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Yahoo
2 days ago
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5 Unintentionally Rude Things People Do
A lesson for the faux polite people of the world. Rude people either live in a vacuum of self-awareness — or just don't care. I fear I have been 'that guy' a few times. I've unintentionally ruffled feathers and burned bridges in my wake. Heck, I'm sure a few people have said, 'If Sean does that one more time, I will reach across this table." By the end of this article, you will know what to look out for — and how to avoid being an accidental fool. It will help you preserve friendships, and live a better, more seamless life. Getting a gauge on where they are 'really' from Some people are as subtle as a brick through a window. Especially here in the US. If someone is non-white, don't make it into your mission to find out where they are 'really' from. I see this cringefest commonly with Asian-Americans, some of whom have been here for two generations. They talk with no accent and couldn't be more American. But some stranger begins interrogating them like they just stepped off the boat on Ellis Island. The stranger stops just short of asking for their green card. And look — I'm not Mr. Perfect. I'm sure I've done this at some point. It's more out of curiosity as I'm into family heritage stuff. I've now seen it from the outside and realize it's generally a bad look. Questions about a stranger's heritage can wait until you know them a little better. A question that implies there's something wrong My spouse, Laura, says that men used to always ask her, 'So why are you still single?' They often asked it in this curious and doubtful tone — that implied something had to be wrong. 'She must be crazy or have some type of baggage.' If you think about it, that question is loaded with assumptions: that she is looking for a boyfriend, that she's getting rejected because she's broken, and that you know her well enough to ask that type of question. For the record, Laura was one of those women who spent most of her 20s single by choice. Their question was probably just their awkward way of saying she was super attractive. But they unintentionally send bad vibes. Commenting about anything bizarre on their appearance One of my guy friends has dark circles under his eyes naturally. That's just how he looks. Too often, people comment, 'You look tired.' 'Have you gotten sleep, buddy? You look sleepy.' He plays it off like it doesn't bother him. But I can tell it makes him insecure. In general, I'd refrain from commenting about someone's appearance in any negative or neutral light. Don't point out irregularities about their face. That includes telling them they should smile more. This is especially true with women. Years ago, my dad was in the car with me and I was only 10-years-old. We weren't even talking. And just out of the blue he said, 'I don't care how tall, beautiful, ugly, skinny, or fat a woman is — don't ever make a joke about her weight.' I suspect he'd witnessed some cringe. Dining habits from hell There's this habit of slurping amongst otherwise civilized people. They sound like a toddler using a straw for the first time. And I'm not just talking about soup. Literally, any liquid is grounds for a mouth concert. It's the drinking version of hearing someone chew with their mouth open. It also makes the person seem like they are finishing their drink in a frenzy of dehydration. Some people are repeat offenders. They moan in pleasure as they eat and smack their mouth like a cow and then unleash burps. One of my coworkers had this big bag of tortilla-style Doritos. Every day around 11, he sat behind me and spend a solid 20 minutes each day slowly crunching through these chips. Now granted, I know in some countries in Asia, slurping is normal — while blowing your nose in a restaurant would be hugely rude (it generally isn't in the US). I hate hearing the sound of other people eating and consuming food with no effort to conceal the noise. Please have the courtesy to limit the mouth noise. Culture math on our arrival time Years ago, one of my marketing professors, Professor Eric Ritter, told me people judge you by three things: Your personality. The quality of your work. Your punctuality. And it makes sense if you think about it. Some people are on time, have great personalities, but do shotty work. Others do great work, are on time, but total jerks. And there have been plenty of people who I liked and respected greatly, who drove me nuts on their habitual lateness. It's particularly aggravating when meeting someone for lunch or dinner. I don't like writing their tardiness off as being on Island Time. Perhaps this is my military upbringing making me a bit of a stiff. I don't like sitting alone at a lunch table for 15–20 minutes every time we get together. It tells me the other person doesn't respect my time. A friend suggested, 'Just lie to them and say you are meeting 15 minutes earlier than you actually