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New York Post
5 days ago
- General
- New York Post
Dear Abby: My son-in-law is awful to me
DEAR ABBY: My daughter has been married to her high school sweetheart for 15 years. Their marriage has been rocky from the start due to her husband's 'God' complex. He's a spoiled brat and a compulsive liar. He has not only caused mayhem in his own family but has nearly destroyed ours. He was extremely disrespectful to his late parents, and shortly after their deaths his bullying began being directed at us. Unfortunately, I have been the primary target. As a career businesswoman, I've always been able to respectfully stand my ground. Because he cannot control me like he does everyone else, he degrades, ridicules and belittles me, hurling nasty language and offensive behavior at me at every opportunity. I have tried everything humanly possible to get along with him. I've been a kind, loving mother-in-law and grandmother to his children. My daughter can't protect me, nor can my husband. I'm at the point of being willing to sacrifice my relationship with my daughter and grandchildren to get away from this monster. Counseling has given me tools to protect myself emotionally, but in the real-time situation they are not helpful. Any thoughts, Abby? — BROKEN-HEARTED IN NEW ENGLAND DEAR BROKEN-HEARTED: Your son-in-law is an elder abuser and probably a misogynist. The example he sets for your grandchildren is abominable, and they shouldn't grow up thinking it is normal behavior. Perhaps it's time you model the behavior your daughter should follow and separate yourself entirely from her husband. See her one-on-one, if at all. If you would like a relationship with your grandchildren, leave it up to her to make sure it happens. In the meantime, if you have a will, talk to a lawyer about changing it to ensure her husband cannot gain control of your assets. DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is scheduled for surgery in a few weeks. She will need to take a leave of absence from her teaching job. When she put in her request to the principal, he wanted to know what kind of surgery she was having. At first, she told him it was personal and she would prefer not to say, but he continued to harass her until she told him. She was embarrassed because it's a female-related procedure. I told her what he did was unprofessional and it's possibly illegal (HIPAA) for him to ask such a question. In her contract, she's allowed to take an LOA for personal reasons. How do you think she should have handled this situation? — LEAVE OF ABSENCE IN THE EAST DEAR LOA: I think your daughter-in-law handled the grilling as best she could. But understand that the principal had no right to pry into her medical needs. What he did was ethically and morally wrong. If he wanted a note from her doctor explaining her need for time off for surgery, he could have requested it. The details of the procedure were none of his business. If she is suffering emotional distress because of his harassment, she should consult a lawyer. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Scottish Sun
6 days ago
- Entertainment
- Scottish Sun
The Sun's fashion desk reveal their favourite outfits for the summer – and they cost UNDER £100
See how you can nail the boho trend for less SUMMER LOVIN' The Sun's fashion desk reveal their favourite outfits for the summer – and they cost UNDER £100 Click to share on X/Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) THE Fabulous team reveal their favourite budget looks & their tips for smart shopping. ABBY, DEPUTY FASHION EDITOR 4 Abby's dress screams summer and its stretchy fabric makes it very comfortable Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd Dress, £31.99, earrings, £5.99, both New Look; heels, £32, Asos; bag, £22.99, Deichmann; necklace, £4, Primark. TOTAL: £96.97 I AM all for a bargain, but these days it's difficult unless you shop in the sale aisles. While I can't bag a dress for under £20 like I used to, there are lots of great budget brands. This dress in particular screams summer, with a pale blue shell and starfish pattern, and its stretchy fabric makes it very comfortable. It's fully lined and has a lace trim around the neckline, which makes it feel more expensive. Deichmann has some great bags and this woven one is just £22.99. I finish off the look with some raffia platform heels from Asos and some gold jewellery. TRACEY, FASHION DIRECTOR 4 Tracey's co-ord from Mango looks premium and really makes a statement Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd shoppers go wild for Tesco's perfect summer co-ord Shirt and trousers, both £35.99, Mango; bag, £12.99, H&M necklace, £14, Vinted; shoes, £1, Primark. TOTAL: £99.97 THERE are lots of cheap clothes out there, but putting a whole look together that feels elevated for under £100 is a tough call these days. I always look for standout pieces at affordable prices, and this co-ord from Mango looks so premium – it really makes a statement. The print is bold and looks designer. The deep cuffs on the shirt add a touch of luxury, and it's so light and airy that it's perfect for the heatwave. But the real joy of this outfit is that I would wear it in the city for the office, yet I'd also throw it on over a bikini on holiday. Now that's a real bargain. EMILY, FASHION ASSISTANT 4 Emily is on the boho trend with this set from Primark Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd Top, £18, skirt, £20, both Primark; hat, £9.99, New Look; bag, £16, TU at Sainsbury's; wedges, £32.99, New Look. TOTAL: £96.98 LIKE most people my age, I'm saving for a mortgage so I've learnt how to put together great outfits without breaking the bank. The boho trend is back again this summer and I couldn't resist this set from Primark. I love the frill sleeved and tiered detailing and the skirt has an elasticated waist. Co-ords are a smart choice because you can wear them either as a set or style each piece separately – making them versatile pieces. This skirt is a perfect addition to my autumn wardrobe and I've added a raffia bucket hat and super comfortable wedges from New Look, plus a cute bag from TU at Sainsbury's. CLEMMIE, FASHION EDITOR 4 Clemmie's Boohoo suit looked expensive thanks to details like its frayed hems Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd Blazer, £37, and trousers, £24, Boohoo; black heeled sandals, £18, bangles £4, and bag, £10, all, Primark. TOTAL: £93. FINDING an outfit under £100 that genuinely looks good is tricky, but the high street has stepped up. I always look for unique details, like the frayed hems on this Boohoo blazer and trousers – it really sets them apart from the usual tailoring. The boxy blazer and wide-leg trousers have a premium feel, too. When I first tried it on, my reaction was 'I can't believe that's Boohoo.' Attention to detail makes all the difference. With my go-to gold bangles and heeled sandals with gold detailing, I'm set. Unlock even more award-winning articles as The Sun launches brand new membership programme - Sun Club.
