Woman Says She's Naming Baby After Late Grandma, Even Though Her Sister Also Wants to Use the Name
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she was closer with the grandmother than the sister was, even living with the woman in her childhood
But the sister is now so upset she's brought their parents into the mixA woman says she's not sure what to do after her sister became "furious" that she named her daughter after their late grandmother — because the sister wanted to use the name, too.
In a post shared on Reddit, the anonymous, 30-year-old woman writes that she and her sister are "not very close," and that the two lived apart during their childhood.
"I lived with my grandma because my sister had ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and a conduct disorder," the woman writes, adding, "I bonded deeply with grandma in the years I lived with her and I didn't want to go home when I did."
She continues: "But my sister was stable enough by then for me to live with her and my parents again. Our relationship never got better from that point. We learned to be civil but there's no love lost between us."
There were some tensions, the woman writes, when her grandmother died because she left her "a few special treasures" but left none to her sister.
While the two had a falling out, they kept in touch sporadically and, when the poster found out she was pregnant, she told her family she had decided to name the child after her grandmother.
"My sister told me I couldn't use grandma's name because she wanted to use it for a future daughter. She told me I didn't get to have the name," the woman writes. "Someone else said that nobody could claim a name and there was no reason we both couldn't use it."
The woman then gave birth and did use the name, and her sister is now "furious." Their parents, meanwhile, are siding with the sister, "asking why I didn't just find a different name and let her use it."
"They said after all she's been through and the stuff with inheritance I should be more understanding," she writes of her parents. "It annoyed me. My husband couldn't believe my parents would side with my sister on this."
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Hundreds of people have weighed in on the post, with many saying the woman did "nothing wrong."
"There is nothing you can do to prevent her from getting annoyed with you, and would find fault with anything you do. You did nothing wrong," writes one.
Added another commenter: "Your daughter's name is a beautiful tribute to your beloved grandmother and your sister's behavior is just plain childish. Don't let her petty jealousy and entitlement ruin such a special moment for you and your family."
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