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14-07-2025
- Business
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Tony Robbins: Key Steps To Avoid Self-Sabotage and Breaking Free From Your Own Limitations
Public speaker and life coach Tony Robbins has spent decades convincing people to break out of their old patterns. He overcame incredible hardships himself, and he took those lessons and turned them into ways to help others, including with how they deal with money. One of the biggest hardships many people have to overcome is self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is when you place limitations on your own life or work that don't need to be there. These limitations or roadblocks stop you from becoming the person you want, achieving the goals you aim for and living the life of your dreams. Discover More: For You: This is not to say that there are not some very real barriers for people in life. Everything from poverty and mental illness to disability and a lack of support from friends or family can cause incredible hardship. The reality is that, while everyone has different abilities and resources, everyone can start from wherever they are and work to improve their life. But you cannot do that, no matter where your starting point is, if you're self-sabotaging. Here are the key steps Tony Robbins offers to get out of self-sabotage mode and break free from your own limitations. Have you ever gone from worrying about something into a full-blown panic attack? It's more common than you may realize. What many people don't realize is that, as Robbins said, 'where focus goes, energy flows.' Whatever your mind is focused on is where your energy will be. If you're stressed out about something, all of your energy will turn into stress. Your body will react, you'll start to hunch your shoulders, your jaw will clench, and your personality may even change. You feel tense and maybe even angry. From that state, you'll start to believe that your situation is hopeless. You'll make unnecessary mistakes. You'll sabotage yourself. Try This: Robbins recommends you change or manage your state. When you notice that you're not in a positive state of mind, take action to start shifting it. The best way to do that is to change your state physically. Why? Because where focus goes, energy flows. So, if you're sitting, stand up. If you're standing, start walking. If you're hunched, stand up straight. Get your body moving, bouncing, stretching, and you'll feel positive energy come into your muscles, lungs and mind. Take deep, relaxing breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Relax your jaw, roll your head on your neck. You can manage your state in as little as five minutes, and from that positive, powerful place, you can take positive, powerful action. You've likely heard people talk about the voices in your head, and how detrimental they can be to your progress in life. Everyone has an inner jerk, and it's up to us to change that voice into one that's supportive and encouraging. So, when the mean voice asks questions like, 'How could I be so stupid?' You can reframe that question to 'What can I learn from this?' It's important to create a realistic, level playing field in your head that helps you realize everyone makes mistakes, everyone fails and that failure is actually a pathway to success. Every great leader, manager and entrepreneur will tell you that they've had to overcome intense failure. In fact, this overcoming is Robbins' claim to fame. Behind every single 'overnight success' are at least ten years of hard work and hard lessons. So, remember that when you're asking pointless, painful questions of yourself. Take every negative and flip it to its positive version. Come up with questions that get your brain thinking about how to move forward with new information. 'Your brain will find answers to whatever you ask — so ask empowering questions,' Robbins said in his blog post. Robbins calls this one the '2-millimeter rule.' He said people often think they can make changes overnight or in big, grand gestures. As Bill Gates said, 'Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.' A version of this quote has also been attributed to Robbins, which makes sense based on this rule. He wants you to change something small, five minutes a day, one hour a week and watch the transformation shift. A big part of self-sabotage is that it's habitual. You're used to getting in your own way. In fact, it's your comfort zone. When you make small changes, you move out of your comfort zone at a comfortable pace, so it becomes your new comfort zone. For example, you can start to take a walk every morning when you wake up, just around the block. You could meditate for five minutes before bed. Maybe you set boundaries around screen time and turn off your phone an hour before bed. You might call three warm leads for sales calls before you do anything else at work. Or you could write one page of your novel in the morning with your first cup of coffee, before everyone wakes up. The last, and perhaps most difficult step of avoiding self-sabotage, is to rewire your belief. You cannot win if you think you're a loser. Tony Robbins likes to think positive thoughts like, 'I am resourceful. I can figure this out,' instead of 'I can't do this,' according to his article. When you're sitting around thinking about how much of a loser you are, challenge those thoughts by thinking about times when you have been successful. Revisit memories of a time when you did something good, when you helped someone else, when you made progress. Let those memories overpower the negative ones. Then, take a small action to prove your strength, your goodness, your power. Volunteer with a local community organization, participate in a local networking event, or take an internship under someone you admire. With every strong memory you hold, you can reshape who you are as a person, so that you start to see yourself in a positive light, and from there, anything is possible. More From GOBankingRates Here's the Minimum Salary Required To Be Considered Upper Class in 2025 This article originally appeared on Tony Robbins: Key Steps To Avoid Self-Sabotage and Breaking Free From Your Own Limitations
Yahoo
05-07-2025
- General
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Khaleej Times
05-06-2025
- Business
- Khaleej Times
How Arab women are rewriting the rules of identity and empowerment
