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Yahoo
08-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
15 Painful Reasons Why You Outgrow Some Friendships
It's not uncommon to outgrow friendships. Perhaps you naturally outgrew your high school friendships because everyone moved away to different parts of the country for college. Maybe you outgrew your single friends when you got married and decided to have kids. Whatever the reason, one thing is certain: you wish someone had warned you about what it would be like to outgrow friendships. Here are several painful truths about the end of friendships that nobody warns you about. Even when you know outgrowing a friendship was the right decision; regret can sneak in unexpectedly. You might drive past the coffee shop where you and your ex-friend shared countless laughs or see an inside joke pop up on your social media memories. These small reminders can make you question whether ending the friendship was necessary. It's not uncommon to feel pangs of nostalgia for the bond you once had, even if you know it has run its course. According to Psychology Today, moments of regret are a natural part of the grieving process in relationships. These feelings are often amplified when you encounter shared spaces or mutual friends. Perhaps you see a photo of them with a new friend and wonder if they miss you too. Regret doesn't mean you want to rekindle the relationship—it's more about mourning what was. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. It's all part of the process of moving on and appreciating the role they played in your life. When you meet new friends, it's hard not to measure them against the bond you had with your ex-friend. Maybe a new friend seems distant, and you can't help but think about how your old friend would've greeted you with a warm hug and a joke. Even the little things, like how someone texts or shares their time, remind you of what's missing. According to Verywell Mind, comparisons in relationships often stem from a longing for familiarity and comfort. These comparisons can make building new connections feel daunting. But it's essential to remember that each friendship is unique, and no one can truly replace someone else. Rather than looking for a clone of your old friend, embrace the differences and give new relationships room to grow. Recognize that no one is perfect; your new friendships might surprise you if you let them. Over time, you'll learn to value new connections without constantly looking back. You might have assumed that the feelings would fade quickly once the friendship ended. Instead, you find yourself missing them at random times—when a certain song plays or when you hear their favorite phrase. It's surprising how deeply they're etched into your daily life and memories. According to Psychology Today, missing someone long after the relationship ends is a sign of their importance in your life. This lingering feeling often arises during moments of vulnerability or nostalgia. You remember the inside jokes, the advice they gave you, or the times they were there when no one else was. These memories can make you feel conflicted about your decision. However, missing someone doesn't mean you made a mistake—it simply means they were significant to you. After outgrowing a friendship, socializing with others can feel strangely hollow. You might spend an afternoon with friends, only to leave feeling less connected than you used to. The easy flow of conversation and shared hobbies you had with your ex-friend is now noticeably absent. Even when you're surrounded by people, it can feel like something or someone is missing. This difference doesn't mean your current relationships are inadequate—it's just part of adjusting to change. Friendships have unique dynamics; losing one can shift how you view your connections. Take this as an opportunity to explore new ways to bond with others. While it might take time, you'll eventually find fulfilling connections that resonate in their own way. With your old friend, you could let your guard down completely. You felt safe, whether it was acting silly, sharing embarrassing stories, or being brutally honest. Now, with other friends, you feel the need to filter yourself or hold back. You wonder if anyone else will ever understand you the way your ex-friend did. According to BetterUp, this discomfort comes from adjusting to new dynamics and relearning how to be vulnerable. This discomfort is natural as you adjust to new dynamics. Opening up takes time; not every friendship will reach the same depth. Be patient with yourself and others as you navigate these changes. Over time, you'll find people who appreciate the real you. Until then, cherish the memories of being fully seen and heard. Sometimes, timing is everything in a friendship. Maybe you met them during a transitional phase in your life, and as you grew, your paths diverged. You can't help but wonder if things would've been different if you'd met at another point in time. Perhaps you'd both been more aligned in your goals or maturity levels. According to MindBodyGreen, mismatched timing is a common reason why friendships drift apart. Wishing for better timing is a way of grieving what could've been. It's a reminder that even the strongest connections need the right circumstances to thrive. While dwelling on these what-ifs is tempting, try to focus on what the friendship taught you. Every relationship serves a purpose, even if it doesn't last forever. Your ex-friend might have been your go-to person for certain hobbies or interests. Whether watching obscure films, attending concerts, or hiking, they shared your passions in a way others don't. Now, it feels like no one else clicks the same way. You try to find new friends who share these interests, but the