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Yahoo
4 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
MIL Has an Outburst When She Can't Give Toddler Soda—Here's Why I Empathize With Her
Here's one lesson I learned quickly after I agreed to let my in-laws be our daughter's primary caretakers while my partner and I worked in the first years of her life: Grandma's house, Grandma's rules. We were lucky: When we asked them to limit her sugar intake and avoid screen time, they dutifully listened—but yes, the occasional package of fruit snacks or episode of Paw Patrol slipped past our carefully erected boundaries. For the most part, we chose to not fight those battles—especially because we're getting all that child care for free. Look, I know that's a hard pill to swallow, and I know that not everyone will agree. I see the other side of the coin, too: Parents should have the final say in what their kid eats, watches, and experiences. Personally, I never saw the harm in my daughter enjoying the occasional processed snack so I didn't intervene. But as I recently discovered on Reddit, not all parents take my un-intrusive stance. On Reddit, a mom recounted a recent incident that quickly escalated: While attending a party, the mom in question hoped to keep her 19 month old child awake in order to maintain her regular nap and sleep schedule. Her mother-in-law offered her grandchild a carbonated lemonade flavored drink, the parents objected, and that's where the interaction really went off the trails. 'MIL then spouted off a tirade about how I was so bossy, strict and soda wasn't going to hurt her,' OP wrote. 'This went on until she eventually called me a bad mom …she then told my partner (of 12 years) that he should leave me as I would run their lives forever.' This probably won't be a popular opinion either, but I have sympathy for the grandmother in the situation. Parenting advice has changed so much in even the last two decades that folks from older generations who raised seemingly healthy kids might feel left behind, embarrassed by their outdated opinions, or defensive of their own parenting choices. Now, did she very clearly overreact? Yes, absolutely. But she probably genuinely didn't think it would harm her granddaughter at all, and felt attacked when her kids rejected what she considered a well-meaning idea. At the end of the day, if you don't want your kid to have lemonade, that's your call, full stop. Parents shouldn't compromise the values they truly believe in even to appease the pushiest grandparent. And grandparents should accept that boundary with grace, even if it's not the choice they would make. 'You're the parent, you decide. End of discussion,' as one person put it in the comments. But I also think, from my own first-hand experience, and from reading Reddit pretty much daily for this very job, that parents and grandparents often find themselves locked in a battle of wills, and the disrespect runs both ways. One commenter wrote, 'I hope OP realizes it isn't about the drink, it's about control,' and that's spot on. Except that the parents themselves are fighting for control too, especially in those early years. The thing is, in parenting control is an illusion. You try to keep out fruit snacks and lemonade for as long as you can and then one day a school friend introduces your kid to Roblox and Ed Sheeran and suddenly you're arguing with her about why she can't quit the soccer team. So I understand why these parents latched on to the lemonade as a way to exert their sense of control over how they are raising their kid, while they still can. But it might benefit both parents and grandparents to adopt a more flexible, open-minded attitude and to perhaps choose more wisely when it comes to what battles are really worth fighting. There's a good chance you and your kid will disagree for longer than you think about everything from what they eat to who they date. You might want to consider saving your energy. Read the original article on Parents
Yahoo
6 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Mom Refuses to Let Daughter Sleep Over at In-Laws' House. But They Don't Take ‘No' for an Answer
A mother on Reddit is wondering if she's wrong for not letting her in-laws have overnight sleepovers with her 5-year-old daughter Though she's insistent that it's not allowed, partly because they're struggling to get their daughter on a good sleep schedule, her in-laws keep asking Commenters on Reddit pointed out that this could be a red flag for more concerning behaviorA mother on Reddit is wondering if she's in the wrong for continuously denying her in-laws' request to have her 5-year-old daughter over for sleepovers. The mom took to Reddit's r/AmIOverreacting forum to explain the situation, noting that she and her husband "have been together almost 20 years" and welcomed their first child five years ago. "Since basically day one, my in-laws (but specifically FIL) have asked to have sleep overs with her," the mother explains in the post. "FIL is a step parent to my husband so already a bit removed for a grandparent sleepover in my opinion," she continues. "They moved their entire lives to be closer to us after our daughter was born which I initially loved. But they have no sense of boundaries and can be a lot." The decision to deny her in-laws the right to a sleepover isn't just out of concern for her daughter's well-being. The poster explains that her daughter has had issues adjusting to a sleep schedule, and she's worried about throwing it off by allowing sleepovers. "My partner and I are on the same page that we have spent a lot of time on getting her into a good sleep routine but it's not great," she writes. "We'd rather stick with her schedule and let her spend as much time as she wants with them basically." Despite the couple's firm stance, her in-laws "won't leave me alone