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Sex Workers, OnlyFans Models, And Strippers Are Sharing The Stories Of Their First Client, And They're Honestly Fascinating
Recently, Reddit user drowning_fish_101 asked, "For those who worked (or still are) as a sex worker, what was it like having your first client?" and the responses were super fascinating. Here's what former sex workers, strippers, and others in the sex industry had to share about their first times working. 1."I was about 20/21 at university and worked in a cafe run by these two funny gay guys. They told me one day that they knew a lot of older women who were looking for sex and willing to pay for it. All I needed to do was turn up, be dressed nicely, have dinner and drinks, maybe a river cruise through the city and back to their hotel for sex. This was before smartphones, so not once did I get a photo of these women beforehand, and I was always worried about what I was walking into and if I could perform." "I only did it five to ten times for money, and I was fortunate that none of them were completely unattractive, and they were all extremely nice and interesting to spend time with. The first one was a lady in her fifties who was career driven and just kind of missed the boat for marriage and children. First impressions: she looked like a cold corporate woman, but she was actually quite lovely and just lonely and wanted attention. We actually caught up again a few more times for no money, but she would always pay for everything." —u/GhostKingHoney 2."I remember my first client wanted a foot job. I was in no way prepared for giving that type of a repeated movement with my legs. It was so physically exhausting. I was in my early twenties at the time. I just remember the client looking really young. I wore lingerie the whole time and did the foot job. After he came, he just wanted to talk for the rest of the session. He asked me a lot of questions about the job I was doing. It was not a bad experience; the client was respectful." —u/LauraLovexxxgodes 3."I was 19, and I was told I would be taking a woman to a wedding. There was no talk of sex. Just the promise of a bonus from the woman who set up the date if the woman I escorted gave me a good review. The mark was a 32-year-old divorcee who was absolutely gorgeous. The wedding was for her ex' sister, who was also her best friend. I played the part through the ceremony, where she pointed out her ex. He was skinny, short, and had no muscle — totally the opposite of me. We went up to change for the reception. That's where I learned what it would take to get the bonus, and I obliged. She was exaggerating and screaming since the ex was in the next room. We were all over each other at the reception. Back to the room where we performed all night, and she would get digs in on her ex. The morning, she pushed me out of the door naked in front of her ex, whom my manhood must have dwarfed, by the look on his face." "Luckily, there was a room service cart. I used the house phone to call my handler. I was driven to her house, and I got the bonus. I was enchanted by the mark but disappointed because I didn't get out with the new tux or suit. A week later, those were dropped off with an envelope with 5k and a note saying I was a bargain, amongst other things. I admired her and wish I would have seen her again." —u/Arnaghad_Bear 4."My first sex work experience was with a man I met through SeekingArrangement (a dating website that facilitates 'mutually beneficial relationships' between 'sugar daddies/mommies' and 'sugar babies'). We had an ongoing thing where he genuinely helped me to get off drugs and encouraged me to do better. He became my sugar daddy and even offered me a job in his company if we agreed not to mention our past. I turned him down, and sadly, he passed away months later. He had cancer and never told me. I think about him often, especially when setting and achieving my goals." —u/Nose-Working 5."Former stripper here. ... It was absolutely terrifying. I will say that I had really no idea what I was walking into. I saw an ad on Craigslist, sent in a bikini picture (smart), received an email from the owner, and went in that night. I thought I would just get some information and go from there, but they convinced me to do a short shift then and I had never done anything like that before." "For that first time, I was given a little outfit (similar to a bikini) for free (which I still have) and just sent out to watch what the other girls were doing. I remember that it was oddly early in the day, so there weren't a ton of people in the club, which was helpful, but I honestly had no idea what was going on. The DJ pulled me aside and asked me what kind of music I liked, to which I answered 'rap,' and he laughed at me. Then he asked me what I was going to go by. Again, I was speechless, and one of the managers happened to be walking by, thankfully. He threw out 'Delilah,' and she was born. Shortly after, it was my first time on stage, and because there were so few girls in the club, we were each doing three songs on the top stage and three songs on the bottom stage. The pole was intimidating, I could barely walk on heels, so I basically just rolled around on the stage, rubbing my boobs. When I got to the bottom stage, one of the other girls took pity on me and came up to sit at the tip bar. If I remember correctly, she was my first customer. She leaned into me and instructed me to lean back onto the bar and bicycle my legs in the air while keeping eye contact as she tucked dollar bills in the waistband of my bikini bottoms. She saved my life that night. If you're here, I love you. When I went to the back rooms to give my first private lap dance, I was awkward as all hell. When you come back, you have to pay the bouncer (1 song=$30, $20 of which went to me and $10 for the house), and I asked him about taking off my bottoms. I had seen