My wife's new higher salary has made me depressed and less confident. What can I do? VICKY REYNAL answers
Is my wife's higher salary the reason for my depression? I am 46 and have been in a management role at the same firm for ten years. A year ago I started to feel quite low – less confident, more withdrawn from friends and arguing more with my wife. The only thing that has changed is she got promoted twice in two years and started earning more than me. Yet instead of feeling grateful that she's bringing in more money, I feel guilty that I'm not making more. I should point out she has never made me feel guilty, it's all me. How can I just accept the situation and not let her salary impact everything?
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