New York Post
15-06-2025
- General
- New York Post
Dear Abby: My boyfriend won't divorce his wife
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I recently moved out of state. His only living relative, a sister, recently came to visit. She has never been married. She is a retired professional and has a good retirement, especially since she has no children. During her visit, she gave us a housewarming greeting card with a $50 Visa gift card. This was unusual as she has never in 50 years given us money. (She's very tight with her money and always insists on paying for her part of any restaurant bill separately.) Advertisement While she was here, I made a comment about her paying for a $5 coffee for her brother, and she became highly offended. (I knew she would be, so I kind of goaded her.) She then mentioned the $50 gift card she gave us and said I probably didn't even tell her brother about it even though he was in the room when she gave it to us. We don't need her money, and I want to mail it back to her and say thanks for the thought, but we don't need it. What do you think I should do? — THANKS, NO THANKS, IN FLORIDA DEAR THANKS: Really? I think that rather than try to create more problems with your sister-in-law, you should write her and apologize for your comment about the $5 coffee. Instead of returning the gift card, be gracious and accept it. Shame on you for knowingly stirring the pot. DEAR ABBY: I'm a widow. My partner died 10 months ago. We were together for seven years but never married. I have now found a partner who is 12 years younger than I am. We love each other and want to be married. My problem is, he is only separated from his wife. He says he doesn't want her and he hates her because she betrayed him. They are getting a divorce, but if I stay with him, I feel that I'll be stepping between them. What should I do — stay and hope for the best, or leave him? — IN THE MIDDLE IN MASSACHUSETTS Advertisement DEAR IN THE MIDDLE: This romance is in its infancy. You have been widowed for only 10 months. There's wisdom in the adage that after a trauma like the one you have suffered, a person should make no important decisions for a year. Has this man or his wife filed the divorce papers, or is he only thinking about it? If the papers have been filed, then you are not coming between him and his wife. Divorce can also be traumatic, and, frankly, I am surprised that this man would contemplate remarriage before his divorce is final. Rather than decide whether to leave him, take your time and see how this relationship plays out. Advertisement DEAR READERS: Happy Father's Day to fathers everywhere — birth fathers, stepfathers, adoptive and foster fathers, grandfathers and all of you caring men who mentor children and fill the role of absent dads. P.S. Also, a big shout-out to dual-role moms. I applaud you all — today and every day. — LOVE, ABBY Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Toronto Sun
14-05-2025
- General
- Toronto Sun
DEAR ABBY: This seasonal soup is ready for its close-up
Dear Abby shares her gazpacho recipe. Photo by file photo / Getty Images Reviews and recommendations are unbiased and products are independently selected. Postmedia may earn an affiliate commission from purchases made through links on this page. DEAR ABBY: Years ago, I purchased your recipe booklet which had a very good recipe for gazpacho (no oil in the recipe). This advertisement has not loaded yet, but your article continues below. THIS CONTENT IS RESERVED FOR SUBSCRIBERS ONLY Subscribe now to read the latest news in your city and across Canada. Unlimited online access to articles from across Canada with one account. Get exclusive access to the Toronto Sun ePaper, an electronic replica of the print edition that you can share, download and comment on. Enjoy insights and behind-the-scenes analysis from our award-winning journalists. Support local journalists and the next generation of journalists. Daily puzzles including the New York Times Crossword. SUBSCRIBE TO UNLOCK MORE ARTICLES Subscribe now to read the latest news in your city and across Canada. Unlimited online access to articles from across Canada with one account. Get exclusive access to the Toronto Sun ePaper, an electronic replica of the print edition that you can share, download and comment on. Enjoy insights and behind-the-scenes analysis from our award-winning journalists. Support local journalists and the next generation of journalists. Daily puzzles including the New York Times Crossword. REGISTER / SIGN IN TO UNLOCK MORE ARTICLES Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience. Access articles from across Canada with one account. Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments. Enjoy additional articles per month. Get email updates from your favourite authors. THIS ARTICLE IS FREE TO READ REGISTER TO UNLOCK. Create an account or sign in to continue with your reading experience. Access articles from across Canada with one account Share your thoughts and join the conversation in the comments Enjoy additional articles per month Get email updates from your favourite authors Don't have an account? Create Account I no longer have that booklet. Could you print the gazpacho recipe? Also, is the booklet still available? There were several other dishes in it I enjoyed preparing. Thank you. — BRENDA B. IN BOSTON DEAR BRENDA: I'm pleased to share the gazpacho recipe. It's a light, refreshing and healthy accompaniment to a spring or summer meal, and is included in the first of my Cookbooklet set. Yield: 8 (1/2 cup) servings INGREDIENTS 4 1/2 cups tomato juice 3 cups finely chopped