Woman Cancels Family Getaway After Brother Mocks Her Generosity. Then He Asks Her for Money
The family was left disappointed by the canceled plans, but tensions rose further when the same brother who ridiculed her later came to her for financial help
Standing her ground despite family pressure to "be the bigger person," she refused his request, sparking a conversation about respect, boundaries and the true meaning of generosityA woman is turning to the Reddit community for support after a heartfelt family gesture took an unexpected turn. At just 19, she began working full-time before college and used her savings to plan a special weekend cabin getaway for her family, covering all the expenses herself.
'I paid for everything and was excited to spend time with them, especially since I don't usually get to do something big like this,' she shares in her post, highlighting how much the trip meant to her. But things took a sour turn at a family dinner just one week before the big event.
Her older brother, 24, started making jokes at her expense, accusing her of 'trying to buy everyone's love' and 'showing off with bakery money.' His girlfriend joined in the laughter, leaving her feeling embarrassed and hurt in front of the people she cares about most.
'I just sat there embarrassed,' she admits. After dinner, she confronted her brother and told him his words hurt, but he dismissed her feelings, and told her she was being dramatic.
So she made the decision to cancel the trip. 'I didn't want to spend a weekend being made fun of for trying to do something kind,' she explains, standing by her choice even as her parents expressed disappointment.
Her brother, however, didn't see it the same way and told everyone she 'ruined the trip for no reason.' This only added to her frustration, as she felt misunderstood and unfairly blamed for trying to set boundaries.
Time passed, and the situation took another twist when her brother, after making poor financial choices, came to her for help. He apologized, but she questioned the sincerity of his words, feeling the timing was 'super convenient.'
She decided to say no to his request for money, leading to more tension within the family. 'Now he's calling me selfish and got my parents pressuring me to 'be the bigger person,'' she reveals.
Turning to Reddit, she asks, 'Am I overreacting for standing my ground? I didn't ask to be treated like a joke.' The community has responded with overwhelming support, validating her feelings and encouraging her to prioritize her own well-being.
Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
One commenter reminds her, 'Your money, your rules. You aren't an ATM, and respect isn't bought, it's earned.' Echoing the pain of being ridiculed for her efforts, the poster replied, 'Right?? And it's my hard earned money that's supposed to pay [for] the getaway. It just hurts me that he had to make fun of it."
Another voice in the thread offers wisdom: 'You're absolutely right, respect can't be bought, it has to be earned. Setting boundaries and knowing your worth is key to any healthy relationship.'
Read the original article on People
Hashtags
Try Our AI Features
Explore what Daily8 AI can do for you:
Comments
No comments yet...
Related Articles
Yahoo
25 minutes ago
- Yahoo
Woman Tells Daughter-in-Law She Needs to ‘Dress Like a Wife'
A young woman was relentlessly criticized by her mother-in-law for her casual at-home attire Despite adjusting her wardrobe repeatedly, nothing satisfied her mother-in-law, leading to a humiliating confrontation in front of her husband Her husband's silence left her feeling betrayed, isolated, and unsure if she was in the wrongA woman is at odds with her husband and mother-in-law after a tense standoff over her wardrobe. 'It started a few weeks ago when we moved into my husband's childhood home temporarily while we sort stuff out,' she began her post. She admitted that she 'didn't want to," but "rents high" in her area, and "savings were tight,' so she and her husband, both in their 20s, thought it would only be for a short while. From the start, she tried to be the model houseguest, determined to make the best of an uncomfortable arrangement. 'At first, I tried to be polite. Friendly even. I made small talk. Helped clean up after dinner. Smiled even when I didn't want to,' she recalled, hoping her efforts would help her fit in and keep the peace in her husband's family home. But her efforts were quickly overshadowed by a series of pointed comments from her mother-in-law, who has strong opinions about what a 'wife' should look like, even at home. 