I never knew being loud & angry was toxic until Ercan asked me 1 thing during a row – it changed me, says Vicky Pattison

Scottish Sun

04-06-2025

This follow Vicky describing her 'difficult' first year of marriage
TOXIC TRAIT I never knew being loud & angry was toxic until Ercan asked me 1 thing during a row – it changed me, says Vicky Pattison
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VICKY Pattison revealed the one poignant question husband Ercan Ramadan asked her during a petty row which changed her forever.
The reality star, 37, said on Pete Wicks' Man Made podcast how her clothing brand owner partner, 41, has been helping her unlearn 'toxic' habits.
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Vicky Pattison
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Vicky tied the knot with Ercan Ramadan in 2024
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The reality star, pictured on Geordie Shore, shared how she used to 'shout' and be 'angry' - until Ercan made a comment
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She shared: 'I had always saw communication from a very young age, being the child of an alcoholic, communication was loud.
'It's often quite scary but you quickly adapt to that, children do.
'I assumed in a relationship when you loved someone, you shouted basically.
'That's how I communicate, I'm angry, I'm loud and I never thought it was toxic. It was what I assumed you did.'
However, former Geordie Shore star Vicky said everything changed when she had a 'little row' with her then-boyfriend six months into their relationship.
She continued: 'Honeymoon period's over. He's seeing the real me.
'I'm not pretending I like football and kebabs anymore, I'm giving him the full Vicky Pattison experience which is terrifying.
'I remember we had this little row and I instantly escalated it because that's what I did.'
Vicky said that the sentence that Ercan said to her made her rethink her behaviour in relationships.
She explained: 'He stood there really quietly and he looked back and said 'why are you shouting at me when you're meant to love me?'
Vicky Pattison reveals 'difficult' first year of marriage with husband Ercan
'I'm not often speechless and he completely stopped me in my tracks.
'All of my defences, all of my walls, all of my anger, it all just melted away in an instant.
'I was like 'I don't know why', because this is what I have always done and this is what men have always done to me and I didn't know there was another way to communicate even when you loved someone, I thought that's what you did.'
Vicky and Ercan have been together since 2019, and he popped the question in 2022, with the pair tying the knot in Italy in 2024.
Speaking of her husband, the TV and radio star said: 'Ercan's taught me an awful lot about what a healthy relationship should look like, what communication can be, what a man can be.'
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The couple said 'I do' at The Old Marylebone Town Hall in 2024 before an Italian wedding
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TOUGH YEAR
Despite only getting married in August 2024, Vicky has previously opened up about it being a difficult first year.
Speaking to the BBC's Woman's Hour, she said: "I don't think it's how anyone anticipates their first six months of marriage, you know, it's a very alien experience.
"I mean it has been difficult, I have been frustrated, I have been upset and I have been overwhelmed quite a lot.
He [Ercan] stood there really quietly and he looked back and said 'why are you shouting at me when you're meant to love me?'
Vicky Pattison
"So even without thinking about the deepfake itself, I haven't been a joy to live with quite frankly and I do feel for my husband but he's very supportive."
Vicky was referring to her husband supporting her as she faced backlash over her deepfake porn documentary called My Deepfake Sex Tape, which some victims criticised as a 'PR stunt' and 'deeply disrespectful'.
The documentary involved her directing actors to simulate a sex scene, then allowing AI to add her face to the footage.
FUTURE KIDS
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Vicky said Ercan has shown 'what a man can be'
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She previously opened up to OK! Magazine about her views on having children with Ercan.
Vicky shared: 'Everyone thought we'd try for kids quite quickly – so did we! But we're going to enjoy being married, for at least a year.
Ercan's taught me an awful lot about what a healthy relationship should look like, what communication can be, what a man can be
Vicky Pattison
'I'd love a honeymoon first! A little week in the Caribbean would be lovely.
"We're just desperate to sleep in the same bed together.
"I sleep with the dogs and he sleeps in the spare room!'