Fed-up woman wants to hire cleaning service — but her fiancé says she's being lazy: ‘He thinks it's not justified'
There are only so many things a person can get done in a single day — and one woman is getting called lazy for wanting to eliminate something off her already busy to-do list.
In the r/AITA subreddit on Reddit, a frustrated woman explained a recent argument she had with her fiancé — which was shocking to commenters.
In the post, the woman shared that she and her man live together with their two large dogs, and they split everything evenly when it comes to finances — despite her earning a bit more than him.
As a result of their full home, their 'house gets messy pretty quickly with all the fur and daily life,' she wrote.
'When we first moved in, I took on most of the cleaning and cooking… but after months of juggling work, house chores, and cooking — sometimes even having to cook while in the middle of meetings — I burned out. Completely,' she relatably wrote.
The couple eventually agreed to hire someone part-time to clean their home. 'It helped a lot,' the original poster wrote.
It wasn't until this woman brought up the idea of hiring someone to clean the couple's home regularly, every weekday, to 'take some pressure off' her.
'He [her fiancé] got really upset and said it wasn't necessary, that I'm being lazy, and that I'm trying to avoid any responsibility for housework. That made me furious.'
Even though the OP told her fiancé that she wants to 'feel taken care of too, not just the one doing everything,' he didn't budge. 'He still thinks it's not justified to have daily help and that I should do more around the house.'
Well, expectantly, the people in the comment section sounded off — mostly in defense of the OP.
'He thinks it's unnecessary because… you are the maid.'
If you can afford to hire someone, as it isn't as expensive as it is in the U.S., then you are providing someone with a job AND you can enjoy life. Alternatively, your fiancé could get off his backside and stop being a schmuck. He's the lazy a– in this situation.'
'Tell him he needs to do what you do for one month without help and you can revisit the idea of a maid after the month is over. Or he can just zip it and go along with the maid plan now.'
'Sounds like money well spent to me.'
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