Singleton Resents Having Given ‘Best Years' to Her Ex: ‘What if I Have Lost My Looks?'
A 35-year-old woman confessed she's "really worried" about being single as she ages
In a Mumsnet post, she recalled having been "pretty" in her 20s but giving her "best years" to her ex-partner
Responses to the post were divided about how to navigate being single in the mid-30s and beyondA woman in her mid-30s is worried that her aging appearance will keep her single for years to come.
In a Mumsnet post titled 'To be really worried about being single at 35,' the singleton confessed she's worried about losing her looks. She explained how confident she once was while admitting that her confidence has been knocked since her last relationship ended.
'I was so pretty in my 20s and early thirties and I feel so rubbish that my ex had all my best years and now I might end up single forever,' she wrote. 'Am I just having a bad day?'
'I suppose I just feel unattractive because I am old,' the woman added in a comment under the post.
The majority of responses to the post attempted to reassure the woman that she was just having a 'bad day' and shared stories of people meeting their soul mate later in life.
'My friend's sister was single at 35 then she met a man and quickly got married and had a baby. Then twins. Be careful what you wish for I guess she now has 3 under 3!' one person commented.
'You are not old!! I am 48 and I am old!!! (I am sure my 75-year-old mom would tell me I am not and she is!) There are plenty of fish in the sea whatever your age,' another said. 'If you want a relationship, then you can find one. If you want a GOOD relationship, they are harder but still possible. I am getting married (2nd time lucky I hope) next year to an old man (49) who thinks I am beautiful despite my grey hair, plumpness and wrinkles!'
A third chimed in, 'I remember being 35 and thinking that I would lose my looks by 40. I was looking forward to less male attention. Now I'm 40 and I seem to have become more attractive, not less. As PPs [previous posters] have said, exercise, better self-care, diet, clothes and hairstyle can all mean that it's easy to look and feel better now than in your 20s anyway.'
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Another added, 'I'm nearly 56 and have a date tonight. If I said I felt old, my nearly 95-year-old (independent, fit, active) mother would put me in my place. I feel more attractive and confident than I did 20 years ago.'
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However, several other commenters confessed they've struggled with being single as they age.
"Yanbu [you are not being unreasonable] and I sympathise as I feel exactly the same at 34,' one person wrote. 'People in relationships don't understand, I've learnt that now!
'You'll get loads of comments on here saying 'Oh my best friend's aunt's dog's sister met her dream man at 40 and they are the happiest people I know.' If you're anything like me it won't make you feel a jot better,' the same person added.
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