Amid life's many businesses, sparkling accomplishments, and hard knocks, we often encounter rankling questions that blow the wind out of our sails. Questions like 'Who am I?', 'What do I want out of life?', and 'Where am I headed in this mad rush?' leave us suddenly adrift, realising how far we've strayed from who we once were as individuals, professionals, and participants in society. The search for answers leads us into a labyrinth of doubts and fears, and sooner or later, we find ourselves in need of a lighthouse — someone to steer us gently back home. Back to ourselves. It was in one such muddying moment that Asmaa Al Kuwari, now a multi-award-winning executive and life coach, stumbled upon a training programme that changed the course of her life. What began as an attempt to reclaim her bearings during a period of inner unrest eventually became her mission. In a world that often defines women and their typecasted roles before they discover who they are, Al Kuwari chose to unbend all that was hoisted upon her by tradition and society. A certified coach, TEDx speaker, and author of Back to THAT, she has become a guiding voice for self-actualisation in a region where identity is often prescribed before it is understood. Her work is not just a career. It is a calling: To help Arab and Muslim women navigate the maze of societal roles and cultural expectations, and return to the essence of who they truly are. Al Kuwari, whose early years were spent in the US, was raised for the most part in Qatar and it was here that she began to sense there was more to her personality and purpose than what had been predetermined by societal norms. 'This combination, even though it might have started as a culture clash for me, taught me how much of our identity is shaped for us, not by us,' she says with the clarity of someone who now knows both what she wants from life and what she hopes to give back to it. That inner friction between who we are expected to be and who we truly are, she adds, became the very foundation of her life's work. She staunchly believes that a woman's personal growth must be both respectful of her roots and revolutionary in spirit. From this insight emerged a coaching framework that gave women full agency over their lives — helping them unlearn what no longer serves them and pick again from new options, this time with intention. 'Helping them to choose what aligns with their true selves, their values, their faith, and their vision for the life they want, that's my objective now,' she says with a conviction that bears the quiet power of someone who has walked through the darkness and now holds a torch for others. It was this desire to help women who had the power and potential but lacked a roadmap to retrace their way back to authenticity that led her to write her Back to THAT. The journey hadn't been easy for Al Kuwari. She had to confront resistance from all quarters, starting from her immediate family to extended segments of her relations, to whom her endeavours were not only new but also a bit radical. But in time, they were convinced that she was on a path to improve lives of women in the region, and that it didn't come at the cost of giving up traditional values and religious compliances. What she was seeking to achieve was to allow women to tap into their potential that they kept under wraps for long, and letting them find their own place in the world. She held space for them, not to rebel, but to reclaim; to come back to their own centre after years of surrendering their desires to societal dictates and generational expectations. Her coaching wasn't about defiance; it was about alignment; about helping women step into their power without veering out of their truth. In Back to THAT, she offers more than self-help strategies. She offers companionship through guided reflections, value-based practices, and gentle prompts that nudge women towards clarity. 'It's not just about awareness,' she says. 'It's about the action you take when you create that awareness.' The book thus becomes a conversation between the reader and her forgotten self, and a manual for her to follow to fruition. Al Kuwari believes that true societal transformation must begin with women, who form the foundation of families and communities. She sees women as the origin point of generational influence — first as wives, then as mothers and grandmothers — and therefore considers their empowerment essential to lasting change. There are women who recognise the limitations placed on them by society, but lack the courage to act. And there are others who are willing to break the mould and redraw the contours of their lives, but don't know where to begin. It's the latter who find in Al Kuwari's guidance a valuable and feasible formula to empowerment. In a world where external validation often dictates identity, she gently turns women inward, helping them tap into their inner reserves and claim their rightful place in society, and in their personal and professional spheres. She teaches them how to draw boundaries not as lines of defence, but as spaces of becoming personal sanctuaries where they can rise, perform, and unlock parts of themselves they never knew existed. Yet, this journey is far from easy, she reveals. Most women who come to her grapple with deeply ingrained mindsets and limitations that have long shaped their sense of self. The biggest challenge, she says, is guilt for wanting more, for choosing themselves and for not conforming to deep-set conditioning. 'This guilt and emotional tug-of-war can keep women stuck in survival mode. In my coaching work, I help them name those emotions, confront them with compassion, and take small, courageous steps toward what truly matters to them.' To guide them from 'performance to presence' and assure them that their struggles are neither unique nor isolating, Al Kuwari founded the 'You're Not Alone' community — a space for like-minded women to gather, share stories, engage in meaningful conversations, and hold one another accountable. It's here that support transforms into strength, and individual narratives of self-doubt are rewritten into collective affirmations of worth, courage, and purpose. 'That's the magic of collective support; it normalises growth and gives you mirrors to your own strength. Women from the community have come together to collaborate for projects, and some have found their best friends from the community,' she reflects with a pride becoming of someone who holds the distinction of being the first Qatari woman to lead the International Coaching Federation Chapter in Doha (ICFD). The many awards and recognitions that have come her way may have amplified her voice and broadened her reach, but Al Kuwari doesn't let them define her worth. To her, they are instruments of visibility meant to shine light on the work she does, the message she carries and the countless women who find themselves reflected in her story. The accolades are, above all, a responsibility, a reminder to stay accountable to the purpose that drives her. Her remarkable journey from a perplexed young woman unsure of her path to a visionary leader for Arab and Muslim women across the Middle East underscores one truth: self-actualisation isn't a luxury. 'It's the fulfillment of our purpose. I always say God has created each and every one of us with a sole purpose to achieve in this world before our time is up. When we deny that need, we shrink, we settle, we live on survival mode. But when we honour it, we expand, we create, we become; and that's the ultimate goal.' Al Kuwari is now focused on building an international digital community for Arab and Muslim women, expanding the reach of her book so that it may serve as a beacon for those ready to take a transformative step forward, and scaling her coaching programmes globally. She also plans to certify future coaches through a self-created methodology rooted in cultural awareness and human-centred growth. As life coaching continues to evolve in the region, she envisions it becoming a profound tool for healing, growth, and leadership — one grounded not in western models, but in personal values and local identity. Her mission is clear: to give women the tools to shape the lives they yearn for, and to enable them to become the protagonists of their own powerful stories. As she affirms, such initiatives will grow more culturally aligned, and 'more Arab women will rise — not just as clients of change, but as creators of it.'
