows, come July, therapists are banging on about their August break. You tell them a dream about losing your child in the supermarket; they interpret this as you feeling like a lost child because of the break. You talk about feeling angry at a friend who cancelled plans; they suggest you are feeling angry and abandoned because of the break. It's outrageous and ridiculous – and most of the time, in my experience, absolutely true. I know this because I have fought off many of these kinds of interpretations over the years as a patient – and I still do sometimes. And I always try to understand the unconscious impact of my break as a therapist on my patients; because I know it cuts deep. Feeling left, excluded, disappointed, unwanted – nobody wants these emotions, but if you want to build a better life, you need to feel them, so they can find a home in your mind. Otherwise, this unwanted part of you ends up feeling abandoned and excluded twice over, and the emotions get locked down and stuck instead of understood and felt. When therapy is unboundaried and without breaks, the patient is robbed of this opportunity to grow. The break is part of the treatment. Deeper change is made possible by the therapist's absence and the patient's survival of it. It hurts – but at least we don't have to pay for that part. This is true of all relationships in life: separation is a prerequisite to growth. This came alive for me when I took my daughter to nursery for the first time. The pain and anxiety of leaving her felt almost unbearable for both of us – and that 'almost' is important. Actually, it was bearable, after a settling-in period in which she could begin to feel safe in the nursery in my presence, and grow the capacity to tolerate my absence for longer and longer periods. Thanks to her keyworker's sensitivity, understanding, care and hugs (for both of us), it was difficult and painful, but not a trauma. And, over time, my daughter has thrived in her sense of separateness, in having grown through a difficult experience, and in learning new things without me. In beginning to build her own life. For both our sakes, I had to let her go and learn to take breaks. Not only because I needed to rest. I also had to understand something about myself, which I think lies at the heart of a struggle that many of us experience. We don't want to believe the fact that we are not indispensable, that our loved ones can survive without us, that they can manage. The conviction of the necessity of our constant availability is so compelling, we don't believe life can go on when we aren't there. And that makes sense; that's how it often is at the beginning. As the psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott said: 'There is no such thing as a baby' – meaning, the baby simply cannot exist in the absence of maternal care (not only, but usually, provided by the mother). But as time goes on, and as babies grow up, separation has to become possible, and a child has to come to exist in the absence of the mother. And the same is true of friendships and romantic relationships. Nothing kills a friendship or sex life like long-term and unflinching dependence on one another with no time apart. For some, there are practicalities that make a break impossible. Parents and carers with children with disabilities who need additional care, for example, can struggle to secure the right kind of support that might make it possible for them to take a break of any kind. But the absolute necessity of these breaks is recognised in law (by the Children Act 1989 and the Breaks for Carers of Disabled Children Regulations 2011). So while I do understand that of course there may be external reasons why someone may not be able to take a break, that may make it even more important to find a way to do so. External reasons are probably not the only thing stopping us. The belief in the necessity of our constant presence protects us, unconsciously, from our awareness of our own limitations, of our vulnerabilities and needs. It protects us from the experience I had recently, of putting my daughter to bed earlier than usual and thinking, 'What am I going to do with myself now?' and not knowing the answer. It can protect us from an empty feeling of not knowing ourselves, that we've been unconsciously filling up with all sorts of obligations and duties, which take us further away from what we truly need. So sometimes, in the interests of building a better life for you and your loved ones, taking a break really is the most important work you can do. That's my story, and I'm sticking with it. See you in September! Moya Sarner is an NHS psychotherapist and the author of When I Grow Up – Conversations With Adults in Search of Adulthood Do you have an opinion on the issues raised in this article? If you would like to submit a response of up to 300 words by email to be considered for publication in our letters section, please click here.