about the sleepovers." "They stopped asking my husband 'because he said no' yet continue to hound me," she shares. "Am I crazy for thinking it's weird af for adults to be asking/demanding a sleepover with my child?" Regardless of her in-laws' insistence, she clarifies that she's "firmly in the 'no sleepovers for anyone' camp," regardless of family relation. "I'm going to keep her safe first and foremost. But they also make me feel like an a-hole so I guess I'm checking myself." The comments on the post are squarely on the mother's side, with many pointing out that her in-laws' repeated requests to get her daughter alone could be a sign of something more sinister. "When it comes to abuse, the clearest red flag is inisistence and/or manipulation to get alone with a child," one user cautions in the comments. "That is quite often the only red flag you get." Even if the worst-case scenario isn't true, other commenters pointed out that the continued asking is still an indicator that their boundaries won't be respected. "Well I can speak from my experience, my mother is exactly like this. It wasn't abusive in a worst-case scenario, but her insistence on sleep overs and everything happening at their house is because she does not like to be told what to do," another commenter shares. "She does not respect what we say." Read the original article on People
CNA
20-06-2025
- Business
- CNA
My family and I lost S$500,000 to a scam. Taking responsibility for it was hard, but it helped me grow
I learnt the most painful lesson of my life in 2019. Together with my wife, my in-laws and my brother, we lost nearly half a million dollars to a scam. The financial loss was devastating – but the real damage was personal, relational, and emotional. You might be wondering: How does a mature, educated person fall so hard for a scam? The prime reason: Trust. One day, a friend introduced me to a charismatic forex trader, a well-mannered gentleman who exuded confidence and credibility. He shared an investment opportunity which promised good returns in the form of fixed monthly payouts with a simple one-month withdrawal notice. I'm not usually one to trust strangers at first sight, but my friend's introduction had lowered my guard. I decided to invest a small sum to test the waters. But when the returns came as promised, I started gradually increasing my investment sum and even rolled the profits back into the scheme. There were no red flags – no pressure, just consistent 'results' from a 'professional' who seemed to know what he was doing. What began as a cautious experiment grew into a six-figure commitment within a few years. During that time, we connected over shared values, talked about business and exchanged stories about our lives. He came across as sincere, humble and sharp. He even supported me as a donor in my corporate fundraising career. My trust in him was built slowly over those years. The more we connected and the more money I made, the more my confidence in both him and the scheme grew. Eventually, he became someone I considered a friend. I never imagined I could be wrong about him. PULLING OTHERS IN As I fell deeper and deeper, I began encouraging others around me to join the scheme. I won't lie, I did receive a recurring referral commission; however, I also genuinely believed it was a great opportunity. I told myself it was a win-win: People around me would benefit, and I would earn a little extra. Why think twice? In total, I introduced over 20 people to the scheme, including close friends and family. Like me, they were drawn in by the personal relationship they had with the individual bringing them in. We were all in. Then one day, everything came crashing down. I still remember the day I received the shocking news: The 'trader' had been arrested and charged for fraud. The jig was up – it was a Ponzi scheme. I felt physically sick. In that moment, I didn't know what was worse, that my money was gone, or that I had unknowingly led people I cared about into the same trap. It was beyond awful to realise that I wasn't just a victim; I was an accomplice, an unintentional instigator of harm. My emotions were all over the place. All the same, I knew I couldn't wait. I broke the news to those affected. For three nights, I couldn't sleep. I lost my appetite. My wife, daughter, and I were devastated. We had to tighten our belts overnight, and our thoughts ran wild with worst-case scenarios – what if we never recovered from this? BROKEN FRIENDSHIPS We were hurting about the financial loss. But even more so, we agonised over the emotional fallout: Strained relationships, broken trust, and deep shame. Some friends were gracious and understanding, and I'll forever be indescribably grateful. Others weren't. A few relationships never recovered – and honestly, I don't blame them. They had every right to be angry, to question and criticise my judgment now. By then, I was no longer in close touch with the friend who had originally introduced me to the trader. Nevertheless, it felt like our friendship, too, was over. The case went to court but as it unfolded, the victims were divided. Some supported the prosecution, hoping to recover their funds since the trader's accounts were frozen. Others held onto hope that if the case was dropped, payouts might resume. Two camps, two versions of denial – and I felt caught between them. Then came another gut-wrenching twist – I was called to testify as a prosecution witness. Truth be told, I didn't want to do it. Rationally, I understood that the scammer had done wrong to myself and so many others. Still, he had been my friend. I still felt lingering gratitude to him, especially for his support earlier in my I had no choice. The law compelled me. I had to do the right thing. TAKING OWNERSHIP If you're thinking 'This could never happen to me', I understand. I once thought the