Dear Abby: I don't know how I'll survive if Social Security gets cut
Our house is paid for, and we have little debt. However, we're both experiencing physical and mental decline.
I worry about our house. We aren't able to clean and maintain it like we used to because of our physical limitations.
We used to have parties, but we're embarrassed to have people over now, which means we're kind of isolated.
We also worry that our Social Security and Medicare benefits will be stripped away. We rely on them to live.
We both paid into the system since age 15. Shouldn't we expect to reap the benefits of paying into the system all these years?
We worry all the time about the future, which seems so grim right now. Even if we can survive the next few years, I'm increasingly concerned about the disintegration of our home.
I am not sure where to turn. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. — WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE
DEAR WORRIED: If there is a senior center in your community, reach out and ask if there are any services that could assist you in finding reasonably priced help with your house.
As to your embarrassment about entertaining friends, that concern may be needless.If you want company, invite friends over for afternoon tea, a picnic or a barbecue outside if the weather permits.
Regarding your anxiety about Social Security, you are far from alone in feeling worried. Approximately 70 million American seniors are worrying right along with you.
Every senior should be writing to their local politicians, their state representatives, congresspersons and senators reminding them that those benefits were paid for and, if they are interfered with, it could cost them the next election.
DEAR ABBY: I'm a single, never married man. I was having trouble finding a nice woman to date, so I bought a T-shirt from a dating website to show the women at the grocery and hardware stores that I'm single and looking for a date.
I now have a new problem — women at the hardware store and grocery stores keep coming up to me, asking about my shirt and trying to get a date with me.
I am grateful for it, although I'm having trouble deciding which one I want to go out with.
How do I tell the ones I am not interested in that I'm busy or seeing someone else? They don't want to take no for an answer. — FLOODED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FLOODED: Stop saying no so quickly. If you are looking for someone special, you are going to have to do some sifting. As you will discover, dating is a process of trial and error.
You may find your taste in women will change if you experience a few of them (or more).
P.S. I'm sorry you didn't mention which website you bought that T-shirt from. Do they also come in women's sizes?
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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