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The Sun
9 hours ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I went on a wild sex rampage with dozens of men decades younger than me after my hubby got his secretary pregnant
1 DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband of 22 years left me for a younger model and so I did what any other self respecting single woman in her late 40s would do - I hit the dating scene hard and what I discovered has truly shocked and thrilled me. I've learned more in the past 20 weeks about sex and fun than I did in two decades of marriage. And there are plenty of men, most of whom are A LOT younger than me, who like the fact I'm older and more self assured. I've learned to expect questions about my sexual preferences within the first message or two, understand that sending nudes is this generation's version of flirting and the biggest difference - that everyone expects you to keep your options open while dating. So far I've been out with ten men and I don't regret a single date. So while my ex made me feel washed up and undesirable these men have reignited something in me. After discovering our marriage had become a cliché - he was having an affair with his secretary - he moved out and set up home with her within one month. I was still unravelling when weeks later he told me he was going to be a dad to their unborn child. Our son and daughter are young adults now but it still hurt that he was moving on so quickly. Feeling low and rejected, I decided I needed to pick myself up and start having some fun myself. One night I asked a good girlfriend around and together we tentatively made a profile for me. Within ten minutes of uploading I was getting matches and a significant number of them were in their 20s. I'm 47 and thought it was a joke but my friend encouraged me to respond to a couple of them who looked fun. Dear Deidre: Spotting the signs your partner is cheating Since then I have been on the wildest ride and have discovered that dating has changed an awful lot since I was in my 20s. I've gone from, boring stay-at-home wife, to having a huge sexual re-awakening and the time of my life. The first time I went on a date was with a 28-year-old electrician. Suspicious, I asked if he was taking the mick. He convinced me he genuinely thought I was gorgeous and wanted to see an older woman 'because we aren't as needy'. And since then the young men keep on coming. I can't believe it and my married girlfriends are so jealous. The only time I felt out of my depth was when one man started squeezing my throat during sex. I was so shocked I demanded to know what he was doing. Surprised, he replied that he thought women liked it. He stopped straight away but that rattled me. I'm currently seeing three different men and they all bring different things to the party. But there is one guy in particular who I really like and he's started to make sounds that he'd like to settle with me. But how can I settle with a 29 year old? That's nearly two decades difference! DEIDRE SAYS: It is good that you have built your confidence back up and you're having fun. You are right to be wary of hurtling head first into a relationship with a much younger man. There is lots to consider - first and foremost how your children will react. And just as importantly; do you both want the same things from life? The biggie is the question of children of course. You've had your kids, do you realistically want the responsibility of a tiny newborn again? There is no two ways about it, two decades is significant but he is an adult, so you could of course both make it work. But you need to be realistic and society, your social network and family may not be so accepting. It sounds like the time has come to have an honest conversation about what you are both looking for. And as hard as it will be to end it with him, better to do that now before your lives become further entwined, if there is realistically no future. If you are ready to settle down (and the fact you have started to fall for this one man, suggests you are) but things don't work out with him, perhaps it's time to slow down and make sure you are seeing men with the same outlook as you. My support pack Age Gaps gives more advice. Dear Deidre's Age Gap Files Deidre's mailbag is stashed full with age gap relationship problems. One reader struggled to move on after her younger lover dropped her after sex, a different subscriber wrote in because he fell head over heels for the older woman who uses him as a booty call, while one woman couldn't move on after her toyboy dumped her for his ex. AGE GAPS – CAN THEY WORK? It's a question that gets asked a lot - often with a raised eyebrow: can relationships with a significant age difference actually work? In short: sometimes yes, sometimes no. The success of an age-gap relationship isn't always about the numbers, it's about how those numbers show up in our every day life. When both partners are at similar life stages - emotionally, socially and sexually - an gap of five, ten or even 20 years can feel irrelevant. But when one person is still figuring themselves out and the other is settled into long-term routines and commitments, those differences in lifestyles can quietly drive a wedge and cause problems in the relationship. Age gaps often bring hidden power dynamics. Who has more money, more life experience, more social capital? Who's compromising more to bridge that gap? These imbalances don't automatically mean a relationship is unhealthy, but it's important that they're acknowledged. Society tends to judge these pairings differently depending on who is older. Older man, younger woman? Often framed as classic or aspirational. Older woman, younger man? Cue the jokes, suspicion or backhanded compliments. However, for some women, dating younger is about energy, openness and sexual chemistry. For others, it's about finally being able to pursue what they want without being tethered to patriarchal expectations of settling