Man Cuts His Sister Off After She Takes the Jewelry His Mom Gifted to His Wife
A man turns to the Reddit community for advice following a heated family fallout that erupted just weeks after his wedding.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum titled 'AITA for giving my wife's jewelry to my sister and cutting her off from my life,' he recounts how gifting his mother's gold jewelry to his bride led to severed ties with his sister.
'My wife and I got married a month ago,' he begins, explaining that during the wedding ceremony, he presented his mother's gold jewelry to his new wife in front of everyone. 'My mom had told me that she wanted me to have them and wanted me to give it to my wife so I did.'
But not everyone in the family supported the gesture. His younger sister felt blindsided and immediately took issue with the decision, insisting that the jewelry should have gone to her instead.
'My sister kept saying that our mom's jewelry belongs to her, especially the necklace and bangles,' he writes. He and his mother tried to reason with her, explaining that in their culture, a mother-in-law's jewelry traditionally goes to the daughter-in-law.
Still, his sister stood her ground. Eventually, in an effort to resolve the tension, his wife made a surprising offer. 'After a lot of arguments my wife said that she's willing to give our mom's jewelry to my sister,' he shares.
After talking about it with his mother, he ultimately decided to let his sister have the jewelry. 'I called my sister and told her that she can have whatever she wants,' he recalls.
His sister came to collect the pieces and was visibly thrilled. 'She was happy and laughing and she said she wanted our mom's jewelry ever since she was a child,' he says.
Though he allowed her to take it, the decision came with a finality he made clear. 'I said that she can have them but we all disagree. It's not yours to begin with, it's our mom's and I want her to stay away from us because I'll replicate the same jewelry for my wife and it's going to hurt her,' he writes.
Since then, both he and his mother have completely cut ties with the sister. 'Me and my mom have stopped talking with my sister and every time she tries to talk to us we ignore her,' he says.
Despite his sister offering to return the jewelry, their stance remains unchanged. 'She even offered to return it but we don't care,' he adds.
The man's wife appears to have a different perspective on the matter, though her opinion doesn't seem to carry much weight in the family's final decision. 'My wife has a different opinion but to be honest her opinion doesn't really matter to us,' he admits.
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In the comments, Reddit users had strong reactions to the situation. One writes, 'Your lovely wife gave up the jewelry to keep the peace, but it was all in vain because there is no peace.'
Another user questions the mother's role in the conflict, pointing out that the daughter may have felt neglected. 'Why on earth did your mom give her jewelry to her DIL when she knew her own daughter wanted at least some of it?' the commenter asks.
The family conflict appears far from resolved, with emotions still running high on all sides. For now, the jewelry remains with the sister — but the family connection may be the true cost of the gift.
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