tomatoes 1 1/2 cups finely chopped peeled cucumbers 1/2 cup finely chopped green pepper 1/2 cup finely chopped onion 2 1/4 tablespoons vinegar 4 dashes Tabasco sauce Salt, pepper, garlic, garlic salt or garlic juice to taste Spike seasoning, if desired. Your noon-hour look at what's happening in Toronto and beyond. By signing up you consent to receive the above newsletter from Postmedia Network Inc. Please try again This advertisement has not loaded yet, but your article continues below. METHOD In a large bowl, combine all ingredients, and mix well. For a spicier gazpacho, add 1-2 dashes of Spike. Chill 1 to 2 days to blend the flavours. Serve in cups with a thin slice of lemon as garnish. Tip: Using a food processor to chop the vegetables makes it swift and easy. To order the Cookbooklet set, send your name and address, plus cheque or money order for $16 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby Cookbooklet Set, P.O. Box 447, Mt. Morris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. There is an assortment of recipes in these booklets, ranging from appetizers and soups to main courses, side dishes and delicious desserts. Some of those dessert recipes won blue-ribbon prizes at county fairs, and I'm sure you will enjoy the introduction, which contains tips on entertaining. As my mother used to say, 'It's not what's on the table that makes a successful party, it's who you put in the chairs.' This advertisement has not loaded yet, but your article continues below. DEAR ABBY: I am at the end of my rope with a relative. She lies constantly. She makes up elaborate stories that I have Googled and proven false. For instance, she claimed she went to high school with a certain celebrity. (According to Google, the celebrity is 15 years older than she is.) She constantly tries to one-up anything I mention. I am fed up and want no further communication with her. What would make someone behave this way? Why does she need so much attention? — TRUE OR FALSE IN ILLINOIS DEAR TRUE OR FALSE: You may be taking this too personally. Folks who make up stories often do it because they are insecure and want to inflate their image. Because they don't feel good about themselves, they feel they must add 'something' to make them appear more important, influential or successful than they are. These individuals are to be pitied rather than ostracized. To the extent that you can, try to ignore her tall tales. — Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Sunshine Girls NHL Columnists Sunshine Girls Editorials
New York Post
11-05-2025
- General
- New York Post
Dear Abby: My cheating ex-wife is trying to weasel back into my life — 46 years later
DEAR ABBY: When my first wife and I were in our early 20s, she left me for another man. It was difficult, but I worked through it, learned to trust again and remarried a few years later. This may be hard to believe, but 46 years later, my ex-wife thought it would be a good idea to try to connect through social media. I knew how to find her if I wanted to, but I had no desire to relive that memory. I made the mistake of replying that I didn't think it was a good idea to connect. Unfortunately, that response led to her trying to explain why things happened in the past. It seems she didn't realize that once you dump someone, you forgo the right to be friends, regardless of how long ago it has been. Her explanation brought back much of the pain I felt so long ago. Please let your readers know that once you divorce, it is over forever, so hopefully they won't have to deal with this like I have. — DISAPPOINTED IN THE EAST DEAR DISAPPOINTED: I am passing along your message. However, some people can't just move on with their lives after a divorce because they are tied together by their children. What your first wife may have wanted was forgiveness from you, or help in forgiving herself, but you were not obligated to relieve her of her guilt. I'm glad you have firmly closed that unhappy chapter in your life. Now, go on. Live your life and don't look back. DEAR ABBY: My husband constantly tells me everything I do is wrong. He was in the Army for 23 years. We have been together for five years but married for only 2 1/2 of them. When I try to cook, he tells me that's not the way to do it. I used to love cooking, but now I hate it, so I quit trying, although I still cook whenever he's gone. He is the only one of us with an income, but he said he doesn't want me working because of my health problems. He had a quadruple bypass six months ago and it changed him for the worse. His recovery was remarkable, but he began drinking. He no longer talks to me — he yells and argues from the time I get up until I go to bed. I'm at the end of my rope and not sure what to do. I love him, but I can't live like this anymore. Please give me some ideas on what to do. — HURTING IN SOUTH CAROLINA DEAR HURTING: Start looking for a job. It may give you a degree of independence and get you out of the house. Your husband was already controlling before his surgery, and you need space to breathe. If his emotional abuse continues contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) and describe what has been going on. Although you love your husband, you may have to decide if you can remain with the status quo. DEAR READERS: I wish a very Happy Mother's Day to mothers everywhere — birth mothers, adoptive and foster mothers, stepmothers, grandmothers who are raising their grandchildren, as well as dual-role dads. Orchids to all of you for the love you give not only today, but each and every day. — LOVE, ABBY Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