The Sun
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Watch moment Harry admits he still has feelings for Shakira after star threatened to quit villa
SHAKIRA has opened up about her true feelings for Harry - and sent shockwaves through the villa. In a first look clip, former flames Harry and Shakira can be seen having an intense chat about her emotions. 4 4 In tonight's episode, football Harry finds Shakira in the dressing room. He probes: 'I can read between the lines a little bit, but I don't really know exactly what you're thinking.' Speaking of their former connection, brunette beauty Shakira replies: 'I still felt very strongly towards you… "I just don't think that I really dealt with the situation how I should have dealt with it and maybe haven't processed things properly, and you and Helena being exclusive may have resurfaced things.' Harry continues: 'It doesn't help when I come and see if you're okay?' 'It doesn't help in the slightest,' Shakira replies. Harry assures Shakira: 'I know it looks like I've moved on very quickly but I don't want you to ever think that it was one sided, you'll probably disagree, but I felt it and like I say I haven't processed it and have tried to just get on with things.' Afterwards, Dejon tells Harry to 'collect his thoughts'. The official Instagram feed for Love Island has teased the caption: "Harry hears the truth from Shakira," alongside a broken heart emoji. In an emotional clip, the two can be seen having an intimate moment. Love Island couple SPLIT after going exclusive as huge row breaks out in villa Dejon then asks him: "What happened?" Harry explains: "Just hearing how she feels and that…" "Yeah, I do," Harry admits. Helena and Harry are 'done' after an explosive row over Shakira - not yet seen on screen. The Sun can reveal the lingering love triangle has erupted since Shakira dumped Conor, as seen on Wednesday's episode, and Harry was her shoulder to cry on. It led to a huge showdown between the footballer and his girl, Helena. Semi pro footballer Harry ditched Shakira after Helena pursued him for weeks. Last night, an indecisive Harry shocked viewers as he asked Shakira if they could hang out when they leave the villa. Harry had entertained flirty chats with a string of bombshells and his ex Emma, and he told the lads he could get Shakira back if he wanted to. Shakira Khan has threatened to quit Love Island in scenes not yet seen on TV. The lass from Burnley had a meltdown in the beach hut after ending her blossoming relationship with Conor over fears she'd never get over Harry. Shakira has had a tumultuous time in the villa but viewers branded her decision to end it with Conor 'real'. 4 4
Yahoo
15-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Horoscope For Today, July 14: The 2 Signs Having The Best Day
Happy Monday! Your July 14 horoscope is here. The moon is in Pisces, heightening our emotions and intuition. Lean into your dreams and visions today. You'll be able to manifest them easily. The signs having the best day are Aquarius and Pisces. Check out all of TODAY's horoscopes. To maintain your momentum now, you will need to keep your eye on the big picture. Don't get sidetracked by your emotions. Take care of your needs before getting involved with other things, or you could catch a case of grumpiness that will be hard to shake. A passive-aggressive dynamic with friends could cause discomfort, but as long as you act with integrity, there is nothing to worry about. Once you get caught up in a defensive emotional pattern, it is hard to hit the brakes. Try not to assume what others think of you today. Secret doubts and fears could sabotage your best efforts to stay inspired. Consistency is your best defense. Your obligations may clash with the need to get out and let loose. Fulfilling your commitments as soon as possible will lead to guilt-free satisfaction. You might feel like you are being called out today, but the best way to defend your reputation is by walking your talk. Rushing through your duties will only make you spin your wheels. Take a measured approach to your tasks to avoid getting discouraged or frustrated. Before you start feeling like you can never catch a break, ask yourself if you are holding yourself back from the things that are escaping your grasp. Resist taking the bait if members try to start drama. Try to stay in your lane to avoid the situation. Your wants and needs could clash now. Look for ways to allocate budget space for both. Be mindful of your needs. Your mind could overheat while figuring out what loose ends need tying before the week starts. Take things one step at a time. This article was originally published on
Yahoo
13-07-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
Researchers Discover Possible Secret to Better Memory
The secret to a better memory might be tied to your emotions. This is according to a study done by the Hangzhou Normal University in China that was published in the Journal of Neuroscience. The study included 44 university students who were shown 144 squiggly shapes, each of which were followed by a positive, neutral or negative image. Then, the process was repeated two more times for each student. After a 24-hour break, students were given a recognition memory test and the results revealed that students had better recall of the squiggly shapes that were followed by positive images. "Our findings revealed that positive emotions enhanced the retrieval of meaningless squiggles compared to negative emotions," the study said. "These results provide neural evidence for the enhanced memory performance of items associated with positive emotions and shed light on the mechanisms underlying memory formation in emotional contexts," researchers concluded. Researchers did see a similar level of increased brain activity for negative emotions as compared to positive ones, but that did not lead to better recall. The belief is that could be a result of heightened alertness for potential threats due to negative emotions. While a small study, this does lend to the idea that being positive helps in retaining information. Just something to keep in mind if you want to improve your Discover Possible Secret to Better Memory first appeared on Men's Journal on Jul 12, 2025
