'My stepmum said she had a right to name my baby so I said she'll never meet my daughter'

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4 days ago

The mum-to-be reacted furiously when her 'insecure' stepmum overstepped the mark.
For all expectant parents, picking a name for your baby is one of the biggest decisions you have to make. It is a hard task and may lead to disagreements, but it can also bring so much joy.
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It is something that couples will decide on together and it is the name they - and everyone else - will use for their precious boy or girl for the rest of their life.
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With this in mind, it's understandable that parents-to-be can get quite defensive if other people poke their noses in or share unsolicited opinions on it.
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And that's what happened to one pregnant woman who was so irate at her stepmum "overstepping" that she banned the woman from ever seeing her child when she was born.
Posting about the situation on Reddit, the mum-to-be revealed she'd never had a great relationship with her stepmother. She and her husband met with her dad and his wife over brunch and she tried to be civil.
But when the older woman tried to pick her daughter's name, claiming she had that "right", the pregnant stepdaughter was furious, The Mirror reports.
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In her post on the online forum, she explained: "My stepmum and I never got along. She always pushed me, she wanted me to call her mum and then got mad when I didn't.
"She went through my text messages, she tried to take stuff that I paid for away, and she tried to make me babysit her kids multiple times, even on my prom night.
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"My dad and I still talk and he wanted to meet for brunch, so I said yes, unaware that he was bringing her. When they came, we talked for a bit casually with my husband there too, until we got onto the topic of my pregnancy.
"She asked me all kinds of questions and then she got to names, and she told me that I was going to name the baby Amy, which is her daughter's name.
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"I politely said no and said we already had a few names in mind. She started asking why I wasn't allowing her to name her grandchild and she should get that right, I told her that it's our right."
At this point, the conversation went south. The pregnant woman continued: "She kept saying that I was taking away her right as a grandparent and that I've always been such a b***h to her for no reason. She said she knew that I never accepted her as my mother from the beginning but said I'm a bad parent if I'm going to project that onto my kid."
The dig at her future parenting skills was a step too far for the mum-to-be. She told her stepmum that she wouldn't be allowed to see her daughter once she was born.
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She said: "I stopped everything and told her she's not allowed around my kid. She kept pushing it saying that she always knew I was a brat but to be this bitter to someone who only helped her is absurd.
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"I said that she can think that all she wants but I'm going to be naming our child whatever we decide. Then she decided to try to hit close to home saying that I was going to be a horrible mother and I keep adding to how much of a self-centered person I am by taking away her bonding with her grandchild.
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"That hit me hard, but I told her she's not going to be seeing my child ever when she's born since she wanted to push her luck. Before I could say more my husband grabbed our stuff and we left."
Reddit users flooded the mum-to-be with support on her post, blasting the stepmother for her behaviour and attitude. One person wrote: "Your dad's partner is way overstepping. I don't understand why your dad lets her continue acting like that."
Another commented: "You're 100 per cent in the right. Your stepmum is an insecure a**hole who only cares about herself. The fact that your dad agrees with her and did not defend you shows exactly how he feels too."