Woman Keeps Late Sister's Ring to Remember Her. Then, Brother Uses It to Propose Without Asking
A woman is at odds with her brother after he used their late sister's ring to propose to his girlfriend without asking her.
In a recent post on Reddit, the woman explained that the ring was something she considered a prized possession.
She explains that her 17-year-old sister died when she was around 6 years old. Due to their age difference, the two weren't close, but the Reddit user remembered "little bits of her," like "her laugh, how she always painted her nails, her posters."
When the poster was 12 years old, she found her sister's old silver ring with a small stone in her belongings, and it became something she kept to remember her by.
"I didn't wear it loads or flaunt it, just had it in this little box and sometimes I'd look at it when I missed her. It kinda became this one thing that felt like mine, like my piece of her," the Reddit user explains.
Fast forward to last weekend, and the poster met up with her family for a group lunch alongside her 27-year-old brother and his girlfriend.
"He stands up, does the big speech and pulls out THE ring. my sister's ring. the one i've kept for like 7 years," she writes.
"i literally froze. his gf starts crying, ppl are clapping, i'm just sat there like wtf," she adds. "i look at my mum and she just smiles at me like nothing happened."
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When the poster confronted her mom, the matriarch said that her brother had asked for permission to use the ring to propose, and they said it "was fine."
"She said it was sweet and symbolic and my sister would've wanted it passed down or whatever," the Redditor explains.
The poster was left stunned, arguing that her brother should have asked her about it, as she had it "for years" and it was "never [his] to give."
Still, her mother told her she was being "dramatic" and that it was "just a ring," which caused her to "snap" and tell her brother that she wanted the ring back.
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He laughed her off — until she threatened to tell his girlfriend "where it came from and let her decide."
"He got mad said I was ruining his proposal and making it about me like always," the Reddit user writes, noting that she left halfway through the dinner because she was in the bathroom crying.
Although she realized that she could have handled the situation better, it still left her with a bad taste in her mouth.
"I just felt so blindsided. It's not even about the stupid ring. It's just like they acted like it didn't matter to me. Like I didn't matter," she writes.
In a follow-up post, she stated that she had listened to the comments, which suggested that she should explain to her brother's fiancée why she was upset. The two ultimately met up for lunch.
"I kinda just stared at the ring and didn't know what to say and I guess she must a noticed because she began apologising a lot saying 'I didn't know I'm sorry' and I finally got 'my' ring back or whoever's ring you wanna call it," the poster explains.
However, her brother called her upset afterwards, claiming that she was too young to have had a relationship with their sister, sentiments that her father also echoed. In the comment section, though, readers were still on the Reddit user's side.
"They're mad because his fiancée agreed with you. That it was s----y for them to do it. And they are embarrassed. They are going to continue to make you feel like s---. Don't reach out anymore," one comment read.
"Your brother didn't pick that ring because it was special, he picked it because it was convenient (and he's probably cheap). If I was the fiancé, I'd sure want to know he's not so thoughtful as he's pretending because that will definitely play out in other ways of a marriage," another added.
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