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Man Kicks Mother Out After She Throws Away Son's Baking Tools: 'That's for Girls'

Man Kicks Mother Out After She Throws Away Son's Baking Tools: 'That's for Girls'

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A man says his mother "threw out" his 14-year-old son's baking supplies
In a post shared to Reddit, the man writes: "My 14-year-old son loves to bake and he is really good at it too"
But his own mother isn't a fan of the hobby, and argues that baking is "for girls"A man is taking to the internet for advice after his mother threw away his son's baking supplies, arguing that baking is "for girls."
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous man writes: "My 14-year-old son loves to bake and he is really good at it too. He started with simple things like cookies, but now he can bake just about anything from bread to pies, even cakes."
"Sometimes friends and people we know will ask him to bake them something and he will charge them a small fee," he writes.
But one person isn't a fan of the hobby: "My mother has always hated the fact that my son loves baking," he revealed.
"She doesn't understand 'what kind of boy enjoys doing things that are meant for girls'. Ironically, his younger sister hates baking. I tried explaining to my mother that there's nothing wrong with my son's love for baking and that she's being sexist, but my mother is stubborn and always makes sure to mention just how much she doesn't approve of it every chance she gets," he adds.
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Recently, his mother visited the family — and when the man came home from work, he found his son "distraught."
"When I asked him what's going on, he told me that he came back from a friend's house only to find that his baking things had disappeared. When he asked his grandma, she just said that now he can find a new appropriate hobby," he writes.
When he asked his mom why she threw away the tools, the man said, "She got rid of them because I was clearly not going to do anything about it and that I was a bad father for allowing it to go on as long as it did."
In total, the man's mom threw out "approximately $200 worth of items collected over a period of time," such as a hand mixer, scale, measuring utensils and pans.
"I told her that the only thing that I have allowed to go on way too long is the constant disrespect for my son and that she needs to apologize to him and either bring back his things right now or replace them," he adds in the post.
When the woman refused to apologize, he told her to leave — and she did. Now, the man's stepdad is weighing in, arguing he's treating his mother poorly.
"I told him that she did this to herself and hung up," he writes.
Other Reddit users are now applauding the man for standing up for his son.
"Your mother's actions were disrespectful and outright theft, aimed at controlling your son's hobby. Protecting your child from her bigotry was absolutely the right call," writes one commenter.
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