several of the girls taking off their bottoms while they were dancing to reveal a sparkly or beautiful thong underneath, but I was nude under mine, and it wasn't a nude club. I remember him staring at me, asking why I didn't have a thong on underneath, and me getting defensive because no one had told me or provided me with one. ... It gets a lot easier. You start having to pay for everything, including outfits, work, and makeup. Luckily, at my club, there was a house mom who took care of us. As someone told me soon after I started working, I did quickly become jaded, and it became second nature to just go sit on a random man's or woman's lap and disconnect from who I was entirely, which is a quiet, calm, not super social person." —u/kdubs542 6."I was extremely nervous. I knew nothing about my client, and I was worried about whether or not she would enjoy herself. I arrived at the hotel and knocked on the specified door. She ended up being a perfectly average middle-aged woman. I followed my instruction manual to the letter for all the introductory stuff. She warned me that she doesn't get off easily and requires a lot of warmup." "Long story short, I went down on her for at least 40 minutes. She went from zero reaction to a muted one, but I didn't see anything that indicated she might have gotten off. I raised the white flag after 40 minutes and apologized if I didn't get her off. She said, 'Are you kidding me? I got off like five times!' She ended up repeating this with me two more times and left some great reviews for me. She also gave me some insights about the industry. 10/10 first customer." —u/WindJammer27 7."I was absolutely terrified. I entered the industry for the first time as a mature woman, surrounded by young girls with long legs and perky tits. I had always been a very sexual person, so I thought that I'd be like a fish to water, but I was not prepared for the emotional toll of trying to sell myself to every man who walked in. My first booking was a man in his early thirties, and it turned out he was high on coke. ... He couldn't even get hard. I thought it was me. I never doubted my oral skills but assumed he wasn't attracted enough to me. It was some of the more experienced girls who later explained coke dick to me." "Fourteen months later, I'm still in the industry and love it. The selling aspect has become so much easier. I make good money and meet some truly fabulous people. But whenever I get upset about missing a booking or not getting as many as I'd like to, I think about how excited I was the first time I was told that someone was paying to have sex with me and the dread that immediately followed about 'what now,' and I realize that a quiet day isn't so bad." —u/BustyRedd 8."I've had issues with sex and being emotionally connected, so I thought I'd be great at stripping and sex work in general. The first shift was my last because I found the aggressiveness of the girl who was supposed to be helping me out to be unpalatable. It was day shift on a weekday, so hardly anyone was in there aside from a small handful of people. One dude who seemed ready to buy a dance kept getting followed around by the other girl. He kept trying to get away from her to talk to me, and I had no idea what I was doing and didn't want to step on any toes. After my first dance, he finally was able to approach me and told me to watch out for her and that they just returned from her aggressively giving him a blowjob in the parking lot, and that, apparently, she wouldn't stop complaining about me." "I was completely lost at how to handle this as she hadn't mentioned having any issue with me or shown that she was upset (I guess I expected some level of professionalism LOL). He ended up buying a dance from both of us 'discounted' so that she could show me the ropes. It was very awkward for me, and after that, I had so much anxiety that I decided it wasn't for me. I'm sure I would have eventually figured things out, but the first day felt as disorganized and weird as you'd expect, and I don't think I would have ever done well with the more competitive women such as that girl." —u/blankbreadbox 9."Does phone sex count? Many moons ago, there used to be phone numbers in little sleazy magazines with pictures of pretty girls and women. Phone 18-year-old Missy now! Talk to 33-year-old Karen, the single mum, now! 55-year-old granny Rita is ready for your call now! Ring Gina, the transgender 24-year-old, for a chat! None of these people actually existed. All but one of us on the phone lines were ex-working girls. I was the exception. We signed into the phone system on our own home phone. We heard a code when calls were connected, and then we knew which character we were to play." "I was terrified for the first call. I had no idea what to say, but I got through it. The boss listened in. Funnily enough, I turned out to be exceptionally good at it. I bought some books on the psychology of sex and sexual fantasies, and that helped. I was running the company, doing the phone system, the rostering, and checking on the girls' calls within a couple of months of starting. I was also making phenomenal money. We were paid by the minute. Later in my employment, I was offered a video slot when they began doing video calls. I left the company. I was fine being an anonymous, never-to-be-found voice on a phone line, but no way was I going to do video chatting. ... The most popular characters on the phone lines were the transgender ones. By a country mile!!! I also became adept at sound effects. Some guys wanted to hear you urinate on the toilet (always kept a glass of water next to the loo), high heels walking across a floor (high heels on a coffee table), a 'wet pussy' was a mouthful of water and a finger squishing around in there or a piece of latex with some lube and of course a vibrator had to always be on standby. Personally, I preferred the guys who were just lonely and wanted someone to talk to. My record was over four hours with one caller. The system would automatically hang up every hour as a reminder to the caller about how much money he was spending. Depending on the line he rang in on, it was $1.95 or $3.95 a minute. I got about a dollar a minute. Not bad sitting at home in my comfy clothing watching TV with closed captions whilst pretending to be in sexy nightwear with an insatiable sexual appetite!" —u/Lightfairy 10."I'm technically in the industry. I work as a lingerie barmaid — called Skimpys in Australia. My first day was terrifying. I'm confident and always wear tiny bikinis on the beach and post pretty revealing photos on my Instagram just for fun. But the first day, I was shaking, fixing my outfit, and being awkward. I realized my job was less about what I wore and more about the conversations I had. