Woman Wonders If She's Wrong to Tell a Friend Not to Smoke in the Camping Trailer He Gave Her for Free
'I'm not sure if it comes across as rude or ungrateful to ask him to please smoke outside,' the woman wrote on Reddit
Fellow Redditors validated her concerns and offered solutionsA woman doesn't want her friendship to go up in smoke by telling her friend to abstain from smoking in the camping trailer he gave her.
She explained on Reddit's 'Am I the A------' forum that the cigarette-smoking friend is visiting, so she offered the trailer for him to sleep in, but now, she wonders if it would be 'rude' to tell him not to smoke in the trailer.
'So my friend had a camping trailer he no longer needed, and he gave it to our family about a month ago. Since he's a smoker, I stripped the couches, beds, etc. We spent $50 to wash everything,' she wrote.
'He's in town and needs a place to crash. We're offering our place, of course, and rather than just offering our couch, we can actually let him chill in the trailer this time,' she added. 'His default habit is to smoke inside.'
She said she would 'hate' for everything inside to smell like smoke again.
'I'm not sure if it comes across as rude or ungrateful to ask him to please smoke outside, seeing as we wouldn't own it if not for him,' she wrote.
Wondering what to do next, the woman asked Redditors, 'Would I be the a------ if I asked him to step outside to smoke instead of smoking in the trailer he gave us for free?'
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Many commenters validated her concerns and offered solutions.
'Say you just spent time and money cleaning it, and you'd like him to smoke outside,' one person replied. 'If you are more concerned about the friendship, tell him that you aren't going to raise a stink about it if he refuses, but you would appreciate he not smoke inside the trailer.'
Another reader respected her caution, writing, 'Your calm approach shows more grace than most people would muster in the same situation. You're not drawing lines in anger, you're just setting a reasonable boundary.'
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