connection feels forced. This struggle can leave you feeling isolated and nostalgic for the ease you once had. Remember, building new friendships takes time and effort. Explore community groups or events that align with your hobbies. While you might not find a perfect match immediately, the effort can lead to unexpected connections. Your ex-friend always prioritized you, no matter how busy they were. When you try to make plans with others, you're met with excuses or delays. Feeling like an afterthought is frustrating when you're used to being someone's priority. This shift can make you long for the reliability and attention you once had. While disappointing, it's also a chance to reassess your expectations. Not every friendship will have the same intensity or availability. Focus on nurturing relationships that value your time and effort. By being open and communicative, you can create equally fulfilling connections. Your ex-friend was the person you could vent to without judgment. They knew your quirks, fears, and dreams, and their advice felt genuinely helpful. When you try to share your feelings with others, the responses feel surface-level or dismissive. It's hard to open up when you don't feel genuinely understood. This gap highlights the importance of emotional intimacy in friendships. While replacing that bond is tough, don't give up on finding someone who can fill that role. Open communication and patience are key to building deeper connections. In time, you'll find someone who listens and supports you in the way you need. Your life has become so hectic that maintaining a close friendship feels impossible. You barely have time for yourself between work, family, and other obligations. Looking back, you realize how much effort your ex-friend put into staying connected. Their dedication feels even more special in hindsight. This realization can motivate you to prioritize meaningful connections moving forward. Small gestures like a quick text or coffee date can go a long way, even with a packed schedule. By making an effort, you can keep your relationships alive and thriving. When the friendship ended, you imagined you'd stay in touch occasionally. Maybe a holiday card or a quick coffee every few months. Instead, you've drifted completely apart, and they've become a stranger. This unexpected distance feels like a loss all over again. Acceptance is a crucial step in moving forward. Not every relationship can transition into something new. Focus on cherishing the memories while embracing the present. The memories of your time together keep resurfacing. Whether it's a song, a place, or a mutual friend, reminders of them are everywhere. These flashbacks are bittersweet, highlighting what you've lost while celebrating what you shared. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. Memories are a testament to the impact they had on your life. Use them as a source of gratitude rather than pain, and remind yourself that it's always possible to make new friends and new memories. From songs on the radio to inside jokes, reminders of your ex-friend are constant. It's almost like the universe is conspiring to keep them on your mind. While feeling overwhelmed by these triggers is normal, they'll fade over time. Lean into the nostalgia rather than resisting it. These moments can help you process your feelings and find closure. With time, these reminders will lose their sting and be replaced by warm fuzzy feelings of the times you shared. The ease of your old friendships makes forming new ones feel daunting. Meeting new people takes effort and vulnerability, which can be exhausting. It's tempting to compare every new connection to the bond you've lost, but our differences make us human. Be patient with yourself and the process. Friendships take time to grow and deepen. Keep putting yourself out there, and you'll eventually find a new crew. After some time has passed, you start focusing on their positive traits. Their generosity, humor, and loyalty stand out more than why you drifted apart. This rose-colored view can make you question your decision to move on, and you might be tempted to reach out. Remember, the red flags mattered for a reason. Reflecting on the good and the bad helps you grow, make better choices, and set firmer boundaries in the future. Embrace the lessons while letting go of the idealized version of the past. Not that you should hold onto resentment or grudges.


Forbes
08-07-2025
- General
- Forbes
3 Signs You're Finally Ready To Move On From An Ex, By A Psychologist
It's not always obvious when you've let go of an old relationship. Processing heartbreak takes time, ... More but these three signs show that you're truly moving forward. 'I can't live without them' is a common sentiment many individuals share right after a breakup. For many, moving on from an ex follows a tumultuous personal trajectory. It's easier to let go of your partner if you emotionally checked out during the relationship, but it's more challenging when you're the one trying to save it. A 2025 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science investigated whether emotional attachment disappears after romantic breakups. In the study of 320 participants, researchers discovered that such bonds dissolved over time for the majority, with roughly 4 years being cited as the mid point. This means that for the average person, it can take as long as 8 years to truly move on from an ex. These results were heavily influenced by a participant's attachment style and how frequently they stayed in touch with their ex. 