Pregnant Woman Says In-Laws 'Greeted My Baby Bump Instead of Me' When Meeting for the First Time
A woman says her first meeting with her in-laws did not go as planned when the couple immediately started talking about baby names
She details the meeting in a post shared to Reddit
"Both FIL and MIL greeted my baby bump instead of me when we arrived, and it was all downhill from there," she writesA woman says her first interaction with her in-laws will likely be her last after the couple immediately brought up potential baby names just hours after meeting for the first time.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she met her mother- and father-in-law for the first time, shortly after she found out she was pregnant.
"Both FIL and MIL greeted my baby bump instead of me when we arrived, and it was all downhill from there," she writes.
The couple then "pressured us to tell them our chosen baby names (we didn't), 'suggested' we name baby after MIL" and "made sure we had no time to see any other family in the area by dictating the whole weekend."
At one point, the woman's mother-in-law also "threw a bizarre temper tantrum about baby showers."
"She asked if I was having one, I said no, which is true," she writes. "She seemed to accept this at the time but next morning she declared my husband had told her that we would instead be doing a collection for the baby. He said no he hadn't, I said no we weren't doing that, she lost her cool (with a lot more back and forth in between, and increasing anger on her side)."
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She continues: "The whole visit made me sad because while I expected the entitlement and weird need for control, I wasn't expecting them to both prove me right quite so wholeheartedly or so soon. We've agreed to no more visits pre-birth, them coming to stay here/showing up unannounced is thankfully incredibly unlikely, and I personally will be putting them both on an info diet and directing all communication through husband for now."
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Others on Reddit are chalking the situation up to a "classic mother-in-law power grab."
Writes one commenter: "You're not 'evil,' you're just inconvenient to their fantasy of being third parents. Let them sulk, that's their hobby. Yours is protecting your baby. You already know placating just invites more entitlement."
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