'You really like wearing that around the house?' her mother-in-law would ask, making the young woman feel self-conscious in her own space. Another time, she quipped, 'Did you forget we have men in this house?' While her mother-in-law's remarks are 'quiet enough to sound innocent," the poster noted that they're "loud enough to sting.' Despite her mother-in-law's critiques, she insisted her clothes are nothing out of the ordinary — just 'shorts and a loose shirt' because 'it's hot' and she wants to be comfortable. 'I'm comfy. I'm not flashing anyone. There's nothing inappropriate,' she clarified. Yet, no matter how she tried to adapt, switching to 'leggings, tank tops, even just a long shirt,' her mother-in-law was never satisfied. 'No matter what I wore, it was never 'respectful' enough for her,' she explained in the since-deleted post, frustration building as she described the impossible standards she's being held to. The situation escalated when her mother-in-law confronted her directly, telling her in front of her husband that her clothes were 'embarrassing the family.' At first, she laughed, thinking it must be a joke, but quickly realized her mother-in-law was completely serious. The comments didn't stop there, as her mother-in-law said she "should try dressing like a wife, not a... well, never mind.' Finally, feeling pushed to her limit, the poster stood up for herself. 'This is my body. I'm in my home. I'm comfortable and not hurting anyone," she told her mother-in-law. "If you don't like how I dress, I'm sorry." The room fell silent, and her mother-in-law stood up, looked at her husband, and said, 'See? This is what you married.' What hurt most was her husband's reaction, or rather, his lack of one. 'He didn't say a word. Just sat there. Avoided eye contact. Acted like this wasn't his circus,' she remembered, feeling isolated and unsupported in the moment she needed him most. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Later that night, he told her she should 'just try to get along' with his 'old-fashioned' mother, insisting that the poster should be more 'understanding.' The conversation left her feeling even more alone, as if she were the one causing problems just by existing. 'She's literally policing what I wear like I'm 13 and grounded,' she wrote, describing how her husband acts as if she's the one stirring up drama. 'I've spent weeks biting my tongue. And now everyone's treating me like I'm the problem. Like I disrespected her," she continued. Despite her patience, civility, and willingness to compromise, she's left second-guessing herself. 'Now I feel like maybe I was too blunt. Or maybe too emotional. I don't know. I'm stuck in this house where I can't even be myself,' she confessed, asking the Reddit community for insight. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
25 minutes ago
- Yahoo
People Are Sharing The 'Harmless' Habits That Actually Make Someone Insufferable, And You Might Be Guilty Of Some Of These
Last week, Reddit user ZumbaRoy took to the popular Ask Reddit page to ask, "What's a 'harmless' habit that actually makes someone insufferable once you notice it?" Obviously, I had to know if any (God forbid) applied to me; and, I wanted to see if I'd witnessed any of these in the wild! So, I decided to round up some of the best answers, so you could be entertained by this, too: 1."Asking a question, not listening to the answer, then later contradicting what you just said." —u/Turtleballoon123 "I've had it come full swing. Doesn't listen to me, contradicts what I said anyway, then feeds me back my own comment as 'advice' soon later. So fucking annoying." —u/Tokijlo 2."Constantly one-upping your misery. You say you're tired, they haven't slept since 2014. You say your coffee's cold, they've been drinking regret for years." NBC / Via —u/These_Detail_7360 3."Never ever agreeing with you no matter how trivial or inconsequential. You will make a point and they will go, 'Well actually...' It's like they have to be right all the time, and it's exhausting to talk to people like that." Warner Bros. —u/porcosbaconsandwich 4."Hinting instead of asking direct questions." NBC —u/caseofthemondays81 5."Never asking questions back." —u/Glittering-Paper4516 "I've definitely had to work on this. I now notice how common it is for people not to be legit interested in each other." —u/psycharious 6."People who can't stand to go a minute without hearing their own voice." Bon Appétit / Via —u/Entire_Teaching1989 7."Those who make being contrarian their whole personality." —u/Immateriumdelirium 8."Always feeling like they have to play the devil's advocate." —u/candyspyder 9."Wanting others to notice their needs without ever actually expressing