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to have a job with such a good hourly rate that put me through a degree, but it was so emotionally exhausting. It's called surface acting in psychology — constantly being on and in a good mood, laughing at dumb jokes, smiling at creepy compliments, and men double your age drooling over you, barely looking into your eyes. The half-naked part is honestly the easiest part of it. It's the constant pretending and the character you put in that's exhausting." "I've done it for almost three years now, and now that I've graduated, I'm excited to move on to the next thing. I hear the same experience from my dancer friends. Dancing and being half-naked, you barely notice, but the emotional toll is heavy. But a lot of girls have funded buying a house, big travel, or paid for degrees outright. I'm sure sex work is similar, from what I hear from my friends." —u/Middle_Potential_335 11."I was a sex worker. My first client was actually nice; I was absolutely terrified, though. It hadn't been long since I had my daughter, so my body wasn't 100%, but he thought I looked amazing. It built my confidence up." "I was young, in an abusive relationship. I was bought a bunch of flowers by a client and I genuinely cried." —u/Glad_Independence874 12."I'm a former OnlyFans girl. I'm well-educated, but I'm from a poor country, and I'm a breadwinner. I was so, so lucky; my first client was a sweet man — a widower. He just wanted company and some playtime. For my second client, I was even luckier. She was a lovely woman. She was just lonely. It was her first time ever on OnlyFans, trying it out. Everyone else after that were pigs. I really felt like an object. I was dissociating a lot and hated my body. But I stayed on for the money to pay for school (Master's, mind you) and my parents' hospital my second client (the woman), whom I had gotten close to, offered me a large sum so I could leave the business and focus on finishing my degree and getting another job where I was safer." "I stopped. We kept in touch, got even closer, and fell in love. We're dating now. I'm in a good job and I graduated. It's been two years now, and I'm happy and safe!" —u/ThrowRASufficient34 13."I started stripping on my 18th birthday. My first lap dance was a $200, 15-minute private dance. The guy was 25 and from the UK (this was in the USA). I cried while sitting on his lap because I had no idea what to do. He was so nice and just hugged me and told me it was okay, even though he had just spent $200 to have some girl cry on his lap. I hung out with him the rest of the night (with one of his friends and one of mine)." —u/rosethepug 14."I was a 22 y/o crossdresser at the time, and I found a guy (let's call him Kevin) on Grindr. He said he liked spoiling people and said he'd pay me to have sex with him. He was a ... not my type, but I wasn't bothered by it. I let four people know exactly where we were going to be and who he was before I did it. I dressed up in a cute fit, and he complimented me, and I felt affirmed at a time when I was questioning my gender. He asked if $100 was okay. I was only expecting half that, so of course, I said it was okay. We had sex outside, and he was really sweet. We cuddled and talked more than we had sex. He told me his nephew was transitioning and started living with Kevin because he was escaping his bigoted parents. Kevin asked for advice on how to make his nephew feel safe and stuff. Kevin even respected my boundaries as far as what I did and did not want. He was a really caring guy who was just lonely." "After I left, I bought some outfits and sent pics of me to him. I haven't heard anything after that. I hope he's doing okay." —u/RavenQuill 15."It was stressful AF. Meeting someone new and then having sex as a service instead of for fun was definitely anxiety-provoking. ... For me, I think most of the jitters came from the fear that I would disappoint the client in some way. What if he sees my body in real life and doesn't like it? What if I'm too awkward? What if I'm not as good at tomfoolery as I thought? What if he wants me to ride him, but I lose my balance and break his dick and accidentally punch him in the face while trying to catch myself??" —u/Iskracat 16."He was a prominent Canadian businessperson, and I was a college student in Indiana in my twenties. He was married and used a fake name, but I figured out who he was. He was kind and generous, and we saw each other several times whenever he came into town. He really liked to see himself as a mysterious benefactor and had a weird breeding kink, but he was a lovely man. Then he died of cancer and had a big plaza named after him, and sometimes I see it mentioned and think, 'Huh. That was a weird time.'" —u/All_In_A_Row 17."I got into being a sugar baby and a sex worker not from financial need but more so curiosity and desire. I found it hot that people would pay me for something I already wanted to do. I'm not romantically attracted to men, but I have a good time sexually and enjoy their company, so it was