down, caregiving or shrinking themselves. However, the power dynamic isn't always as one-sided as people assume. Many younger men are drawn to older women because of their confidence, emotional intelligence, and clarity about life. These are not naive boys and predatory women - they're adults navigating attraction that often feels more genuine than conventionally 'suitable' pairings. The reality is, all relationships come with challenges. Age-gap dynamics are just one version of that. If you share values, communicate well, and genuinely want the same things, an age difference doesn't have to be a red flag. But if you find yourself constantly adjusting your behaviour to fit into someone else's life - or if the age gap is being used to control, impress or mould you - it's worth asking why that person was attracted to the dynamic in the first place. Ask me and my counsellors anything Every problem get a personal and private reply from one of my trained counsellors within one working day. Sally Land is the Dear Deidre Agony Aunt. She achieved a distinction in the Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling, has specialised in relationships and parenting. She has over 20 years of writing and editing women's issues and general features. Passionate about helping people find a way through their challenges, Sally is also a trustee for the charity Family Lives. Her team helps up to 90 people every week. Sally took over as The Sun's Agony Aunt when Deidre Sanders retired from the The Dear Deidre column four years ago. The Dear Deidre Team Of Therapists Also Includes: Kate Taylor: a sex and dating writer who is also training to be a counsellor. Kate is an advisor for dating website OurTime and is the author of five self-help books. Jane Allton: a stalwart of the Dear Deidre for over 20 years. Jane is a trained therapist, who specialises in family issues. She has completed the Basic Counselling Skills Level 1, 2, and 3. She also achieved the Counselling and Psychotherapy (CPCAB) Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Studies. Catherine Thomas: with over two decades worth of experience Catherine has also trained as a therapist, with the same credentials as Jane. She specialises in consumer and relationship issues. Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you. You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at: deardeidre@
Yahoo
19-06-2025
- Yahoo
Woman shot and killed by ex-husband near Desert Ridge Marketplace, Phoenix police say
A 39-year-old woman has died after the Phoenix police said she was shot by her ex-husband near the Desert Ridge Marketplace on June 18. Jessica Shukers was shot at least once, the Phoenix Police Department said in a statement. Justin Creed, 38, was detained at the scene, the statement said. Police responded to the scene around 9:40 p.m. in the area of Tatum Boulevard and Deer Valley Drive in north Phoenix. Shukers died at the scene, the police said. Creed was booked into jail on one count of murder, the police said. The victim and suspect were previously married but divorced, the police said. Police are considering the homicide as a case of domestic violence. The investigation is ongoing, the police said. This article originally appeared on Arizona Republic: Woman killed by ex-husband near Desert Ridge Marketplace, police say
Daily Mail
18-06-2025
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Insane story behind world champion athlete set to be played by Sydney Sweeney in Hollywood movie
Almost 15 years have passed since the night she was stabbed repeatedly, shot in the torso and left for dead in a deranged attack by her abusive ex-husband. Yet for Christy Martin, the harrowing memory of November 23, 2010 will never fade. 'I was laying on the floor bleeding. I could hear my lung gurgling because it was punctured,' the women's boxing legend recalls in an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail.
Yahoo
15-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Says She's Started Moving on After Her Ex-Husband Left Her for Someone Else. Now, He Wants to Come Back
A woman sought advice on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, sharing that she had just begun to move on after her ex-husband left her for another woman — but now he wants to come back "I was wrecked but got on with it because I had to," she wrote of the breakup Readers overwhelmingly advised the woman to not entertain the idea of reconciling with her exA woman is unsure if she should take her husband back — months after he left her for someone else. She detailed her dilemma in a post on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, beginning by explaining that her ex left her in February. He "said 'he wasn't happy' and 'needed time to figure himself out,' which basically meant he'd been seeing someone else," the OP (original poster) wrote. After he walked out, she was left to pick up the pieces at home. 'He moved in with her sharpish, left me with two kids under 6 and a mortgage to deal with. I was wrecked but got on with it because I had to," she wrote. Just as she had begun to move on with her life, her mother-in-law called to tell her that her ex had been hospitalized after an incident at a bar. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! 'He got into it with some bloke outside a pub who was kicking off at his new girlfriend. Tried to break it up and got badly hurt,' the OP said. She took their kids to see him in the hospital. While she was relieved that he seemed OK, she was surprised to learn that he had a change of heart about being with her. 'It was honestly surreal. He looked at me like he hadn't seen me in years. Got emotional, said he's been stupid, wants to come home, wants his family back,' the OP recalled. She said her mother-in-law 'is acting like I should just forgive and forget,' and sending messages that he is still the father of their kids and not to do anything hasty. But the OP insisted she was not eager to get back together with her ex as she's just beginning to heal from how the relationship ended. 