'I Remember Mama' campaign seeks to celebrate all for Mother's Day
Volunteers of America has an annual campaign called 'I Remember Mama' now running for more than 35 years. The Upstate New York chapter is right now accepting donations to share flowers, gifts, and thoughtful cards with local moms who may have no one to honor them.
The president and CEO stopped by the News 8 at Sunrise studio explaining that women so often spend all their lives caring for others, so this is a chance to repay their love and hard work.
'We know that there's many women in our community that won't feel so special, because maybe the people in their lives are not here to acknowledge them—whether it's because they've been separated from some of those that love them or they've just outlived them. So we want to make sure they feel acknowledged and show them how important they are,' explains Dr. Junior Dillion.
The VOA hopes to make at least 200 gift packages this year for the women in the program's low-income housing as well as across the Greater Rochester region. Dillion says every $45 received equals one delivery.
The deadline to donate is May 3 so the gifts arrive in time for Mother's Day.
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