very easy for me to not have any emotional messiness. The first client started up during the pandemic, so we actually ended up talking on the phone for months before we were able to meet up. By the time we did, I was very comfortable with him and was already receiving monthly funds. I left the scene when I started dating my girlfriend more seriously, but I have no regrets!" —u/Sensitive-Pudding-50 18."I met him on SeekingArrangement. I was 19 years old. We had a drink at a dive bar I was familiar with in the downtown part of my hometown. I blew him in the backseat of my car for $200. I had sex a bunch, so I was 'experienced,' but I never did it in a straight-up transactional way. I had worked some shifts at strip clubs, though, so I wasn't SO green on taking the money. But the money actually changed my life. I needed it badly for some bill. I went immediately to the bank right after he finished to deposit and pay the bill. I didn't use a condom because I'm an idiot, but yeah, that was the first time. He was kinda lowkey good-looking. ... The guys on SeekingArrangement are super weird, though. I had various weird interactions with different guys after him, but he was actually pretty chill." —u/stephiree 19."I was pressured by my then-husband, of all people, to become a sugar baby at the ripe age of 38. I went on my first sugar date, and the sugar daddy and I instantly got along. We fell in love over the course of a year. We're together for life now. 🤷🏻♀️ I believe I've won the sugar life lottery." "The first date was incredibly hard. I actually called him and told him I couldn't go through with it, but he convinced me to at least go for dinner. It was a nice restaurant, high-end but not snooty, and we had the most lovely time. He mostly asked me questions about myself. I followed suit and asked about his life a lot, but he was cryptic. At the end of the date, he didn't even touch me or attempt a hug or a kiss. He walked me to my car, opened the car door for me, and asked me to drive safely. He then said he'd send me his last name and to look him up online." —u/sprinklingchaos 20."I was 18 and anxious as could be! I showed up to the hotel room. The guy let me inside and then started questioning me. 'How do I know you're not a cop?' I decided to get things started by telling him, 'Maybe you should check me for a wire.' It was pretty simple from there." —u/MidniteMistress 21."My fiancé and I started doing it six months ago. I was pretty nervous for the first five minutes until we realised it was a normal guy, and then it was super chilled out and easy. We're no stranger to threesomes, so no confidence issues there, but we'd never done it for money before." "We charge double for the both of us, and all the money goes into the wedding fund." —u/Sissy4Kink 22."I was in my late twenties, had lost my job, a parent had died, I was about to be evicted, and my cards were maxed out. I knew a ton of gay escorts and porn models. I pretty much kept it to referrals only, as for a quick minute, I was on Rentboy. It mostly was that either someone wanted a three-way or the friend couldn't do it (usually out of town). So I wasn't nervous the first time I did it on my own. The first time I did one alone, it was pretty fun, and I earned a bit of money. He was in his late fifties and pretty good-looking, but nothing super wild. He came six times. It lasted like 30 minutes, and it was four figures. And when I stopped, I still hooked up with him." "I was on Doxyprep, so I would charge extra without condoms. I don't do drugs, so that got strange at times, but most didn't ask. I kept testing every two months, and things turned out fine health-wise. I met a few people, and most were professionals who saw it as a convenience. When I smelled meth, or something seemed odd, I just left." —u/ughliterallycanteven 23."This guy liked to buy custom videos of me, and he asked me if I would make a video for him of me fucking some college student. I found a guy who I already wanted to fuck but who just lived an inconvenient distance away, and it turned out he was down to be filmed. I drove to his place, had an AMAZING time, took a video, edited it together nicely, sent it to the buyer, and got $3600. So, it really couldn't have gone better." —u/Brueguard 24."The first time was purely just to say I had done it. I was 19 and went on Craigslist and answered a post from a guy asking for a threesome with two women. We messaged back and forth for a while, but our schedules didn't line up right away. He had a woman text me to verify he wasn't dangerous and actually paid. He lived a bit away, and I didn't drive, so he eventually ended up driving to my city, picking me up, and getting a hotel. I brought a bottle of wine and some weed because I was nervous. We ended up talking for about an hour. Then, we eventually moved on to the deed. He basically had a micro penis, and that was my first time ever seeing such a sight. But I keep it professional. At some point, probably because I was tipsy, I started making out with him. That caught him off guard." "Anyway, we finished (well, he finished), and I changed. He paid me and took me to a friend's house. I never met up with him again, but he did text me to ask about the kissing. He was so used to sleeping with working girls who had strict boundaries (rightfully so) that that had never happened to him before. He then proceeded to text me for nearly five years after that to try to arrange a meet-up. I figure I was more personable than other, more experienced girls, and he liked it was more like a girlfriend experience." —u/-zombie-mami- 25."I didn't even realize it was happening until he paid me. I sneaked into the Bike Stop in Philly at the age of like 17 or 18, back in like 2002. Immediately, older dudes are offering me drinks and chatting me up. It was so much attention. I'm a chubby nerd, and it's new and flattering as hell. I wound up talking to