are.' That feels convoluted and dishonest. I don't like doing culture math on the appropriate level of lateness to be. If we are meeting at 6, let's meet at 6. Cool? The worst one of all The Kingslayer unintentionally rude thing that I've had the non-pleasure of witnessing. Asking a woman how 'far along' she is—when she isn't pregnant. If you have to ask, go with something safe like, 'Do you have children?' Or make sure I'm out of earshot so I don't have to cohabitate the cringe grave with you. Stupid Bob to the non-pregnant girl: 'Wow! you look so regnant. When are you gonna pop that thing out?' It makes me want to shrivel up into a ball. Unless you are her doctor, and she is in front of you, in labor, avoid that question. Recap for memory: intentionally rude things people do Slurping and being a loud eater (with cultural exceptions). Commenting on someone's appearance or pointing out any abnormality. Interrogating a minority stranger's 'real' homeland. Being habitually late with no valid excuse. Asking a woman how far into her pregnancy she is. Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
20-07-2025
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Woman Says Husband's Friends Are ‘Rude' After Repeatedly Showing Up at Their House Unannounced
"I don't see why I should keep ignoring my boundaries for rude people," she wroteNEED TO KNOW A woman set a boundary with her husband's friends: they should call before coming over She just prefers a heads-up, in case someone is indecent, in the middle of a task or already with guests "I don't see why I should keep ignoring my boundaries for rude people," she wroteIs it okay to show up at a friend's house without a giving courtesy call first? In a post on Mumsnet's "Am I Being Unreasonable" forum, a woman aired her grievances about her husband's friends repeatedly showing up at their home unannounced. She recognized the cultural and generational influences that could contribute to a misunderstanding, but after setting a boundary with them, they continued to arrive without warning. Twice in two weeks, her husband's friends — a man and his wife — have arrived unannounced at their home. The woman saw them on their Ring doorbell camera, and politely told them, "If you'd had called ahead, I could have told you we were out — give us a call next time." The woman said she was raised to call or text beforehand — just a little "is it OK to pop round in half hour?" message — in case the house's occupants weren't prepared, for whatever reason, to entertain guests. She has the same expectation for her guests, the woman wrote, and let them know. Then, after the woman told them to give a little notice before coming over, the couple again arrived without any warning. "My husband said it was awkward as I didn't let them in, but I don't see why I should keep ignoring my boundaries for rude people," she wrote. At the time, the woman's daughter was still in her pajamas, and the mother knew she "wouldn't be comfortable like that in front of visitors." She, in turn, had just returned home from grocery shopping and was in the midst of putting the food away. But, she noted, if her husband's friends had called ahead, she and her daughter could have prepared for company, as they prefer. The woman stressed the importance of a simple courtesy call. She could be indecent, in the middle of an important task, or already with other guests — it spares everyone an awkward situation, she noted. Commenters generally agreed with the woman, considering she had already told the couple she preferred if they'd give her a heads up they were coming over. However, users urged the woman to set her boundaries early with all guests. While she may have grown up with courtesy calls as the norm, others grew up in open-door-policy houses. Clear communication is a simple way to bridge that gap, one wrote. "I don't think there's anything categorically wrong with popping in to see people but you need to respect their feelings on it — you have made it clear you prefer a heads up," one wrote. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
21-06-2025
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Woman Sparks Debate After Saying People Who Call Repeatedly After Being Ignored the First Time Are ‘Rude'
A woman says she thinks it's 'rude' when people repeatedly call her cell phone 'If I don't answer the first call, what makes them think I'm going to answer the second, third or tenth time?' she wrote on the community forum Mumsnet Readers had mixed opinions on her takeA woman says she thinks it's 'rude' when someone calls her multiple times directly after she doesn't pick up the first time — and it's sparking some debate. The woman detailed her experience in the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site a place where people can go to get input and advice about an array of topics. 'If I don't answer the first call, what makes them think I'm going to answer the second, third or tenth time?' she argued. 