'Even if the typical person does eventually 'get over' their former partner, for some people, remnants of those bonds continue and never fully fade away,' the researchers explain. If you're wondering where you might be in this journey, here are three signs that can confirm you are finally ready to move on. 1. You've Stopped Fantasizing About 'What Could Have Been' One of the first signs of recovery from a breakup is when you stop asking yourself, 'If we were still together, what could our future have looked like?' That means no more daydreaming about someone who is no longer in your life or staying up late, scrolling through old photographs and messages, imagining scenarios that will never come true. This means you've stopped holding on to the hope that they might come back. It's a sign that you're accepting reality — something that may feel painful at first but eventually brings clarity. You no longer view your relationship or your ex through rose-tinted glasses. Instead, you see things as they really were; not as perfect, but as a mix of bittersweet experiences. A 2021 exploratory phenomenological study published in the Journal of Psychology and Theology aimed to understand how people psychologically and spiritually process romantic heartbreak. The researchers interviewed eight Caucasian adult women and found that participants followed a rough trajectory across five themes: relational evolution, decline, end, rumination and recovery. The type of rumination they engaged in made the biggest difference in their ability to move on. These included: When you look back at your relationships and see them with clarity, without the haze of hurt and pain, you know you're starting to move on to the next chapter of your life. 2. Your 'First Thoughts' Shift From Your Ex To Yourself When you no longer wonder, 'Would they like this movie?' or 'Should I tell them about this?' Instead, you think: 'What do I want to watch? What's good for me?' Your mental energy returns to self-focus, rather than them being your first thought in any situation. In a relationship, two individuals often function as a unit. After a breakup, it can be hard to find your footing because you're still wired to think of yourself with them, instinctively reaching out for that sense of togetherness. And when you find none, it stings. But in time, you learn to find yourself again without thinking of them first. A 2015 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science sheds light on why this shift is more important than we might realize. Researchers found that emotional recovery after a breakup is closely linked to self-concept clarity, which is your ability to clearly define who you are outside of the relationship. Participants were randomly assigned to either a group that completed four in-depth self-assessment sessions over nine weeks or a group that only completed assessments at the beginning and end of that period. The group that participated more intensively in the research (i.e., talked, reflected and assessed themselves more often) showed greater emotional recovery. Specifically, they experienced: 'I would encourage a person who recently experienced a breakup to consider who he or she is, apart from the relationship. If that person can reflect on the aspects of him- or herself that he or she may have neglected during the relationship but can now nurture once again, this might be particularly helpful,' says Grace Larson, the lead researcher of the study, from Northwestern University. This shows that healing isn't just about time — it's about rediscovering who you are without your ex. When your first thoughts are about you and not them, that's when you know you've truly moved on. 3. You're Able To Feel Excitement For The Future A sure sign of getting over your ex is faith in your future. Even if you're not dating yet, you can imagine being happy with someone else someday. You're open to new connections and growth. You find your way back to your old routines, spend more time with friends who had slowly drifted away and find yourself engaging in old hobbies or picking up new ones. Your sense of progress and renewed friendships give you your sense of purpose back. A 2024 study tracked participants over 8 years to examine both the long-term emotional costs and potential developmental benefits of early breakup experiences. They found that while unresolved or ongoing distress, especially across multiple breakups, can take a toll on mental health, early heartbreaks can also cultivate emotional growth and romantic maturity when processed reflectively. This means moving on isn't about forgetting your past or what you've been through, but reflecting and creating meaning out of it, which creates space for better things to come. In such a headspace, you fully process that there is a long life ahead of you, one that's filled with endless possibilities. When you realize, 'I can, in fact, live without them,' and the thought no longer brings pain but peace — that's when you know you've truly moved on. Take this science-backed test to see how deeply your last breakup is still affecting you — and where your healing really stands: Breakup Distress Scale


Daily Mail
18-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Brodie Ryan breaks silence on 'horrible' split with AFL star Nathan Buckley: 'The heartbreak is real'