this dude for a while. He was talking about how he was a lawyer. I was asking him about cases and shit. Finally, he was like, 'Are we going home?' and I was like, 'Yeah, alright.' So we got back to his place, we did some stuff, and it was all fun. I hopped in the shower for a minute, and when I got dressed and came back out, he handed me like $100 and said, 'For the cab,' with a wink." "Yeah...I went back the next week. I made so much cab money." —u/Netzapper 26."I was on the SeekingArrangement website for not very long, and there were some genuinely nice men, looking for their taste, I guess (IDK a better way to put it), but there were also some straight-up creeps. I will admit I slept with a guy 30 years my senior, and we had arranged a monthly agreement where he'd pay me $2000. It didn't work out, but the men I met on there beforehand made me question society. They were blatantly cheating on their wives, not even trying to hide it, saying you will get this amount if you have a place I can fuck you, or this amount if I have to rent a hotel." —u/leighsknees16 27."He asked to be humiliated. I smiled and made him confess everything and saved the receipts. Now, he tips extra just to keep them hidden. First client. Still my favorite toy." —u/Mistress_Zaveya 28."I was 18, fresh out of high school, and wanted to make money for Christmas, but nowhere 'normal' was hiring. I got work at a brothel/parlor that I didn't realize at the time had a horrible reputation. It had known gang-affiliated clients. The owner would collect her 'room fees' in the morning (of a $200 one-hour booking, we would get $125 for ourselves, and $75 would go to her for using the room) and have a general vacuum and tidy up before leaving for the day; whatever girls were working that day were also the 'receptionists,' answering the phone, doing all the laundry, collecting money from clients, cleaning rooms, and locking up at the end of the night. We had no security on site. It was run out of a residential house, and it was JUST us girls for the whole day: 10 a.m. to 11 p.m." "My first client was an absolutely lovely older fella whose client nickname/regular visitor codename was Hot Rod. He was a super gentle fella, took it really slow, and actually tried to get me off before anything else happened (I was too nervous to, bless him, but he tried his best). He really tried to put me at ease and enjoy myself, tipped well, and was just a really nice guy. The next 10 clients (10 hours as a first shift) I had that day were back-to-back bookings who were mostly alright, but some of them were super rough and tried to push boundaries (it's illegal to have sex for money without a condom or protective barrier between you and the client, but very legal/decriminalized to have sex for money with protection — including blowjobs with condoms on, which most guys absolutely hated and tried to get out of all the time). They tried to go over the booked time, and one sixties-ish man tipped me at least $500 to give him a blowjob with no condom and cum in my mouth because he knew I was 'fresh' and didn't have the backbone to say no at that point. I lasted about a week at that place before I quit. I burnt out so quickly, having 8-12 clients every day, because everyone wanted to test ride the barely legal new girl. Thankfully, during university the next year, I found a much nicer parlor with an actual receptionist, and the owner stayed on-site the whole shift. Clients were actually vetted before they could book, and all the money exchanges happened in an actual office with security cameras all over the place. I worked there for three more years before I 'retired' when the business sold and I got into a career with animals. I'm still friends with the old owner and most of the girls I worked with to this day." —u/FailAffectionate544 29."I tried only twice, but it was weird, so I stopped. My first time was with an older man. I showed up on time, but he was finishing his salad, so I sat at his dinner table, twiddling my thumbs, waiting for him to finish. Most awkward 10 minutes of my life! Finally, we went to the bedroom; he got undressed and laid on his tummy. I offered a brief massage, but he was so frail I thought I was going to hurt him. Then he turned, and I started playing with him. He liked it but said he couldn't get hard because he had cum once already that day. ... I know he was old, but it still hurt my self-esteem a little." —u/RadiantTurnipOoLaLa 30."I was a sugar baby to different successful men for three years. My first sugar daddy had 800K followers and 'public figure' in his Instagram profile bio. He smiled and told me not to be nervous because I was just his type. When I asked him what that was, he said, 'Scared skinny European girls who don't talk.'" —u/slavicgypsygirl 31."When I was 19, I was stationed with the US Air Force near Tokyo. One time, at a local gay bar, I was essentially recruited by a local massage was expected to end with extra services. I was young and enlisted, not making a lot of money. So the amount of money they told me I could make with my clients seemed really attractive. My first time working was a Friday night. I got off work, dressed, and went to the massage parlor. Clients could come into the shop, or we could be called for an out-call to a hotel. Clients would choose us in person or from a website. The boss came in and told me I had been 'reserved' for a hotel meet-up. I cleaned up and took the subway to the nearby hotel. I was so nervous. My Japanese was very weak, and I felt like everyone in that hotel lobby was staring at me and knew why I was there. ... The short elevator ride up, I almost bailed. I was about to have sex with a total stranger." "What if he wasn't hot? What if he wanted things I didn't enjoy? I got to the room, and a well-dressed, decently fit man in his forties answered. I went in, and we barely spoke since neither really spoke each other's