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Telegraph
3 days ago
- Health
- Telegraph
Hospitals are meant to cure and care for our loved ones, not destroy their quality of life
Among the daily cascade of statistics about the state of the NHS lie, as we all know, individual human stories and for some a quiet rage about how hospitals meant to cure and care for patients are destroying their quality of life. Last weekend, we 'celebrated' my older brother's 82nd birthday in a nursing home. Not where he or we had planned to spend it. In early April, he went into a West Midlands hospital with an infection, shortly afterwards diagnosed as pneumonia. He was in a four-bed section of a ward which appeared fairly well-staffed. But despite numbers, it's difficult to do one's job properly or competently when there's a dominant culture of not caring. A father of three and formerly a successful business owner, my brother has had dementia for several years now but, prior to his admission, he had a good quality of life. The pub one day or night a week for a zero beer with old friends and new, who made a fuss of him, meals out, and two days a week at dementia day care. Supported by a number of privately paid part-time carers, my sister-in-law cared for him so well, and he tucked into his food and watched his beloved sport on TV. So, what happened to all that? After four weeks in an NHS hospital, my brother was finally discharged, cured of pneumonia but unable to walk, doubly incontinent and having lost quite a lot of weight. He was not taken to the toilet but kept throughout in 'nappies'. My sister-in-law frequently had to tell staff when his bed was soaking wet. He lost weight because meals were deposited in front of patients – if you were able-bodied you ate, if not, or confused with dementia, the meal just sat there before it was taken away. Only one male nurse we saw made any attempt to help patients eat. Physio was initially offered but only when he was still very ill with pneumonia. When well enough, we asked for physio but were told he hadn't engaged. So, no physio, despite protests. He now sits in a wheelchair in what is an excellent nursing home paid for by his wife, after she discharged him, but the life he had is gone forever. Precious time was wasted at the hospital as unworkable home care packages were proposed. Having fractured her spine last summer lifting my brother from a fall and also recovering from an NHS treatment that has – at least temporarily – worsened her health, my sister-in-law can no longer care for him at home in the state he is now in. It's more than fortunate that she has the funds (for now) to pay for a nursing home. So many others have no choice but to be in the hands of cash-strapped councils. I've deliberately not shared my brother's name to protect his dignity and privacy, nor identified the hospital as a formal complaint will be made. I know that my brother's plight is not unique. But how can we ensure that the elderly and vulnerable, unable to speak for themselves, are not robbed of their mobility, dignity and quality of life as a result of such a short hospital stay. I'm angry and sad in equal measures, and determined to warn others who are older and liable to require hospitalisation, to beware. Your NHS may have some nasty surprises in store. Meanwhile, Secretary of State, it's too late for my brother, but what are you going to do and when to ensure that NHS hospitals are places of safety and prolong rather than shorten a decent quality of life?
Yahoo
4 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Woman Driven 'Mad' by Sister-in-Law's Posts About Dad Who 'Died 10 Years Ago': 'At What Point Is This Just Attention-Seeking?'
"It drives me mad. I've gone so far as to silence her," the woman said A woman is taking issue with her sister-in-law over social media posts she makes about her late father — who died a decade ago. In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said her in-law's dad "died 10 years ago, and yet, it's almost daily, but definitely weekly, she's posting her grief on Facebook." The woman further detailed that her sister-in-law will write about "[how] much she's missing him, how grief is so silent and misunderstood," and it "escalates" on holidays — including Father's Day, Christmas and Easter — as well as "the day he died [and] the day they found out he was ill," plus "her kids birthdays [and] her birthday." "I used to get on with her well, but she's always driven me mad by text and socials," the woman continued. "At what point is this just attention seeking? It drives me mad. I've gone so far as to silence her because I can't bear the 'hope you're okay, hun,' stuff." The Mumsnet user added that her sister-in-law's "behavior has absolutely trashed my opinion of her," and it was exacerbated when she claimed her in-law "even got in competition with a relative of hers raising money for charity, because she had to be the one seen to be doing it and wouldn't collaborate." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. In the comments section of the post, the woman was met with support from others, many of whom suggested that her sister-in-law needs professional aid to help her cope with the loss. "It sounds like she needs some counselling to help her manage her grief," one Mumsnet user wrote, as another said, "This sounds like an abnormal grief reaction. She really needs therapy, if she has not had this already." The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! Others, meanwhile, couldn't help but feel that the woman's sister-in-law was taking things a step too far — and possibly continuing to post about her grief solely to get the reactions she has become accustomed to. "There's a huge difference between missing someone on special occasions or memorable dates and actually posting about it ... No need," wrote a commenter. Said one more: "It may be cruel of me, but I have no tolerance at all for performative or over-sentimental public grief." Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Daily Mail
22-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Bride furious after sister-in-law wears 'white wedding dress' to her big day