Brodie Ryan has opened up on her 'horrible' breakup with AFL star Nathan Buckley. The healthcare professional admitted that she was left heartbroken by the split but is looking toward the future. 'The first few months were hard, and break-ups are always horrible,' the 36-year-old told the Herald Sun on Wednesday. 'Time heals all wounds. The heartbreak is real, but we'll both be okay.' Brodie said that she was 'resuming her normal life' but sad that her dreams of being a 'housewife' have been dashed. From A-list scandals and red carpet mishaps to exclusive pictures and viral moments, subscribe to the DailyMail's new showbiz newsletter to stay in the loop. 'I wanted that responsibility and revelled in that of being a housewife and a little family's support, but unfortunately it didn't end the way I'd hoped' she said. Brodie added that her life now was a 'little more stress-free with a little less pressure and less responsibility.' In May, Brodie revealed she'll be moving out of the Melbourne home she purchased with Buckley, following their split. The brunette revealed in an emotional Instagram post that she is leaving the bayside suburb of Elwood altogether. Brodie shared an image as she enjoyed a glass of wine at the local tavern. 'End of an era. Sad to say goodbye to my favourite little community of Elwood,' she captioned the post. Brodie and Nathan purchased a property together in the highly sought-after suburb and moved into the home in June last year. Her post came just hours after Brodie announced the pair have decided to part ways, while Nathan still remains silent on the breakup. 'To the followers of the 'Brodes and Bucks' journey,' the former WAG began. 'After much reflection and consideration, Nath and I have decided to part ways,' she continued. 'Thank you for your kind messages and support over the past couple of months of heartache. I am truly grateful for your kindness and consideration. 'This decision was not made lightly, and we are grateful for the time we shared, the memories we created, and the support we received from each other and all of you. 'While we will no longer be a couple, I will always respect Nathan and the friendship that developed between us 3-4 years ago and have a lot of love for him and his boys and our beautiful dog Tank.' Brodie concluded: 'We appreciate your understanding and kindness over the past couple of months and continuing through this transition period. 'We kindly ask for privacy as we navigate this new chapter in our lives. Thank you for your continued support and for being a part of our journey. With respect and gratitude, Brodie.' The sad ending came just months after the pair took their relationship to the next level by recently jetting off to the island paradise of Fiji for a very special family occasion. 'It's a big family holiday with all of Nath's family,' Ryan told the Herald Sun at the Australian Open. It was not the couple's first getaway, they've enjoyed several mini-breaks so far on homegrown soil. 'We've been to the New South Wales coast in the... campervan, we've been to Eildon, Fairhaven, Sorrento and we'll also be going to Queensland,' she told the publication at the time. Brodie previously revealed she and Nathan connected over their similar upbringings, after they began dating in 2022. Despite their 17-year age gap, the Melbourne businesswoman said they have so much in common and that they push each other every day to be their best selves. 'Helping others be the best version of themselves and prioritising their mental health and wellbeing and giving back to others is a passion both Nath and I have always shared. These topics were a big attraction to each in the beginning,' she said. 'We had very similar upbringings and share a lot of the same values due to this,' she continued. 'I have always been enthusiastic about helping others where I can, and to have a partner that exercises this same passion every day with his family, friends, and the wider community inspires me.' Brodie said Nathan's public profile has given him the opportunity to help others through hardships and to give back, and that she is 'inspired' by the work he does.
Yahoo
15-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Says She's Started Moving on After Her Ex-Husband Left Her for Someone Else. Now, He Wants to Come Back
A woman sought advice on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, sharing that she had just begun to move on after her ex-husband left her for another woman — but now he wants to come back "I was wrecked but got on with it because I had to," she wrote of the breakup Readers overwhelmingly advised the woman to not entertain the idea of reconciling with her exA woman is unsure if she should take her husband back — months after he left her for someone else. She detailed her dilemma in a post on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, beginning by explaining that her ex left her in February. He "said 'he wasn't happy' and 'needed time to figure himself out,' which basically meant he'd been seeing someone else," the OP (original poster) wrote. After he walked out, she was left to pick up the pieces at home. 'He moved in with her sharpish, left me with two kids under 6 and a mortgage to deal with. I was wrecked but got on with it because I had to," she wrote. Just as she had begun to move on with her life, her mother-in-law called to tell her that her ex had been hospitalized after an incident at a bar. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! 'He got into it with some bloke outside a pub who was kicking off at his new girlfriend. Tried to break it up and got badly hurt,' the OP said. She took their kids to see him in the hospital. While she was relieved that he seemed OK, she was surprised to learn that he had a change of heart about being with her. 'It was honestly surreal. He looked at me like he hadn't seen me in years. Got emotional, said he's been stupid, wants to come home, wants his family back,' the OP recalled. She said her mother-in-law 'is acting like I should just forgive and forget,' and sending messages that he is still the father of their kids and not to do anything hasty. But the OP insisted she was not eager to get back together with her ex as she's just beginning to heal from how the relationship ended. 'I'm not sure I even want him back," she explained. "I've only just stopped crying every night. I've started sorting myself out again and even been chatting to someone new. Nothing serious, but he's kind and makes me laugh. Ex hasn't even apologized properly for what he put me through.' The woman said she's struggling to forget all the hurt that led to this point. 