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Yahoo
an hour ago
- General
- Yahoo
'I was denied PIP because I can drive but won at tribunal after 15-month fight'
A person has shared how their wife was awarded Personal Independence Payment (PIP) following a 15-month 'fight'. The cash was initially denied because she can drive and work, their spouse said. But following a lengthy battle and tribunal, she has finally been awarded the financial support for her conditions including: ADHD, anxiety and mobility issues. The story was shared on Reddit earlier this month and has since given hope to other users on the site who are going through issues with their benefit claim. READ MORE: Walsall Council issue update on popular splash pad and says 'good news' The woman's spouse wrote: "Just want to give a positive story. Today, after a 15-month fight, my wife won PIP at the tribunal. "We had got some advice beforehand and a submission was given to the courts on Tuesday about the point we wanted to argue. "Today, as we arrived, my wife received a few missed calls from a private number. She passed her phone to me to answer, and it was a lady from the court/ hearing advising us that we did not need to attend as the judge had ruled the appeal was won. "I advised we were at the courts and she came out and spoke to us in person and advised the judge had ruled [that] the appeal had been won on both daily living and mobility. "Originally DWP had awarded 0 points with the reasoning being as my wife is employed and can drive she must be able to do other tasks. "We were advised at the courts that just because someone works does not mean they do not struggle to do so. "Enhanced awarded on daily living and mobility. Conditions: ADHD, ASD 2 , anxiety and depression as well as issues with mobility. "Now we wait for the letter to arrive with the full details." In response, people were quick to congratulate the person on their win. One person said: "So glad she got the result she deserved and thanks for posting." A second added: "Firstly well done and secondly another example of why you should also go to tribunal and not give up." In a reply to this comment, the original poster said: "Thank you. Not going to lie, it was such a relief it was won without having to sit through it and be questioned." Another person wrote: "Congrats! Really happy for you and your wife!" "I'm glad you finally got the outcome you were entitled to and your long battle has ended positively," one user said. Another added: "I'm so pleased to read that people are fighting and winning for the help they are entitled to." The government website states: "Personal Independence Payment (PIP) can help with extra living costs if you have both: a long-term physical or mental health condition or disability difficulty doing certain everyday tasks or getting around because of your condition "You can get PIP even if you're working, have savings or are getting most other benefits."
The Guardian
an hour ago
- General
- The Guardian
Tim Dowling: how can my wife live without her glasses – and even her phone?
It is early in the morning, and my wife and I are setting off on a long car journey. My wife is driving; I am looking at my phone. It is my plan to look at my phone for at least the first hour, even though it is unlikely my wife will allow this. 'Bit hazy,' she says. 'Hmm,' I say, looking at my phone. 'But I think it might burn off later,' she says. 'What?' I say, forcing my eyes up to the horizon. 'Never mind,' my wife says, turning on the radio. I return to my phone. 'Sorry, will you clean these please?' my wife says, handing me her glasses. 'What?' I say. Instead of answering, she drops her glasses into my lap. Reluctantly I put down my phone, pull out the hem of my shirt, and fog the lenses with my breath. 'By the way, I don't approve of this,' I say, overtaken by irritation. 'Of what?' she says. 'I mean, first, I can't believe how filthy these glasses are,' I say. 'I know,' she says. 'That's why I asked you to …' 'And second,' I say. 'I can't believe you didn't notice until we'd done eight miles on the motorway.' 'I just realised the haze I was seeing was on my glasses,' she says. 'That's the best I can do,' I say, handing her glasses back. 'Much better, thank you,' she says. 'It's not safe,' I say. After a few minutes spent looking at my phone, my irritation subsides. I remind myself that my wife doesn't need her glasses the way I need my glasses: she will sometimes lose them for an entire weekend without suffering any particular inconvenience. I couldn't take off my glasses while driving without quickly crashing into a bridge support. Something I've seen on my phone catches my attention. 'Interesting,' I say. 'Guess how many …' 'No,' my wife says. 'Wait, just guess how many countries have a …' 'You didn't want to chat,' she says. 'Don't try to start a conversation now, using facts you found on your phone.' 'Fine,' I say. I take off my glasses to clean them, and the world ahead becomes a blur. Two days later, it is time to set off for home, but my wife can't find her phone. 'I swear I just had it,' she says, coming back from the car. 'Will you ring it?' 'Straight to voicemail,' I say, holding my own phone to my ear. 'Why is it doing that?' she says. 'It's fully charged.' 'Probably because there's no signal wherever you left it,' I say. In practical terms, this means outside, and it's raining outside. We try to approach the problem logically. My wife's laptop indicates the last picture she took on her phone was of a nearby pond, only 35 minutes previously. 'And then what?' I say. 'Did you fling it into the pond?' 