A bride was left fuming after her sister-in-law wore a 'wedding dress' to her big day. Taking to the popular Reddit forum Wedding Shaming, an outraged guest shared photos of the woman in question, revealing a floor-length gown with floral detailing. Looking as though she was trying to upstage the bride, the rebellious attendee claimed she was wearing a sage -green dress in accordance with the dress code, which was 'pastel chic'. But the disgruntled bride was not happy, especially as her mother-in-law had already put in a request to wear white, which was denied. The poster wrote: 'The dress code was summer pastel chic, so think Easter colors. 'The girlfriend of the groom's brother wore a sage green (wedding) dress that in no way, shape or form appeared to be sage green, or any other color. 'The veil she's carrying was the flower girl's (her daughter). This was after the mother-in-law had asked the bride if she could wear a white jumpsuit to the wedding, to which the bride obviously said no.' The bride was enraged by the fact that the design of the dress was also bridal - complete with off-the-shoulder sleeves and a romantic, figure-hugging silhouette. To further undermine the claim that the dress was a 'sage' shade, the sister-in-law is pictured wearing green shoes, making the dress look white. The post racked up thousands of comments and sparked a fiery debate, with many shocked on behalf of the bride. One commenter wrote, simply: 'Wow, that's very bridal,' to which another incredulous user responded: 'Yeah this is straight up a wedding dress.' Another wrote: 'I like how her SHOE was sage green. Like, she had a perfect example of what the color is supposed to look like. 'Instead she went about as white as you can go on the color wheel. Wtf. Who thinks this is appropriate?' Some else joked: 'The dress looks like the smell of the color sage from another room.' The majority of commenters could not believe the 'insane' decision to wear 'a full-on wedding gown,' but others sided with the guest. '"Summer Pastel chic" is simply asking for trouble.' 'Honestly yes. So many pastels photograph white or look white under some lighting.' 'I wore a bright-yellow dress with a belt to a friend's wedding. It was so clearly bright yellow, I thought it was a safe choice. Nope! 'A lot of the evening photos were black and white. My dress looked like a wedding dress.' Another comment dished out some seemingly obvious wedding guest advice, writing: 'To be safe, you should never wear any white dress to a wedding that is not yours. 'That being said, not all white dresses are wedding dresses. This is absolutely a wedding dress.'
News.com.au
22-07-2025
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Bride heartbroken after sister-in-law wears wedding dress to her wedding
A bride has shared her frustration after her sister-in-law arrived at her wedding dressed in what looked like a wedding gown. The incident was shared on the popular Reddit forum Wedding Shaming, where an outraged guest posted photos of the offending woman dressed in a white, floor-length gown with floral details, resembling a bride. The guest explained that the woman claimed to be wearing a 'sage green' dress in line with the dress code of 'pastel chic'. However, the bride was visibly upset, especially after her mother-in-law had previously asked if she could wear white, which was denied. Sister-in-law's bridal look 'The dress code was summer pastel chic, like Easter colours,' the poster explained. 'The girlfriend of the groom's brother wore a sage green (wedding) dress that in no way, shape or form appeared to be sage green, or any other colour. 'The veil she's carrying was the flower girl's (her daughter's). This was after the mother-in-law had asked the bride if she could wear a white jumpsuit to the wedding, to which the bride obviously said no.' And it wasn't just the colour that threw people off. The design also appeared obviously bridal, with elegant off-the-shoulder sleeves and a figure-hugging silhouette. And to further contradict the woman's 'sage green' claims, her shoes were actually sage green, which look nothing like the colour of the dress. Commenters weigh in The post amassed thousands of comments and sparked a heated debate, as these posts commonly do, with many commenters feeling sorry for the bride. 'Wow, that's very bridal,' wrote one, as another said: 'Yeah, this is straight up a wedding dress'. 'Some people are insane,' remarked someone else. Another dished out the age-old advice: 'To be safe, you should never wear any white dress to a wedding that is not yours. 'That being said, not all white dresses are wedding dresses. This is absolutely a wedding dress.' Others joked that they thought they were looking at the bride in these photos. 'I was like, 'Cool, so what does the sister-in-law look like?'' quipped one. 'The dress looks like the smell of the colour sage from another room,' laughed another. 'Exactly what I was going to say,' someone else said. 'The poster clearly included pictures of the actual bride for comparison, then forgot to add pictures of the offending sister-in-law … nope'. SIL walks down aisle To add insult to injury, the SIL also ended up walking down the aisle in her bridal look. 'The flower girl is her daughter, but as a cherry on top: the daughter was also the ring bearer and was too nervous to walk down the aisle so guess who walked down with her? Mummy dearest,' the poster added. Some defended the move On the other hand, others argued that the risky dress code was to blame for the fashion faux pas. 'Summer pastel chic is simply asking for trouble,' wrote one. 'Honestly yes, so many pastels photograph white or look white under some lighting,' another pointed out. And someone else revealed they had been caught out by a similar theme. 'I wore a bright yellow floaty pleated dress with a belt to a friend's wedding. It was so clearly bright yellow, I thought it was a safe choice. Nope!' they wrote. While the dress code might be partly to blame, it's clear that most people in the comments agree that the SIL's dress was a poor choice.
