Woman's Mother-in-Law Moves in During Her Pregnancy, Says She Is 'Not Making My Pregnancy Pleasant'
A woman who will soon give birth says she was initially excited for the extra help when her mother-in-law moved in — but now, her husband's mom is making life awful
In a post on Reddit, she details how the woman is being overbearing throughout her pregnancy
Now, she's worried she made the wrong decision by agreeing to allow the woman to live with her and her husbandA woman who will soon give birth says she was initially excited for the extra help when her mother-in-law moved in — but now, her husband's mom is making life awful.
In a post shared to Reddit, the woman details how she had only met her mother-in-law five times before the woman moved in, due to her living in China.
From her post: "I have become advanced in spoken Chinese and I have spent years studying both the language and the culture. I am pregnant and will be giving my son a Chinese middle name and raising him in the culture. My MIL will be watching him when I go back to work. In return she lives with us and we cover all of her expenses."
But the experience is not going as planned, with the woman noting that her mother-in-law is "not making my pregnancy pleasant."
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"She is constantly giving me comments about how I shouldn't be drinking cold water or eating cold food because I will kill my baby," she writes. "She thinks he will die if I am too happy, or too anything. I have gently told her that constant feedback of this type makes me anxious but it has not stopped. I am triggered by it as I have had a prior miscarriage and she knows it."
She continues: "I do my best speaking Chinese with her, but she often enters the room and interrupts a conversation my husband and I are having to speak to him in a dialect I don't speak. I know she's talking about me because I recognize my name in this dialect."
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She adds that her mother-in-law invites herself on her dates with her husband, and the two are now struggling to have alone time.
"My husband doesn't want to be the middle guy, which I respect, but I do wish he would stand up for me or set boundaries," she adds.
She continues: "I am [empathetic] to her situation, I truly am, and I feel terrible that I'm so upset. But I am grieving the pregnancy I wanted to have. This is very bad for my mental health and for my marriage. I don't know what to do. It feels like nothing I want matters."
Other Reddit users are urging the woman to stand up for herself, with one writing: "I suggest you let yourself be the bad guy. Step into your own power. Do not be polite when she makes weird comments. Tell her that you would prefer to go on your date alone. You will feel a lot better once you stand up for yourself - better even than if your husband did it (which he should do anyways..)."
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