same. But scams don't always look like scams. They often come to us disguised as opportunity, friendship and success. Eventually, I came to a painful but important realisation: Though the trader had been at the crux of it all, it wasn't just his fault. It was also mine. I had enabled him by placing relationships above reason and emotion above evidence. I had wanted to trust him so much that I'd failed to see when that trust had crossed over into blindness. I had to confront my blind spots and take ownership of my actions and decisions. I began rebuilding – not just my finances, but also my mindset and capabilities. With strong support from my mentors and friends, I immersed myself in deal-making – this time making sure to do thorough due diligence at every single step. I dove deeper into stock investing, trading psychology and financial literacy. I took charge of my own investments instead of outsourcing my financial future to so-called experts. Today, I'm fortunate enough to have bounced back to an even stronger financial standing than before, with good returns from my own investment portfolio. But more importantly, I've built resilience. I may have learnt my lesson the hard way, but I'm now writing this to tell you that you don't have to do the same. Always exercise caution. Ask tough questions. Do your homework. And remember: the most important investment you'll ever make is in your own education and awareness. NEW BEGINNINGS Out of this painful pitfall, I found a new purpose: To help others avoid falling into the same pit. I founded the Rainmaker Community, a business and social network where people gather monthly to learn and grow together, not only about growing in wealth but also in wisdom, human connection, and character. We don't promise returns or chase hype – we build relationships and pursue purpose. I'm not proud of what happened. But I am proud of how I responded. It taught me this valuable lesson: That failure can indeed become life's most powerful teacher, but only if you're willing to meet it with honesty and humility.
ABC News
19-06-2025
- ABC News
Mushroom murder trial in final stages
The Defence has finished its closing arguments to the jury in the triple murder trial of Erin Patterson. 50 year old Ms Patterson has been accused of deliberately poisoning four of her in-laws with a lunch containing death cap mushrooms in 2023. She has pleaded not guilty to three counts of murder and one of attempted murder.
Yahoo
11-06-2025
- Yahoo
Bride Furious to Find Out In-Laws Are Trying to Crash Her Honeymoon in Italy: 'Selfish and Invasive'
A new bride shared on Reddit that she and her husband are planning a two-week honeymoon in Italy's Amalfi Coast this fall But then she was recently dismayed to find out that her in-laws had booked a trip to the same destination at the exact same time "This feels selfish and invasive," she wrote of her in-laws potentially crashing the newlyweds' romantic tripA new bride says her much-anticipated honeymoon might go from a romantic trip for two to a party of four — and she's not happy about it. In a post on Reddit's "Wedding" forum, the bride shared that she and her husband, who just celebrated their destination wedding last week, are planning a two-week honeymoon in October in Italy's Amalfi Coast. "We had a honeymoon fund for the Amalfi, we told friends and family about it, a lot of people asked about it during our wedding weekend, and we were SO excited to have their tips, recommendations, etc.," she noted. But then, the couple was shocked to receive a text from his parents saying they had booked a trip to Amalfi during the exact same dates. "They invited us to join them for part of the time or the entire time … for our honeymoon," the bride wrote. "To say we're annoyed and upset is an understatement." "For context, we haven't booked anything yet, but they 1,000% knew our plan. My in-laws are such kind people, but this feels almost selfish and invasive," she continued. "They said they've always wanted to go there and that they determined the dates because it's the cheapest time to go. [I don't know] if that's true or not." She concluded her post by asking fellow Redditors how they would feel in a similar situation and what she should do. Many readers agreed that the in-laws were overstepping by trying to horn in on the couple's honeymoon experience. "Kinda creepy and very insensitive at the same time. And poor taste," one person argued. That's so weird for them to book to go away to the same place at the same time as your honeymoon. Why would anyone even want to do that? I'm truly baffled," a commenter wrote. Yet another person joked, "It reminds me of the first season of The White Lotus," referring to Molly Shannon's character Kitty showing up at the Hawaii resort to crash her son's honeymoon. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! As for how to handle the situation, quite a few people advised the bride to choose different dates, since her travel plans are not yet set in stone. "Just book your own dates, and don't share that info. If your husband wants to confront [his parents], fine. But you stay out of it," one wrote. One reader, however, attempted to see things from the point of view of the in-laws. "I hear you that they are encroaching on your honeymoon turf, BUT there could be another angle: they might just love you both to buckets and want to celebrate with you," they wrote. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "Options: either tell them this is our trip, not yours. Stay home OR be so happy that they love you so much that they want to be part of your celebration," they continued, suggesting, "Whatever you decide, there is the option to set the boundary that most of your honeymoon time will be just the two of you, but you could meet them once or twice for lunch/dinner/beach." Read the original article on People