'I went across that meadow, through the gate, and then to the car,' she says. 'But I really don't think I would have left my phone outside.' 'I once found your phone in the crook of the tree,' I say. 'That was different,' she says. 'I was listening to the Archers omnibus while I was weeding.' My wife returns to the pond, while I walk the meadow twice over, getting soaked. I am longing, for reasons both admirable and shameful, to be the person who finds the phone. But I don't see how anyone could find anything in this expanse of long grass. As I approach the car, the rain turning heavy, I see my wife coming. When she sees me she holds her phone above her head. 'Where was it?' I say. 'It was lying on a stone wall, getting rained on,' she says. 'I think I was taking a picture, and then my shoe was untied, and then … never mind.' 'Let's go,' I say. As we drive the sky begins to clear toward the east. The recent rain and the warm weather have caused the hedgerows to explode with growth. 'I'm glad we found it,' my wife says. 'It felt very uncomfortable not having my phone.' I do not say what I am thinking, which is: people who are truly uncomfortable without their phones don't leave them on stone walls in the rain. I need to be an exemplar of patience, if only because I so often try the patience of others. As we approach an intersection made blind by fresh greenery, my wife hands me her glasses. 'Will you clean these?' she says. 'Of course,' I say.
Washington Post
11 hours ago
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- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax chat: My teen feels pressured by her boyfriend's pushy mom
More from Carolyn Hax From the archive: Her daughter acts differently around boyfriend. Cause for alarm? Wife has a bad feeling about becoming the breadwinner Newfound sobriety causes social anxiety How to tell daughter-in-law to put down her phone Irked by iTunes account with ex-husband's last name More: Sign up for Carolyn's email newsletter to get her column delivered to your inbox each morning. Carolyn has a Q&A with readers on Fridays. Read the most recent live chat here. The next chat is June 27 at 12 p.m. Resources for getting help. Frequently asked questions about the column. Chat glossary
Daily Mail
4 days ago
- Business
- Daily Mail
My wife's new higher salary has made me depressed and less confident. What can I do? VICKY REYNAL answers
Is my wife's higher salary the reason for my depression? I am 46 and have been in a management role at the same firm for ten years. A year ago I started to feel quite low – less confident, more withdrawn from friends and arguing more with my wife. The only thing that has changed is she got promoted twice in two years and started earning more than me. Yet instead of feeling grateful that she's bringing in more money, I feel guilty that I'm not making more. I should point out she has never made me feel guilty, it's all me. How can I just accept the situation and not let her salary impact everything?
Yahoo
4 days ago
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- Yahoo
My marriage is healthy – except for my wife's total refusal to touch me
After years of no sexual intimacy with my wife, I am now craving the comfort of somatic connection. Not actual sex, but simply cuddling and being held close while nude. But my wife has refused. I have suggested we try 'progressive desensitisation' therapy, which would involve lying down together, with one item of clothing removed, but with no physical contact. We would build from there in the knowledge that this would not lead to sexual contact. My wife, when I suggested it, was not at all interested in this, and in fact, she was actively opposed. She told me the problem was in my head and that she had zero interest in physical intimacy. She also said that this was normal for older women. I told her it was my impression that older people actually craved appropriate physical touch. She then agreed that I could just lie in her bed fully clothed before retiring to my own bedroom. But this was just awkward and humiliating for me, because it was obvious that she was not in the least invested in my presence. So I gave up the idea completely. In every other regard our marriage is healthy. At times, I consider asking her if she could accept my seeking intimacy elsewhere, but I think this would lead to the end of our marriage. I feel trapped – I love my wife but my resentment is growing. Your sense of despair and sadness is understandable, and you deserve to be happier. Your needs are real and valid, but in truth this is not a sexuality problem; rather, it is a power struggle that you are losing. Your joint task would be to break down the barriers to fully seeing each other's simple human needs and struggles, to summon empathy, and to find common ground. When two people are locked into this kind of emotional 'prison', it is very difficult to see a way out. There can be a way, but the impasse that has developed is so well-entrenched that it is unlikely to be dissolved without the willing participation of both of you in some kind of mediation process – preferably couples counselling. Many couples lack the communication and negotiating skills necessary to overcome such a problem without outside help. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to (please don't send attachments). Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions. Comments on this piece are premoderated to ensure discussion remains on topics raised by the writer. Please be aware there may be a short delay in comments appearing on the site.