language. We showered, and I nude-massaged him until it was 'time.' To my surprise, he wanted me to TOP! It hit me — I just assumed I would always be the bottom. I was a twinky young guy. I didn't even consider I would be topping. So it didn't go well. I couldn't stay hard. The condom was too small. It was hot in the room. He was very passive and didn't seem to be into it. We finished, and I couldn't have gotten out of there any faster. I didn't feel great about it, but it got easier over time. I did it for the rest of my tour. I met a lot of really nice clients who mostly just seemed either lonely or looking to avoid the hassle of sex dating apps. I did top way more than I normally do, but I got better at it." —u/throw_me_4way 32."I did a solo OnlyFans for about three months as an experiment. I made $1K+ but felt empty; as a guy, I think I did well, but it just didn't feel right. My first client wanted a lot, and I gave in. I probably sat there texting for an hour because I had such a large bit of dopamine getting my first sub, but it wore off after realizing how much time I spent for $4." "I also had someone who was running for a government position in their state subscribe to me and give me some tips, but they eventually deactivated their account. I was in the top 15% of all creators at my peak. I did it mostly to see how I'd do, but I can't lie — also for the money and wanting validation in a way. But I made sure to hide my face and keep myself anonymous. I could probably start posting again, but dealing with the clientele when it comes to this isn't for me, specifically with messaging. I'm a straight guy, but my subscribers were only men. I did have a few offers to collaborate with other female sex workers, but man, I'm just lazy, and I'd feel empty afterwards." —u/HornedUpp_ 33."I have only had three shifts at a brothel, so I'm not super experienced. I was very lucky. Had this guy come in who specifically asked for me. He made me orgasm by eating me out, then we cuddled, and he gave me a great massage. Thanks, Mike!" —u/scumtart 34."I was looking for something high-paying and kind of stumbled upon my shop's recruitment ad. I applied, thinking nothing of it, and was surprised to be contacted regarding an interview. I live in Japan, so in my case, I needed to have the right residence/visa status, which I do. I was also fortunate to pick a shop willing to take a chance on me, as I think the majority of shops would not be open to allowing a foreigner to work for them." "Even then, apparently, most guys drop out after only a few months when they realize it isn't quite what they were dreaming of." —WindJammer27 35."I still work in the same brothel I began sex work in. I was so nervous as I barely knew what the routine was and what to do. He was a regular, and we sat in the hot tub and talked before getting into it. He was very understanding and nice. I look back and realize I got super lucky as there is a whole range of men who come in, and for the most part, they aren't all kind, easy, clean, or not gross." —u/lbm300 36."My first client was a very nervous cutie who didn't seem to know where to start with explaining or doing. It was nice to know how to help someone feel relaxed, and that didn't need to perform or feel pressured. It reminded me how to be clearer with my own language/profile, though — that I only accept older clientele, and how I view/accommodate first timers. :)" —u/prestoluke finally..."It was a blast. I got tossed and flipped around like a doll. She was a 6ft Slavic woman. Mira, wherever you are, I miss you so." —u/This-Peace654 If you've worked in the porn, stripping, or sex industry, we want to hear your story — share in the comments below or via this anonymous form.
Yahoo
18-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Rachel Griffiths Says ‘Older Women Are Having a Moment,' Gushes Over ‘The Last Showgirl' and Jamie Lee Curtis ‘Dancing on That F—ing Table': ‘I Was in Awe of That Girl!'
According to Rachel Griffiths, whether it's cinema or TV, 'older women are having a moment.' 'We all know that's true: Demi Moore is a brand. There are so many great actresses of that generation. Take Helen Mirren in 'MobLand' right now, for fuck's sake. I loved Pamela [Anderson] in 'The Last Showgirl' and Jamie Lee Curtis dancing on that fucking table was the greatest moment I saw last year. I was in awe of that girl!' More from Variety 'Vanguard' Wins Series Award at Monte-Carlo Television Festival as Robin Wright Takes Crystal Nymph Judith Light Is Ready for Ridley Scott Exec-Produced 'The Terror: Devil in Silver' and for Women to Claim Their Space: 'Negotiate, for God's Sake!' Netflix's Cannabis Drama 'Amsterdam Empire' Gives Famke Janssen the Role She's Been Waiting For - and She Finally Gets to Speak in Dutch Directed by Gia Coppola, 'The Last Showgirl' focused on veteran dancers in Vegas. Griffiths isn't jealous of her colleagues' roles, however. 'If it's good, that means the actor is delivering. For me to go 'I wish I had it,' I just never have that thought. She's already inhabiting it. It's very rare that you're thinking: 'I could have done it better.' Usually, you're just bedazzled by the choices you wouldn't have made.' Recently seen in Sydney Sweeney-Glen Powell rom-com 'Anyone But You,' the Australian actor has become known for hit shows 'Six Feet Under' and 'Brothers & Sisters.' Joking about being in a 'pretty, dumb' jury at Monte-Carlo Television Festival as opposed to 'sad, serious' doc jury – 'We're here because we're unemployed. Come on, you can say it,' she said to co-juror John Reardon – Griffiths underlined: women watch television. 'I watch television when I'm doing the laundry, when I'm folding socks, when I'm cooking. You know, I didn't go to the cinema for years. I was too tired. Women are never going to stop demanding to see themselves represented authentically,' she added. 