Wife Gives Husband 3 Rules Before Going Into Labor. He Breaks Them All
In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that she and her husband agreed to a few ground rules before she underwent a cesarean section — but he went against every one
Now, she's considering leaving him and changing the baby's nameA new mom says she wants to rename her 7-month-old baby after her husband named the child while she underwent a cesarean section.
In a since-deleted Reddit post, the 33-year-old woman writes that she laid a few ground rules prior to undergoing the procedure so that she could be "clear about my needs."
The three rules were as follows: "1. I did not want to wake up from my c-section to people in the room - his family. Not because they're bad people or anything, but I did not want people to see me like that. I knew it was going to be a vulnerable time and didn't want people there."
"2. Nobody besides the doctors, nurses, and my husband were allowed to hold my baby before I was. 3. We had a list of names - that I liked and he was okay with some. He was free to pick from the list or we'd talk about it when I woke up. Specifically, I didn't want him to name our baby after his dad, which is what he'd wanted to do."
While her husband agreed to the rules initially, he ended up breaking all three.
"I was not prepared for when I was going to be put under…. They didn't walk me through anything that was going to happen or give me any warning," she writes in the post. "I got wheeled into a room, they asked me questions about myself, and next thing I know I was out like a light."
"I wake up and the first thing I see is his mom holding my baby," she continues. "Mind you when I woke up I had no idea what was going on, forgot why I was there, that I had been pregnant, had a baby… all of it was gone from my mind."
Once others had left the room, the woman asked her husband what they should name the baby and he immediately "got a bit awkward and said he named him after his dad."
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"I asked why and he said because the nurses had been harassing him about a name," she explains.
Now, seven months later, the woman says she is considering ending the marriage and moving back to her home country, where she would file to get the baby's name changed to one on the original list.
Fellow Reddit users are offering their takes on the situation, with many encouraging her to "take your baby and run."
"There's nothing to salvage here," one user wrote. "He doesn't care about you or what you want to even help provide for him, 'his family.' "
"Go home. What you've experienced so far is what your entire life will be with him," another agreed. "He'll agree to what you want and then do as he pleases because there are now consequences to breaking promises for him. Not to mention he'll never try to support his family because he already isn't. Run while you can."
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