'I'm not sure I even want him back," she explained. "I've only just stopped crying every night. I've started sorting myself out again and even been chatting to someone new. Nothing serious, but he's kind and makes me laugh. Ex hasn't even apologized properly for what he put me through.' The woman said she's struggling to forget all the hurt that led to this point. 'I keep thinking about how quick he left. And now he's lying in a hospital bed feeling sorry for himself and suddenly remembers he had a family? It's all a bit too convenient," she wrote. In the comments section of her post, most readers had the same take on the situation, urging the OP to continue moving forward and not entertain her ex's request to reconcile. 'Say NO,' one person wrote. 'He showed you who he is. You're rebuilding your life. Keep going! Best off without him!' 'Absolutely not!" another agreed. "He's done it once and if you forgive him he'll do it again. He made his bed, now he can lie in it." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. One commenter suggested that she remain civil for the sake of their children and let her ex's "meddling" mom handle the rest. 'Support him (if you wish) for the sake of the kids, but never take him back. He can move in with his mum if she wants him,' they wrote. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
04-06-2025
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
Woman's Ex Tried to Crash Her Vacation. But When He Got to the Airport His Passport Didn't Work and She Knows Why
A woman detailed a recent travel incident that involved her ex-husband trying to crash an international trip she planned with their two kids She explained that she and her ex had a messy divorce and that he owes her unpaid child support Because he's behind on payments, she suspected his passport would be revoked, but she didn't tell him before he got to the airportA woman's ex-husband planned to follow her on vacation, but his trip was foiled after he ran into an issue with his passport. He didn't expect it — but she did. The mom of two shared her story on Reddit's 'Am I The A—hole' forum, retelling how her ex tried to crash an international trip she had planned with their kids. She claims she and her former husband had a messy divorce two years before the incident, alleging he 'began an affair" after the birth of their second child. She says he 'fought me every step and it took over a year to finalize.' While she gained primary custody of their kids, she notes that she still needs her ex's permission to bring them out of the country. Recently, the original poster (OP) shares that she was planning to travel abroad to visit family with her 8-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter. When she told her ex she wanted to go on the trip with their kids, she claims he said he always wanted to visit her family's country and was coincidentally planning to go at the same time as them. 'I was already anticipating this," she writes, "because following us is something he does EVERY time I take the kids on a trip." So she was ready with all the above-board documentation. "My lawyer drafted a document to be signed and notarized that I was being given permission to take our kids out of the country for the specific dates. She also included a clause that he has up until 72 hours prior to the day of travel to revoke his permission. He agreed.' The day of the trip, she arrived at the airport with her kids while her former spouse got there 'much later" only to find out upon trying to check in for the flight that his passport was revoked. While he was stunned by the news, the OP admits, she wasn't totally in the dark as to why that might have been the case. Another result of the divorce, she writes, was that he was ordered to pay child support, which she claims he has 'never done.' She explains that she signed up for enforcement so she doesn't have to 'badger' him about it, but he's still 'so far behind' that enforcement has 'suspended just about everything they can,' the OP writes. 'They send notices to him when this happens, but I'm sure he doesn't open them,' she claims. She later claims in an edit of the post that her ex can afford the payments, but chooses not to. 'Turns out his passport was revoked due to lack of [child support] payment. He was denied at check-in and there's no way he can get his passport reinstated without paying his arrears in full,' she writes. Once he figured out that he wouldn't be able to crash the vacation, she says, "He said that since he can't go, he no longer gives me permission to take [the kids]." In response to which, the OP "Reminded him that we are past the 72 hrs for him to deny my travel request.' 'I don't think I'm the a------ for continuing our trip; but I am questioning whether I'm an a------ for not giving him a heads up that he should check his passport. I didn't know it was revoked for sure, but I suspected,' she writes. In the comments, the majority of users jumped in to tell the mother she didn't do anything wrong. 'It is not your responsibility to keep track of his passport. He would have received official communication of some sort advising of the block on his passport. Disregarding his mail is 100% on him,' one user wrote. Another added, 'Ex needs to put on his big boy pants and read his mail. You aren't his mom,' followed by a different user who echoed, 'Oh darn, the consequences of his actions are catching up to him. You're not his secretary.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. According to the Office of Child Support Services, the U.S. State Department can revoke a passport if a parent owes $2,500 or more in past-due child support payments. It will send the parent a rejection notice in the mail when this happens. If a parent owes $2,500 or more in child support payments, then they are also not eligible to apply for a passport either, according to the State Department's official website. Read the original article on People