'We Australians, we fought in World War I with a poster that said: 'Free trip to Europe.' I came to a jury in Monaco instead – I had it much better than my grandfather.' During a chat with journalists, Griffiths – whose show 'Madam' was awarded at the fest only last year – admitted she hoped to see more diverse shows. 'I would say the selection was different to the broader palette of the stuff I'm digesting. There wasn't a huge amount of diversity in terms of ethnic communities. There wasn't a huge diversity of representation. That's probably just timing, but I wouldn't necessarily take it as representative of a litmus test of [what's happening] at this moment.' Griffiths has been working with Blackfella Films, founded by Rachel Perkins and focusing on Indigenous Australian stories. She exec-produced and starred in 'Total Control' alongside Deborah Mailman. 'It's very close to my heart. It makes stories better when their content is reflective of the places we live. I hope this rollback of diversity and inclusion doesn't impact our industry, because it makes characters more compelling, and it makes television more interesting. I hope it wasn't just one moment in history when we got 'Beef' and these great casts coming from non-Caucasian backgrounds.' In her own work, Griffiths refuses to 'feed the beast.' 'If the algorithm wants more 'angry' shows, I'm not going to start doing it.' But she noticed a new demand for returnable procedurals. 'The inclusion of a show like 'Good Cop/Bad Cop' [in the competition] shows people are trying to find returnable procedurals that bring you joy and do it in a fresh way. When I'm out pitching and having discussions around the world, I hear: 'Do you have an idea for a returnable procedural?',' she says. 'It's just so hard to make those limited series. They are hard to sell unless you have a big name, like Toni Collette or Colin Farrell.' Best of Variety New Movies Out Now in Theaters: What to See This Week 'Harry Potter' TV Show Cast Guide: Who's Who in Hogwarts? 25 Hollywood Legends Who Deserve an Honorary Oscar
The Guardian
10-06-2025
- Politics
- The Guardian
In Spain, a chat on the doorstep is a custom worth preserving in the digital age
The mayor of a small town in southern Spain felt compelled, a few days ago, to clarify that there is no new municipal ban on older women sitting out on the pavement in their own chairs. He was responding to a furious online backlash directed mostly at the town's police after they posted a message on social media urging the residents of Santa Fe to show 'civility' by not sitting in the streets in the late hours disturbing neighbours. This plea for respect for the public space was hardly a draconian law and order crackdown: it was a reasonably worded reminder. 'We know that putting chairs or tables outside the door is a tradition in many towns,' it said, 'but public spaces are regulated. If the police ask you to remove them, do so out of respect and in the interests of coexistence.' Unfortunately for the police, it was accompanied by a photograph not of 3am revellers or anyone engaging in antisocial behaviour, but six older women sitting outdoors on plastic garden chairs, enjoying what looks like a peaceful chat. The angry reaction ('Go and arrest drug dealers!', or 'All these women want is a quiet moment with their neighbours. Why don't you take care of real crimes!') was a reminder that in Spain, the authorities mess with community rituals involving older people at their peril. Perhaps the reaction also betrayed a sadness that the custom of sitting outdoors chatting, still practised in villages and some small towns, especially in the hottest months, is slowly fading as rural Spain becomes increasingly depopulated. In cities, you certainly don't see women or anyone else putting their own chairs on the pavement outside their front doors. But the routine of outdoor conversation and intergenerational use of public space is very much alive. Sitting and talking in public spaces is a tradition that dates back centuries and is closely intertwined with the history of women's rights in Spain. Women's search for independence and common spaces to talk outside the home can be traced to the middle ages – from separate bourgeois parlours to artisan work conducted outdoors. And it was not confined to regions with warmer weather. In León, a province in north-west Spain, people once gathered around the fireplace on bleak midwinter nights for the filandón, a session of storytelling named after the spinners who worked together while exchanging tales. This cherished oral tradition is now being revived in León, with local novelists holding events in nature reserves such as Babia, passing the filandón down to a new generation. In some villages in northern La Rioja, you still see women chatting as they sew espadrilles outside their shopfronts. It is only natural in the digital age that such ways of living and communing fade, but there is still a strong appreciation in Spain for the value of a neighbourly gathering, wherever it happens. In cities, it might take place in the lobby of an apartment building, often around the doorman. In mine, I find comfort in seeing the same older women and men, often with a dog in their midst, sitting on a bench by the mailbox almost every day. The daily chatter proved very useful during the recent blackout, as neighbours readily shared tips, food and information. One of the regulars is a retired engineer who once worked for a major power company, and he gave us the clearest explanation of how the outrage would be resolved. In town squares, it's common to see people of all ages sitting and chatting in the same space. Older women on the public benches, children running around them, teenagers kicking a football, all together and not necessarily drinking, as is often the case elsewhere. Summer heatwaves make late-evening gatherings outdoors a natural form of relief. Stepping outside for no particular purpose