'I keep thinking about how quick he left. And now he's lying in a hospital bed feeling sorry for himself and suddenly remembers he had a family? It's all a bit too convenient," she wrote. In the comments section of her post, most readers had the same take on the situation, urging the OP to continue moving forward and not entertain her ex's request to reconcile. 'Say NO,' one person wrote. 'He showed you who he is. You're rebuilding your life. Keep going! Best off without him!' 'Absolutely not!" another agreed. "He's done it once and if you forgive him he'll do it again. He made his bed, now he can lie in it." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. One commenter suggested that she remain civil for the sake of their children and let her ex's "meddling" mom handle the rest. 'Support him (if you wish) for the sake of the kids, but never take him back. He can move in with his mum if she wants him,' they wrote. Read the original article on People


The Sun
20-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Ruth Langsford ditches wedding ring from Eamonn Holmes for first time in a year – as he moves on with new girlfriend
RUTH Langsford has finally ditched her wedding ring from Eamonn Holmes for first time in a year - as he moves on with his new girlfriend. The former TV golden couple shocked fans when they announced they were divorcing last May. 5 5 The Loose Women star 65, and the GB News jost, also 65, have since been embroiled in a bitter break-up, but are yet to finalise their divorce. Eamonn is now in a relationship with girlfriend Katie Alexander, 43, after they went public with their romance last summer. Meanwhile, Ruth is embracing the single life, and has revealed she is "open to dating" again - once her divorce is final. And in a further sign that she is moving on with her life away from Eamonn, the much-loved TV star has taken off the wedding ring he gave her. On yesterday's episode of Loose Women, Ruth's left hand was clearly bare, with no ring to be seen. Since turning 65 earlier this year, Ruth has been embracing her new single life. She has enjoyed luxury holidays with her friends and nights out. 'FREE FROM EAMONN' Friends also revealed that she is now keen to be "free from Eamonn" and finally be divorced. A source told The Mirror: "She's coming to terms with life being very, very different for her going forward. 'Ruth has been having fun going out with her girlfriends, and enjoying a little flirt, but that's it. "She really needs the Eamonn chapter to be fully closed before she can move on romantically, she needs her freedom. SHOCK SPLIT Last year, it was revealed how Eamonn and Ruth had ended their 14-year marriage. The former couple, who first began dating in 1996, share son Jack, who was born in 2002. A source said previously: 'Eamonn and Ruth's relationship changed when they left This Morning. 5 5 "They started moving in different directions in their careers and their priorities started to change. 'Eamonn was desperate to return to Belfast, which he thinks of as home, but Ruth would never move. It became a bone of contention. 'As her ITV career continued, Eamonn went down another path and they became ships in the night. 'For the past two years they had led separate lives, professionally and personally.' The Sun revealed how the pair had been cutting final ties after the TV host was accused of 'dragging his feet' over their divorce. Ruth and Eamonn's relationship timeline Before the shock split announcement, Ruth and Eamonn seemed like one of the strongest couples on UK TV – even with their signature bickering style. Here's how their romance played out... 1997 - The couple first meet after being introduced by mutual friends, two years after Eamonn splits from his first wife, Gabrielle, with whom he has three children. 1997-2002 - To be respectful to Gabrielle, the couple kept their relationship out of the limelight. Ruth told Daily Mail: "I thought it spoke volumes about the sort of man he was, the sort of father he was and the integrity he had. It made me love him more, not less." 2002 - Ruth and Eamonn welcome their son, Jack, to the family. 2005 - Eamonn finalises his divorce with Gabrielle. 2006 - The pair begin to host Friday episodes of This Morning together. 2010 - Eamonn proposes to Ruth while at the Cheltenham Races, after asking Ruth's mother for her hand. June 2010 - Eamonn and Ruth marry at Elvetham Hall, Hampshire. 2016 - Eamonn undergoes a double hip replacement in the first of many health battles. June 2019 - On This Morning, Ruth and Eamonn say the secret to their happy marriage. Eamonn credits "compromise, consideration and lots of conjugal," while Ruth said it was "laughter and an equal marriage". November 2020 - Ruth and Eamonn are replaced on their regular Friday slot by Alison Hammond and Dermot O'Leary in a 'show shake-up'. December 202 1 - After a year of being moved to the bank holiday presenting slot, both Eamonn and Ruth left This Morning. January 2022 - Eamonn debuted on GB News, while Ruth stayed with ITV in her long-standing role on Loose Women. September 2022 - Eamonn undergoes spinal surgery after years of back issues including a trapped sciatic nerve. November 2022 - Eamonn falls down the stairs of his Surrey home with Ruth and breaks his shoulder, requiring a new operation. September 2023 - Eamonn has a spine and neck stretching procedure as part of his year-long recovery. May 2024 - Ruth and Eamonn announce they have split after 14 years of marriage and a 27-year relationship. September 2024 - Eamonn was spotted on a luxury holiday in Barcelona with his new girlfriend Katie Alexander. Ruth calls in a 'fierce' divorce lawyer.