Daily Mail
20-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Bride left furious after sister-in-law wears 'wedding dress' to her big day
A bride was left fuming after her sister-in-law wore a 'wedding dress' to her big day. Taking to the popular Reddit forum Wedding Shaming', an outraged guest shared photos of the woman in question, revealing a white, floor-length gown with floral detailing. Looking uncomfortably like a bride, the rebellious attendee claimed she was wearing a sage green dress in accordance with the dress code, which was 'pastel chic'. But the disgruntled bride was not happy, especially as her mother-in-law had already put in a request to wear white, which was denied. The poster wrote: 'The dress code was summer pastel chic, so think Easter colours. 'The girlfriend of the groom's brother wore a sage green (wedding) dress that in no way, shape or form appeared to be sage green, or any other colour. 'The veil she's carrying was the flower girl's (her daughter). This was after the mother-in-law had asked the bride if she could wear a white jumpsuit to the wedding, to which the bride obviously said no.' Aside from the colour, the design of the dress appeared obviously bridal - complete with off-the-shoulder sleeves and a romantic, figure-hugging silhouette. To further undermine the claim that the dress was 'sage green', the sister-in-law is pictured wearing sage green shoes, with which the white dress starkly contrasts. The post racked up thousands of comments and sparked a fiery debate, with many shocked on behalf of the bride. One commenter wrote, simply: 'Wow, that's very bridal,' to which another incredulous user responded: 'Yeah this is straight up a wedding dress.' Another comment dished out some seemingly obvious wedding guest advice, writing: 'To be safe, you should never wear any white dress to a wedding that is not yours. 'That being said, not all white dresses are wedding dresses. This is absolutely a wedding dress.' At first glance, the images tripped many commenters up before they realised what they were looking at. One said: 'I was like "Cool, so what does the sister-in-law look like?"' Another chimed in: 'Exactly what I was going to say. The poster clearly included pictures of the actual bride for comparison then forgot to add pictures of the offending sister-in-law… nope.' A third felt the same, saying: 'My thought before I read the title was, "wow what a beautiful detail shot of the bride and the tablescape"... some people are insane.' Although the rule of avoiding white on someone else's special day seems obvious enough, it is often broken. 'To be safer, as a bride, bring a paintball gun to your wedding,' advised one person. 'No white dresses but the bride. 'This policy will be enforced by the bride via paintball gun. If you do not wish to be painted, please do not wear a fresh white canvas.' Some eagle-eyed followers were quick to spot the difference between the sage green shoes and the supposedly green dress. 'I like how her SHOE was sage green,' said one. 'Like, she had a perfect example of what the color is supposed to look like. 'Instead she went about as white as you can go on the color wheel. Wtf. Who thinks this is appropriate?' A second joked: 'The dress looks like the smell of the color sage from another room.' While holding the flower girl's veil, the sister-in-law's nuptial look goes even further. The poster wrote: 'The flower girl is her daughter, but as a cherry on top: the daughter was also the ring bearer and was too nervous to walk down the aisle so guess who walked down with her? Mommy dearest.' The majority of commenters could not believe the 'insane' decision to wear 'a full on wedding gown,' but others sided with the guest. '"Summer Pastel chic" is simply asking for trouble,' wrote one. 'Honestly yes,' another agreed. 'So many pastels photograph white or look white under some lighting.' A third shared their own story, writing: 'I wore a bright yellow floaty pleated dress with a belt to a friend's wedding. It was so clearly bright yellow, I thought it was a safe choice. Nope! 'A lot of the evening photos were black and white. My dress looked like a wedding dress.' While the memo could be to blame, the comment section is unanimous in their belief that there is no lighting that could redeem the sister-in-law's poor outfit choice.
