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New York Post
7 days ago
- General
- New York Post
Complimenting your partner could cause more harm than good, expert warns — here are two things you should never say
Compliments can certainly go a long way in making someone feel special and loved. While you might think everyone loves a little flattery, one expert warns that some compliments may have unintended negative impacts on romantic relationships. 3 One expert is warning that some grateful compliments may have unintended negative impacts on your romantic relationships. Adobe Stock Advertisement Psychologist Dr. Mark Travers explained in Psychology Today that sometimes what we say to thank our loved ones for their supportive behavior may be altering it. 'Compliments can be disarming. They make us feel chosen and understood in ways that other words rarely do,' the psychologist explained. 'But sometimes, the praise that feels the most flattering is also the praise that teaches us to edit ourselves.' Advertisement Over time, words intended to flatter someone can actually nudge a person to perform, conform, or shrink themselves to stay liked and continue to receive praise. Consider the compliment: 'How are you always so calm?' If your partner grew up playing the peacekeeper in chaotic situations, this compliment might feel like overdue recognition. Yet, it can also come across as a reward for their silence. 3 Be careful with the compliments you're giving your significant other. Getty Images/iStockphoto Advertisement 'When emotional suppression is praised in adult relationships, it reinforces the message that your worth lies in being agreeable and low-maintenance,' Travers said. This specific type of praise given to your partner could cause them to feel that they must remain calm — even when they're not. They may feel encouraged to keep that mask on, even at the cost of their true feelings. Another example is telling your partner: 'You're the only person I can talk to.' Advertisement This may sound like deep trust, but it could signal emotional dependency rather than intimacy. People actually experience better mental health when they have multiple people they can turn to to process their emotional needs, each filling different roles—venting, calming or cheering. 'This diversity in emotional support leads to greater well-being, because no single relationship is overloaded with the task of holding it all,' Travers explained to the outlet. While these two compliments should stay out of your relationship, there are a few key phrases Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and author of '13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do, advises people to implement into their romantic vocabulary. 'If you and your partner regularly use these phrases, it's a sign that you're already a mentally strong couple,' Morin told CNBC Make It. 'And if you don't yet, you can start implementing them and find that you'll grow stronger both individually and as a unit.' 3 When someone pins all their emotional needs on one person, it can quickly turn from flattery to obligation. kegfire – Saying to your romantic partner, 'I'm going to tell you something that may be upsetting to hear' is one of them. 'Acknowledging your mistakes and being honest about your needs can help you grow stronger together,' Morin said. Advertisement Another is, 'I'm sorry for the part I've played in this.' 'When you take responsibility for your share, you increase the chances that your partner will accept responsibility for theirs, too,' Morin said. 'Then you can both put your energy into developing a solution, rather than getting stuck pointing fingers and arguing about who caused the problem.' Lastly, 'Let's find a solution' is another important sentence to say when your partner is struggling with something. 'While some problems are ultimately in your partner's hands, like an issue they're having with their boss, offering to work together shows that you're invested in helping them make the best decision for themselves,' Morin explained.
The Sun
19-07-2025
- Sport
- The Sun
Jordan Pickford on verge of four-year Everton deal with England goalkeeper in line for huge increase on £6m-a-year wages
EVERTON chiefs are close to shaking hands with England No 1 Jordan Pickford on a bumper new four-year contract. The Toffees want Pickford to carry on with them — as SunSport revealed two months ago — and talks have sped along as the experienced keeper is close to agreement. 2 The 31-year-old could get a deal for four more seasons, an extension from his current terms which have two more years to go. The Three Lions star earns about £6million a year but that will be hiked. And, with annual rises, he will be looking at a huge increase by the end of the contract in 2029. Pickford is settled under David Moyes at Everton and has not pushed for a move to a bigger club despite his status as one of the Premier League's best. The experienced gloveman hasn't missed a Prem clash for Everton since 2022, and has now breached 320 top flight appearances. It's been his consistent high performance for the Toffees that has also seen him maintain the No1 shirt for England too. Pickford has now represented England in four major tournaments and racked up 76 caps. CASINO SPECIAL - BEST CASINO BONUSES FROM £10 DEPOSITS Everton have already announced the arrival of backup goalkeeper Mark Travers from Bournemouth this summer. Travers, 26, has penned a four-year deal on Merseyside and has his eyes on giving Pickford a run for his money. Upon signing for Everton, he said: "Jordan [Pickford] is an outstanding goalkeeper for Club and country. I'm looking forward to competing with everyone here and being a Premier League player. "Being in this environment is huge. We're going to push each other every day in training and whatever happens on the weekend, we're going to be there for each other and make the most of every opportunity that comes." 2
BBC News
19-07-2025
- Sport
- BBC News
Toffees lose 1-0 to Blackburn in second pre-season friendly
Everton suffered a 1-0 defeat to Championship Blackburn in their second pre-season friendly at Ewood Moyes fielded a strong side but new back-up goalkeeper signing Mark Travers was beaten after seven minutes by a Dion De Neve Toffees will now prepare to travel to the USA next week to face Bournemouth, West Ham and Manchester United as part of the Premier League Summer Series.
Free Malaysia Today
18-07-2025
- Sport
- Free Malaysia Today
Everton sign Bournemouth keeper Travers
Mark Travers made 82 appearances for Bournemouth during his nine years with the club. (EPA Images pic) LONDON : Everton signed Ireland goalkeeper Mark Travers from Bournemouth in a deal worth a reported £4 million today. Travers agreed a four-year contract with the Premier League club, who will open their new stadium at the start of the forthcoming season. The 26-year-old said: 'I'm extremely proud and excited to be an Everton player. Coming in, you can feel how big this club is and the history that comes with it. 'You really feel that with the fanbase, the new stadium now as well and the direction the club is going in. 'It's a really exciting time to be part of this massive football club and I just can't wait to get going.' Travers, who made 82 appearances for Bournemouth during his nine years with the club, will compete with England keeper Jordan Pickford for the starting place in David Moyes' team.
Observer
16-07-2025
- Sport
- Observer
Everton sign Bournemouth keeper Travers
LONDON: Everton signed Ireland goalkeeper Mark Travers from Bournemouth in a deal worth a reported £4 million ($5.3 million) on Tuesday. Travers agreed a four-year contract with the Premier League club, who will open their new stadium at the start of the forthcoming season. The 26-year-old said: "I'm extremely proud and excited to be an Everton player. Coming in, you can feel how big this club is and the history that comes with it. "You really feel that with the fanbase, the new stadium now as well and the direction the club is going in. "It's a really exciting time to be part of this massive football club and I just can't wait to get going." Travers, who made 82 appearances for Bournemouth during his nine years with the club, will compete with England keeper Jordan Pickford for the starting place in David Moyes' team. — AFP