them. We aren't mind readers." —u/Suitable_cataclysm 10."Complaining constantly." —u/sleepingbeauttee "Or even just never having anything positive to say. Every sentence seems to be, 'I don't like XYZ.' Why can't we look more for things we enjoy and are grateful for? Don't make disliking everything your personality." —u/Obliviousobi 11."Someone once told me I have an annoying habit of interjecting myself into conversations with my own experiences of whatever thing they are discussing, rather than just listening. I've since made a conscious effort not to do that, and now I notice when others do so." Pop TV / CBC Television "So hey, step back, listen, and then if you have something to add do so when the other person has had their moment!" —u/zerbey "I have done this assuming that it's a bonding opportunity to relate over shared experience, but I guess most people don't think this way." —u/Status-Arrival-3757 "There's bringing up a similar thing to relate and show empathy, then there's bringing it up to highjack the conversation and making it about oneself. It really never goes away, does it? Every time it's a consideration. Thank you." —u/The_Mr_Wilson 12."Not being able to sustain a length of time without mindlessly being on their phone." —u/ouuspicymami 13."Mean comments disguised as a 'joke.'" —u/bumblebeebubbley 14."Lying about things that don't matter, either to one-up someone or just for attention." AMC "I have several examples, but just off the top of my head I used to work with a woman who brought her dog to work — he was delightful, she was not. We're all dog lovers and I was having a conversation with another coworker about foods that are toxic for dogs. Every food we mentioned (onions, garlic, grapes, coffee, etc.) she chimed in to tell us she feeds those to her dog 'all the time.' Umm no the fuck you do not. It was like that with her daily." —u/peaceandprisms 15."Loud eating. Nothing makes me angrier than hearing mouth-smacking noises like a llama." Netflix / Via —u/spirit_cat83 16."People who say something and you didn't quite catch what they said so you ask them to repeat it and they say 'nothing.' Especially if they're naturally soft-spoken and it happens a lot." —u/stampedes 17."People who only talk about themselves, and who pivot conversations to always be about them and their life." —u/defnotajournalist 18."Interrupting during a conversation." —u/Major_Smudges 19."Leaving random half-drunk cups all over the damn place, claiming that they aren't done with it even though every cup they've used was completely left alone for days. Put the damn cups in the sink. Holy shit." —u/AscendedViking7 20."When they ask, 'What are you doing on Tuesday?' instead of saying what they want first. You don't know if it's 'I have an extra ticket to a concert' or 'I need you to help me move a sofa.'" —u/Cultural-War-2838 21."It's hard to have conversations with people who are chronically hasty/impatient/jump to conclusions. They love to interrupt you when you are in the middle of answering the question they asked — and the worst part? They don't even realize they're doing it." —u/JustSoil3557 22."People who constantly sniffle instead of, you know, getting a tissue and BLOWING THEIR DAMN NOSE!" —u/KZorroFuego 23."I hate unsolicited advice, especially when it's constant or judgy in nature." —u/alainadm 24."I have a friend who always wants me to guess stuff. 'Guess who I saw?' 'Guess what I did?' And not in a rhetorical sense; she ACTUALLY wants me to guess. No, just tell me." NBC —u/ProximaeB finally: "People who can't make a decision. Where you wanna eat? I don't care. When you wanna hang out? I dunno I'm free whenever. What movie do you wanna watch? Doesn't matter." "Like OMG, can you pick anything?! It's even worse when it's their idea. I'm hungry let's go eat! Okay, what do you want? I don't care!" —u/LillyGirl7 What do you think? Are there any "harmless" habits I missed? Feel free to dish them all down in the comments — or, write into this anonymous form! I love hearing your thoughts.
Fox News
26 minutes ago
- Fox News
Honoring The United Service Organizations
In celebration of Independence Day, we offer a tribute to our men and women in the armed services. The United Service Organizations (USO) supports military members and their families, from their deployment to their transition back to civilian life. Janice revisits a conversation with USO Northeast Regional President Rebecca Parkes to discuss the history of the USO, as well as the future of the organization and how they plan to evolve to meet the needs of new generations of service men and women. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