'Sometimes I'm having a shower or my phone is in another room [charging], and I'll go to it and there'll be 20 missed calls. Or I might be at work. Any number of reasons why I can't answer,' she continued, adding that it's a 'few certain people' in her life who do this. 'Mobile phones have missed call notifications, so it's obvious that someone will ring back when they can,' she concluded her post. A number of post commenters vehemently agreed with the original poster (OP). 'My phone is for me, for my convenience. I'll answer or call back when I want to, no matter how many times you ring. I really hate being contactable so easily,' one person wrote. 'The more people do that, the more I don't answer,' someone else said. 'If someone called me that number of times without a damned good reason, I would block their number.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Some people, however, said it depends on the situation. 'Generally, yes, but it depends why,' one person wrote. 'If someone is ringing me because I'm 10 minutes late to meet them and they want to know an ETA or whatever, I think it's far more acceptable than if someone is ringing for a chat or something that can wait.' Other community members said they completely disagreed with the OP's perspective, and said they actually take issue with people not answering their phones in the first place. 'I don't find it rude at all if someone rings me. I grew up with landline phone calls and letters. When I was a teenager, the only way to contact someone quickly was by phone call or telegram. I think most of you need to unclench,' one person commented. The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! Another person suggested the OP should perhaps consider having some empathy for the person who's calling, as they might not mean to be rude. "I do this [call repeatedly] — I can't help it. It's an anxiety thing,' they explained. "If people don't answer their phones, I think they are dead … If someone doesn't want to speak to me, that's fine, but a quick message to say, 'I'm busy' is fine. Then I'll leave you alone.' Read the original article on People
Daily Mail
16-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
American woman living in the UK reveals Brits have called her 'rude' for her typical US habits
An American woman living in the UK has revealed the normal habits in the US that would be considered 'rude' in the UK. The woman, who goes by @ yorkshireyank on TikTok, often speaks about the cultural differences between the two countries. She says that it is deemed normal for American citizens to give tours of their houses to guests, showing them where they cook, do laundry and relax in their spare time. 'This is something that I have personally been privy to and I've personally been walked around people's homes,' she said. 'It's just weird and it would be considered rude in this country (the UK).' She then went on to say that is common for waiters and waitresses to take a customer's debit card away from when paying a bill in a restaurant. 'For about a period of five to ten minutes, you have no idea where your card has been, who has touched it and what has happened to your card in that timeframe, she added. 'In the UK, that just doesn't happen. 'They bring the credit card reader to your table and then they do it right in front of you, so there is no chance of anyone skimming your credit card.' The woman, who lives in Yorkshire, said that there is a big difference between table manners in the US compared to the UK. 'A lot of Americans will say that they know their table manners but you don't them like the Brits do, so let's agree to disagree,' she said. The content creator said that people generally find Americans to be louder than Brits and believes it comes down to the difference in tone. 'I think it's because our accent just carries but sometimes being loud is considered rude,' she said. But sometimes being loud is considered rude because you'll be sitting on a train and the first thing you can hear are these American accents. You can hear us before you can see us.' The last point that the TikToker noted was that manners and said that those from the UK will typically say 'thank you' much more than Americans do. 'Now there are some Americans who will say thank you for everything but there is a large chunk of Americans who will go into a store and say "Hey, where's the flour?" not intending to be rude, when in fact, the Brits will see it as rude. 'All you should just be saying is "Please can you tell me where the flour is?" These are just a few of the differences.' Many people commented their thoughts on the TikTok video with some saying that they would enjoy a house tour The woman then asked for commenters to reveal some of the differences they had noticed between how people carry themselves in the States versus the UK. One wrote: 'I'm so nosy so I'd love a house tour.' Another said: 'Whistling to get the bar staff's attention is a big no no in England.' A third penned: 'House tours when you've just moved in is normal.'