is often called tomando el fresco ('taking the breeze', if you are lucky to catch it). In the biggest Spanish cities, newly pedestrianised areas offer convivial shared outdoor spaces all year round. More modest than Barcelona's superblocks, the newly refurbished and pedestrianised Olavide Square in central Madrid, for example, has become a model of the ideal public space. It has teenagers playing ping pong, kids and dogs running about, people of all ages reading or scrolling on their phones in deckchairs, occasionally browsing from a public library stand, and of course older women deep in conversation until late. Even in shabbier squares, people of all generations still gather in proximity with ease. What is changing is that Madrid's conservative local government is increasingly promoting a privatised model of public space, with extended restaurant and bar terraces occupying most of the pavements, leaving little space for people to gather without being obliged to consume something. Respecting public space, as the Santa Fe police requested, means keeping it truly public. And that is key to fostering conversation not just with friends, but with neighbours, casual acquaintances and strangers. Conversation in public, shared spaces has a special power in these polarised, lonely, even dehumanising times. A sense of community requires much more than a few chairs on the pavement, but it is a good place to start. María Ramírez is a journalist and the deputy managing editor of a news outlet in Spain
Medscape
23-05-2025
- Health
- Medscape
Hip Fracture Rehab: Testosterone Gel Provides Limited Gains
Compared with exercise alone, combining exercise training with testosterone gel application did not result in longer 6-minute walk distances (6MWDs) in older women with a recent hip fracture repair and persistent mobility impairments. METHODOLOGY: Hip fractures are a significant public health issue, with up to 76% of patients in the United States experiencing functional loss despite rehabilitation. Researchers conducted a phase 3 clinical trial at eight US sites between December 2018 and August 2023 to evaluate the effects of exercise combined with topical testosterone therapy on functional outcomes in 129 women aged 65 years or older with a recent surgical repair of a nonpathologic fracture of the femur. Participants were randomly assigned to one of the three groups: Exercise plus 1% topical testosterone gel (n = 55; mean age, 79.4 years; 94.6% White population), exercise plus placebo gel (n = 54; mean age, 78.3 years; 90.7% White population), or enhanced usual care (n = 20; mean age, 83 years; 95.0% White population). Both exercise groups underwent a 24-week supervised, multimodal, high-intensity exercise program with progressive resistance training, whereas the enhanced usual care group was advised to independently perform low-intensity home-based exercise. The primary outcome was a change in the 6MWD from baseline to 24 weeks. TAKEAWAY: At 24 weeks, the mean increase in the 6MWD was not significantly different among groups: 42.7 m, 40.5 m, and 37.7 m for the exercise plus topical testosterone gel, exercise plus placebo gel, and enhanced usual care groups, respectively. The change in physical performance at 24 weeks, measured using the Short Physical Performance Battery score, was significantly greater in the exercise plus topical testosterone gel group than in the exercise plus placebo gel group ( P = .009). = .009). Among all participants, 11 (8.5%) had one or more serious adverse events during the intervention period, with the groupwise count being seven, three, and one for the exercise plus topical testosterone gel, exercise plus placebo gel, and enhanced usual care groups, respectively ( P = .48). IN PRACTICE: 'Among older women with a recent hip fracture repair and persistent mobility impairments, exercise training combined with topical testosterone therapy did not result in improvements in 6MWD compared with exercise training alone, although improvements in physical performance were observed,' the authors concluded. 'Testosterone combined with exercise might benefit physical performance and mobility for short distances and warrants further study.' SOURCE: This study was led by Ellen F. Binder, MD, Division of General Medicine and Geriatrics, Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis, Missouri. It was published online on May 15, 2025, in JAMA Network Open. LIMITATIONS: The enhanced usual care group's protocol included low-intensity exercises, potentially leading to more exercise than anticipated. The findings cannot be generalized to immediate post–hip fracture recovery periods, patients with varying functional impairment levels, those with dementia, or individuals from racially and ethnically minoritized populations. DISCLOSURES: This clinical trial was supported by grants from the National Institute on Aging. Support at the Baltimore site was provided by the Baltimore Veterans Affairs Medical Center Geriatric Research, Education, and Clinical Centers. Multiple authors reported receiving grants, personal fees, employment, and internal research support from multiple institutes, foundations, and pharmaceutical companies.
Associated Press
21-05-2025
- Health
- Associated Press
Watch: 7 chair yoga poses you can incorporate into your daily routine
Emotional well-being to fall prevention. Doing yoga with the use of a chair rather than a mat on the floor has a lot to offer people of all ages. Older women struggling with osteoporosis can improve their strength, balance and flexibility while minimizing falls. Desk workers can easily squeeze in a 15-minute workout at the office. Many companies offer it as a way to cut down on stress and improve overall health. People with injuries and illnesses like cancer or Parkinson's disease may not be ready to get down on a yoga mat, but they can stretch in a chair. Try one of these poses to get started.
